How many here are the first child or only children, and how many are not?

[Lynn Marie]

Hearing a piece on NPR about first born and only children this morning got me thinking. Not something I do very often! Which led me to the query in the title of this thread. I'll tally the answers when the thread starts getting cold.

My thinking is that possibly as only children we had way too much time on our hands to fantasize, experiment, and dress up! And that's the cause of our wonderful malady!

[bridget thronton]

First born - one male sibling

[Nikki A.]

First born , only child till 18

[Annaliese]

Third born two older brothers and one younger sister

[Cheryl T]

Only here...sometimes wish I had a sister...

[Taylor186]

I am the youngest of two.

[Longing2be-Trisha]

youngest of three, have older brother an sister!

Hugs

[Barbara Jo]

Middle child with two sisters here. :battingeyelashes:

[Tina B.]

3rd out of 4, girl, ,boy me,and boy. but enough years between us, I did have a lot of time alone. Back in the fifty's in parts of southern California kids going to school half day was not unusual, and it was the younger ones that did.
Tina B.

[RachelPortugal]

Middle child with elder brother and younger sister.

[denese]

only chilld. han many female friends

[Sally810]

First born here, spent a lot of time alone while stashed with my grandmother.

[Katie83]

First born, have a younger sister, only by 2 years though, didn't have much time to myself but still started dressing.
Katie

[Jeninus]

First born of four: me, then sister 3 1/2 years later, then brother when I was 8 , then sister when I was 10. I "knew" when I was between 3 and 4 y/o.

[Debb]

Firstborn. I have three brothers.

[Ameli]

baby here. Two older brothers.

[BlondeFarrah]

i am only children. I also wish I had a sister

[betty1253]

I also am an only child.

Betty

[sue ellan]

oldest of three. one brother and one sister.

sue ellan.
life is like a roll of tp. the closer to the end the faster it goes

[Karren H]

Looks top me like a trend!!! First and only child's like to respond to this thread more than the others! Lol.

First born btw...

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Lynn Marie, First born then a sister, brother and another sister.

Orchid

[rachellegsep]

Also an only child here.

[pennyma]

Middle child 2brothers

[Alberta_Pat]

First, followed by a sister and brother at 2 year intervals, then two more brothers 14 years later.

[Prissy Linda]

I was an only child for 9 years then came two sisters, so I was also the first born.

[NicoleScott]

I have a sister 2 years older, and a brother 6 years older. Just the three of us.

[Cynthia Anne]

Number five of nine! Perhaps Dad had too much time on his hands!!!:D Hugs!:brolleyes:

[Belinda Gail]

First born of 3. Brother and sister.

[Stevann]

First born of 7. Two brothers and four sisters.

[susancheerleader]

I am the first born child.
But I am not the only. I have two other sisters. On born a year after me. The other, two years after me. So. In a nutshell.
When I was 3. My middle sister was 2, and the youngest was 1.

My mother NEVER gave me any form of girly clothing or anything girly.
But, being with two girls that WERE getting the girly clothes, etc. I am sure that contributes to my desire to try wearing their clothes.
I did, and the rest is history. (With A LOT of speed bumps!)

[Eryn]

Only child. Also only grandchild on both sides. Yes, I was spoiled!

[Inna]

Even though I am the first born I am the youngest :facepalm:

[Suzette Muguet de Mai]

One and only Me, so I am the first, middle and last. Although counting my female side I am one of two, relative to who I am at the time I say.

[Kaz]

First born, one brother and one sister, in that order.

[Savannah Daniels]

Older. Have brother, five years younger...

[Staci G]

I am the oldest of 4, by about 8 years so yeah maybe!?!?!?

[Leanne2]

Fifth out of eight. I had no privacy. Six of us boys slept in one bedroom. Remember the Waltons? Leanne

[CO_Bobbie]

Only child of the first marriage

[sissystephanie]

I am a second child!! My sister is 2 years older than I, and she does not know that I am a CD! At least I don't think she does!! BTW, started my crossdressing with her panties!!

