cassandra54
09-09-2011, 03:38 AM
so there's been lots of threads on these subjects. transgender, cross dressing and is it a hobby or a way of life. well let's see.
many of us have experimented and worn women's clothes all our lives. many of us think it would be cool if we really were women, but don't want to have surgery to do so. many of venture out in public and want to be noticed as women.
we go on to discuss if it is a hobby or way of life. we spend countless hours with wigs, makeup, taking pictures, doing research and signing up for memberships on websites like these.
then after all is said and done, many of don't want to accept the term or label, transgender or think that it may be a way of life. does it really matter? we've spent a lot of time and energy to get to this point only to say we're not. face it people, we are at the very least transgender and if we can accept the term of cross dresser why is it so hard to make the next step?
i understand that most cross dressers are hetero. nothing wrong with that. yes i admit that i am bi, but still 95% of my intimate experiences have been with women. i don't consider myself bi-curious, transvestite, gay or anything else.
i think my point is this. i accept who i am and in a large part because of research and self examination. i compare all the definitions of these terms to what i am and yes, transgender definitely applies. in fact someone pointed out to me that i may be bi-gender or dual gender. but still the fact of the matter to me is: if i dress in women's clothes and i do, and i act like a woman and i do sometimes, and i've spent a lot of time doing these things and go out in public, then i have transcend my gender. hence i am transgender. i've said this before in replying to other threads, i don't have a problem with labels, whether it be left-handed, republican, transgender or bi. i am who i am.
many of us have experimented and worn women's clothes all our lives. many of us think it would be cool if we really were women, but don't want to have surgery to do so. many of venture out in public and want to be noticed as women.
we go on to discuss if it is a hobby or way of life. we spend countless hours with wigs, makeup, taking pictures, doing research and signing up for memberships on websites like these.
then after all is said and done, many of don't want to accept the term or label, transgender or think that it may be a way of life. does it really matter? we've spent a lot of time and energy to get to this point only to say we're not. face it people, we are at the very least transgender and if we can accept the term of cross dresser why is it so hard to make the next step?
i understand that most cross dressers are hetero. nothing wrong with that. yes i admit that i am bi, but still 95% of my intimate experiences have been with women. i don't consider myself bi-curious, transvestite, gay or anything else.
i think my point is this. i accept who i am and in a large part because of research and self examination. i compare all the definitions of these terms to what i am and yes, transgender definitely applies. in fact someone pointed out to me that i may be bi-gender or dual gender. but still the fact of the matter to me is: if i dress in women's clothes and i do, and i act like a woman and i do sometimes, and i've spent a lot of time doing these things and go out in public, then i have transcend my gender. hence i am transgender. i've said this before in replying to other threads, i don't have a problem with labels, whether it be left-handed, republican, transgender or bi. i am who i am.