Katie Lynn
09-12-2011, 09:11 PM
I started this mainly about an event, so I understand if it is moved. The purpose of it being here was to generate some more conversation on the subject and get input from those that have had positive experiences so that others can gain the confidence they need to do something they may dream of.
Not sure if there are any SoCal ravers out there, but if so you should really check out this event. www. nocturnalwonderland .com Sept 23-24
P.L.U.R. - PEACE.LOVE.UNITY.RESPECT.
If you want to go dressed then go for it. I'd say you probably want to at least somewhat be passable as there will be 40k other people there and while PLUR exists among the majority, there are always idiots out there. That said, I see bad crossdressers at raves all the time and have seen a handful of problems. When there was a problem, you would be surprised how quickly an army of ravers will come to your defense (that was an amazing thing to watch). What you have going for you is thousands of other girls running around in skimpy outfits. Its a place to be sexy without looking way to out of place. And hey, if you look out of place who really cares? Its a party, it will be dark all night, you may just find yourself on the middle of the dance floor realizing that no one cares what you look like. It could be a really uplifting experience.
I will be there dressed both nights, very appropriately sexy ;). I regularly go out, and don't have much of a problem passing. Plenty of raves and never a problem with anyone.
If anyone is interesting in going it would be cool to have some people together. Dressed or not, it would be cool to meet up. I would suggest that if you are confident with your look then you should feel free to come dressed knowing there will be people with you that have your back.
I can remember my first few, intense to say the least. At that time I wasn't really what I would call passable, maybe to a lot of other people, but not my standards. My hair was grown out and I was just as tiny as I am now, but I didn't have the "look" or "attitude" down. I started with a big halloween party and never looked back though. After that I hit another big party with a few thousand people and at that time realized "its going to be ok, this is how it should be when I party". Walking around a party being checked out, dancing and grinding on the dance floor, living it up to the music, and doing it feeling like yourself...doesn't get much better.
Now, how many other people out there have been to raves or big parties dressed? How did it go for you? Any interesting tips or experiences you would like to share with people. Its one thing to go to a gay bar dressed, its another experience when you hit the public that isn't looking for you.
On that note, something to remember: When you go to a gay club it may give you that sense of being out and having fun, but you are also in a place where people are expecting cds and are far more likely to point you out. If you hit a real club/party and are somewhat passable, you will find out quickly that everything is fine. People dont just look around for people dressed as the opposite gender. Even if they did, how many have the guts to say something with the possibility that you are just a manly looking woman? I've found that in going out anywhere, the biggest problem you will have to deal with is yourself.
Not sure if there are any SoCal ravers out there, but if so you should really check out this event. www. nocturnalwonderland .com Sept 23-24
P.L.U.R. - PEACE.LOVE.UNITY.RESPECT.
If you want to go dressed then go for it. I'd say you probably want to at least somewhat be passable as there will be 40k other people there and while PLUR exists among the majority, there are always idiots out there. That said, I see bad crossdressers at raves all the time and have seen a handful of problems. When there was a problem, you would be surprised how quickly an army of ravers will come to your defense (that was an amazing thing to watch). What you have going for you is thousands of other girls running around in skimpy outfits. Its a place to be sexy without looking way to out of place. And hey, if you look out of place who really cares? Its a party, it will be dark all night, you may just find yourself on the middle of the dance floor realizing that no one cares what you look like. It could be a really uplifting experience.
I will be there dressed both nights, very appropriately sexy ;). I regularly go out, and don't have much of a problem passing. Plenty of raves and never a problem with anyone.
If anyone is interesting in going it would be cool to have some people together. Dressed or not, it would be cool to meet up. I would suggest that if you are confident with your look then you should feel free to come dressed knowing there will be people with you that have your back.
I can remember my first few, intense to say the least. At that time I wasn't really what I would call passable, maybe to a lot of other people, but not my standards. My hair was grown out and I was just as tiny as I am now, but I didn't have the "look" or "attitude" down. I started with a big halloween party and never looked back though. After that I hit another big party with a few thousand people and at that time realized "its going to be ok, this is how it should be when I party". Walking around a party being checked out, dancing and grinding on the dance floor, living it up to the music, and doing it feeling like yourself...doesn't get much better.
Now, how many other people out there have been to raves or big parties dressed? How did it go for you? Any interesting tips or experiences you would like to share with people. Its one thing to go to a gay bar dressed, its another experience when you hit the public that isn't looking for you.
On that note, something to remember: When you go to a gay club it may give you that sense of being out and having fun, but you are also in a place where people are expecting cds and are far more likely to point you out. If you hit a real club/party and are somewhat passable, you will find out quickly that everything is fine. People dont just look around for people dressed as the opposite gender. Even if they did, how many have the guts to say something with the possibility that you are just a manly looking woman? I've found that in going out anywhere, the biggest problem you will have to deal with is yourself.