[Torrey]

Both first born & only...first born to my birth mother & raised as an only child by adoptive parents...

[RenneB]

Only child for the first six years and yep, had plenty of time on my hands. Back in those days, parental involvement meant feeding me when I was hungry and that's about it. At 4 I was walking to kindergarten alone on the sidewalk about half a mile. As they say in that song, not only was it a different time, it was a very different world.

Started dressing back when I was 5 and I can still remember the day it all happened. You know, that ... wow, I've got to wear that pink dress of my neighbors. I know, at 5 can you believe it? But it's true. Later two siblings came along but we were so far apart in ages by then, we didn't do anything together.

Renne.....

[brassieres]

First born, younger brother.

[Vickie_CDTV]

Only child, spent most of my childhood in an isolated rural area with no friends, clinging to my mother. It is not a surprise I am a TV

[Leslie Iz]

I am the baby in my family with three older sisters, go figure.

[Kaitlyn26]

I'm my mother's first child. I have at least one half sibling that I know of. Probably a few other half siblings. Does that make me an only child maybe?

[Danni Renee]

First and Middle! I am the middle child of my mother (10 years between me and my oldest sister and 2 years to my youngest sister) but my father's first child.

Danni

[Diana Bain]

Only child....well that's what I thought until I was 53 and my mother told me I had a half brother who was a year and a half older.................MOTHER!

[Suzie S.]

Only child here! :) Got more presents for birthdays and Christmas! :heehee:

[richelle1]

# 3 born. I have all brothers.

[Andrea's Lynne]

first born here. Younger brother and even younger sister (by 8 years)

[Juanita O]

older brother than 15yrs apart

[Maria 60]

Second child 7 year older sister.

[morgan51]

First of 4 one sister and 2 brothers

[Alaceann]

Only child till I was 10 yrs. old then a little sister who I love very much.

[noeleena]

Hi.

Two half brothers. one 19 years older tho no contact. to my Mothers first husband who drowned some 70 years ago. my other half brother some 20 to 22 years older to my so called father;s first wife. iv never seen or know apart from one pic taken some 67 to 70 years ago, & info is not clear.

My Mother & i left my father at age 5, & i have no memory of those first 6 years of life, so not a only child yet i was, Mom passed away 37 years ago , so called farther passed on 13 years ago. & im 64,

...noeleena...

[StephanieC]

Firstborn. I have three brothers that survived and one that did not (my namesake).

-stephani

[renee k]

Only child.

Renee

[SabrinaDanielle]

First born, oldest of three. was left to my own devices quite a bit, had a rich fantasy life. No dressing, but wanted to be a girl quite a bit

[Meg East]

Oldest of three. I have a younger brother and sister.

[Emme]

Middle child, 1 brother 5 years older and 1 brother 5 years younger.

[Annajose]

Hi, I am number 4 of 8, and as far as I know I am the only crossdresser in the family.

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

First born, then 3 brothers and two sisters!

[ChanDelle]

I was an only child. Always wanted a sister or daughters, but got neither.

ChanDelle

[Aprilrain]

i was the baby. 2 olders sisters

[Davina99]

youngest of 5. Two older sisters. One much older brother and one very, very slightly older twin brother.

[Farrah Rose]

second of four, older brother two younger sisters.

[BrendaAlexandra]

The only child. So were both of my parents.

[Julogden]

I'm the oldest surviving child, mom had triplet girls three years before me, but they were premature and died within 24 hours of birth. I have one brother, 6 1/2 years younger. I spent almost my whole childhood from birth to about 4 or 5 without close friends and had to play by myself most days until then. When I was 4 or 5, people with young kids moved in next door and I then had someone else to play with. I definitely wanted to be a girl by then because I remember dressing up with the neighbor girl who was about my age.

Carol

[Jeannie]

Third born and the baby boy of the family. I am between sisters and to hear them tell it I was always treated as the baby in the family. It wasn't my fault I got treated that way it just was.

[Adrienne Heels]

An only child.....and my mother always used to tell everyone she wanted a dughter, not a son.....

[Coreyincs]

first born of 5 with two half brothers and two half sisters

[flatlander_48]

Only child for my first 16 years, then my brother was born...

[PretzelGirl]

First and Middle! I am the middle child of my mother (10 years between me and my oldest sister and 2 years to my youngest sister) but my father's first child.

Now that will mess with the statistics!

My family went girl, boy, me, girl. So 2 1/2 girls and 1 1/2 boys. :D

[trisha11]

I was the first born child

[Trish]

First child, one brother six years younger.

[mandycoxx]

First born here with 2 younger brothers.

[Carroll]

I am the oldest and the only boy

[krisinpink]

first born three younger siblings

[Mary Morgan]

First born. Me, sister, brother, sister.

[Stephanie47]

My brother is fourteen months older. My sister is twelve years younger, so I really grew up in the formative years as the second child. After having a male first my mother wanted a girl. Surprise! I've always wondered if that desire had an effect on me. Maybe transmitting that desire to me when I was in her womb?? Some say a child may favor foods the mother ate during pregnancy. Music mom may have listened to. Maybe the idea is not as far fetched as it sounds?

[DanaM64]

My family went girl, boy, me, girl. So 2 1/2 girls and 1 1/2 boys. :D

I'm with Sue.... girl, boy, me, girl...

Might add older sis is ftm, boy is manly man and lil sis is girly girl... So 2 out of 4 had it right! ;)

[JenniferR771]

2nd born. Brother, me, brother

[Sharon B.]

Third born to my mother, fifth born to my father

[Kathryn_Cox]

Second of six, one elder brother, then sister and then twin sisters

[Kathryn_Cox]

Sorry missed the second brother he comes after me

[Lynn Marie]

Hi gurls, thanks so much for participating.

In 3 days, with 85 replies, I calculate 56 only or first born, and 29 with older siblings.

There was a bit of a rush of older siblings towards the end, and as Karen claims maybe only and first borns may be more inclined to reply. I really don't see why that would be true. What difference does it make. Are the only children and first born so vain that they would be prone to bragging about it. Hard to imagine.

So with the results almost 2 to 1 in favor of the only children and first born, I'm inclined to feel that our time alone allowed us to explore our own sexuality a little more than the other group, and of course the internet opened up our closets.

I had a feeling that the results would be something like this. In fact, I thought it might even be weighted more heavily towards the only and first borns.

[sharli61]

only child and also had mostly female friends growing up.

[BRANDYJ]

Middle child with 2 older brothers and then younger sister and younger brother. Today only my next oldest brother and my youngest brother are alive. My sister died with brain cancer about 12 years ago. My oldest brother died on July 4th this year. My dad died when I was only ten and my mother died when I was only 16. I was never close with any of them other then my bext oldest brother that lives only 10 miles away. But have not talked to him in over 3 years since I foolishly told him I was a CD. His over the top religious beliefs would not allow someone like me in his life. And he calls himself a Christian? Glad I'm not like him. Sorry got off track.
But I can tell you this...My mom definately favored me and came to me with family issues before she would ever talk to my older brothers. She was a remarkable, strong, brave woman. I often wondered if my being transgendered made her and I closer.

[babs816 GG]

My CD SO is an only child.

B

[PretzelGirl]

There was a bit of a rush of older siblings towards the end, and as Karen claims maybe only and first borns may be more inclined to reply. I really don't see why that would be true. What difference does it make. Are the only children and first born so vain that they would be prone to bragging about it. Hard to imagine.

It is the way you posed the start of the question. "How many here are the first child or only children,". After seeing how responses go on this forum, the fact that there are people who skim the subjects means that those that seem directly addressed in a question are more likely to answer. It is kind of like if you say "CDers only" in a subject would probably make others pass even reading it unless they read everything.

Then you have the issue of what is the standard. If you had an even distribution, all of the only children will be first born (duh), half of those from a two child family, a third of those from a three child family, and so on. So your results just from that will be heavily skewed to the oldest.

But so much for being a wet blanket. These kinds of "surveys" are fun because there are always some interesting and creative responses.

[Intertwined]

Number five of nine!
We Are Borg, Resistance Is Futile...!


In 3 days, with 85 replies, I calculate 56 only or first born, and 29 with older siblings..

Cool, sorry I missed the tally, still going to add mine, " Only Child " & " I was adopted ". Slightly interesting twist, hu?

[Lynn Marie]

So with 6 additional replies in 4 days, we are at 59 only or first born, and 30 with older siblings. This only further reinforces my previous conclusion of a 2 to 1 ratio.

I have no idea what real significance there is to such a survey, but I do find it interesting. The NPR program stated that only and first born children normally have IQ's higher than normal. With all the talented CDers that I meet on the forum and socially, this would definitely seem to be the case.

[Kathy4la]

First born ... one sister ten years later

[xcdmargo]

first born here and was joined by 4 brothers a couple of years later

margo

[Jennifercrossdress]

I was the 2nd born of two boys. Three years apart.

[Miss Maxine]

Maxine and Manny are an only child. I am a Gemini, so one of me is plenty enough. I'm like a bogo deal. ^_~

[Valerie1973]

Count me in too as an only child. My pops was a rolling stone and mom and I where close, I admit I was kinda a mommas boy. So I had plenty of free time as a child to learn and develop Valerie. However, a good friend of mine is an only child too and does not have one cross-dressing bone in his body.

[Marie-Elise]

First born here...with a younger sister.

[Connie D50]

4th of 8 :) goes boy -girl-boy me all within 5 years (yes mom very busy)

[dutch-anita]

first born AND last born so I guess I am the only one.....

[kaitlincd]

I'm an only child - always wished I had a sibling.

[StephanieDragg]

youngest of six children, (I had two older sisters, 3 older brothers)

[Heelsnlegs]

I'm firstborn, with 5 years between myself and my next oldest brother. I have two brothers. I spent a lot of time with my Mother, who had the style of an Audrey Hepburn or Jackie Kennedy (she would have been first lady at the time). Hmmmm, makes me wonder!

[Rachel Mari]

Youngest of 11. Five brothers (two died before I was born) and five sisters. 10 years difference between me and the next brother with three sisters inbetween.

[VioletJourney]

First born, one younger brother.

[BrittM]

Only child, and I wouldn't have had it any other way!

[Leslie Langford]

Another only child here...and also lacking an extended family because my father was an only child himself.

We emigrated to North America when I was 5, and gradually lost touch with our relatives overseas, so except for some childhood friends, I grew up pretty much in isolation from that perspective. I was also a latch-key kid from an early age onwards, which gave me ample opportunity to experiment with my mother's clothes when I came home to an empty house after school.

I have two main regrets about this which impacted directly on my crossdressing:

1) I never had an older sister whose clothes I could try on as well, as they would have been more age-appropriate than my mother's - although she had a great sense of style herself and loved to wear high heels. :sad:

2) My grandparents came to live with us for a brief period while I was between the ages of 11 - 13, so they were always around even when my parents were at work. This also happened to coincide with the "sweet spot" during which time my mother and I were approximately the same height and her clothing and shoe sizes were identical to mine. Talk about enforced missed opportunities - Aaaarrrrrgh!!!! :eek: :doh: :angry: :sad: :thumbsdn:

[Loni]

not the first, my sister is one year older.

[Joanna Maguire]

I too am an only child. My mother dressed me in a white frilly dress when I was 7yrs old. Hated it at first Then began to love being a girl. No one regonised that I was not a girl in those days when she took me out shopping etc. I wore my mothers nightie and corsets too secretly. My mother was a fashionable woman. I began as a Cd after I left home and began buying my own feminine clothing. I know now that my mother would have rather a girl baby than a boy !:battingeyelashes:

[DebbieL]

First born, My father was an only. Younger brother and younger sister.

[Diane Smith]

I am an only child. My mother was also an only child, so my extended family, such as it is (six cousins, one now deceased) are all on my dad's side, and none live closeby. As a lifelong single without children of my own, and now that both parents are gone, I have essentially no family.

- Diane

[Teddie]

I'm an only. But, with a number of cousins.

[Jenny B]

i'm a first born with a younger brother

[Wendae]

Only child and happy about it!

[sometimes_miss]

Not. I'm the younger of two children, my sister is four years older than I am. Idolizing her life (the 'grass is always greener' syndrome) was part of what strongly influenced my development into a crossdresser.

[Acastina]

Third son, four and two years junior, with very butch sister 13 months younger. Mom had a fifth child who died shortly after birth. I've seen some interesting data about second and third sons having TG/gay propensities, and more regarding how the brain gets wired for such things as gender identity and sexual orientation. Basically, misdelivery of crucial hormonal cocktails to the fetus at crucial times. Too much to elaborate here, but fascinating in the way it potentially explains every gender variant, from hyper-butch gay men to lipstick lesbians to folks like us...

[*Vanessa*]

I am third with two other sibs. All of us have absolutely nothing to do with the other for many years.

[Tess]

Middle child here but was the baby for 13 years until my sister came along.

[Lynn Marie]

Thought this thread was dead yesterday!

Okay, my latest tally is:

76 for the first or onlys.........and...........39 for the older siblings

Still pretty close to a 2 to 1 ratio.

[NicoleScott]

Lynn Marie, I commend you for tackling this project, doing the work, and for reporting your results to us. You didn't say why, but I guessed that you were looking for a trend, as many others have done in the past (were you raised only by your mother, are you left-handed, parents divorced, play the guitar...etc...). If only it were that easy to figure out why we crossdress. I'm not a statistician, but I think to draw any valid conclusions, we would need to know answers to the same question from the general popluation (and maybe, of just men, although a few gg's may have responded). Interesting, though.

[BiancaEstrella]

My brother is eight years older than me. We're like night and day.

[Dami]

I was first born, I have a sister 2 years younger than me.
I don't think it had anything to do with me dressing up though.


Dami Michelle

[xd-tigger]

I'm not an only child or the first born, but i was the first born son into our family with pretty much only women as company, so that probably goes some way into my dressing.

[paulaloha]

I am a first born as well, I have one younger sister and she is a year and a half younger than me.

I don't know if she was the primary reason I started dressing, I just know that I started off wearing her outfits when I was 4 or 5.
So I can honestly say without the inspiration of her clothes at least I may not have started dressing.

Still don't know what made me want to start, I have just always found it interesting to dress.

[Charleen]

One and only here..................................

[LoriFlores]

1st born with sister a year younger (the source of my early female clothing), and a little brother 5 years younger. My sister, who was about my size, was the unknowing provider of a tutu (first female clothing worn), panties, tights, and leotards for my early fore into cross dressing.

[donnatracey]

First born with 1 brother and sister......

[Kat42]

#1 NOT!

#2 of 4. FWIW

[Diane Smith]

Thought this thread was dead yesterday!

Okay, my latest tally is:

76 for the first or onlys.........and...........39 for the older siblings

Still pretty close to a 2 to 1 ratio

This is not statistically significantly different from the prevalence of first born children in the general population, given modern demographic trends toward small families. And since small families tend to correlate with affluence, if you controlled for the typical income and education level of the participants here, it might even be a little bit less than you would expect from chance.

About 60% of ALL children in the First World are first borns, as well as about 80% of the students at Harvard.

- Diane

[Sensei86]

First born with 4 years younger sister.

[MovieTheaterLad]

First year here...

Huh... this is prettyodd, how many firsters are here.

[blue_melody]

Middle of 3 siblings

[Miss Informed]

Middle child here. Older brother and younger sister by about 2 years on both sides.

[Leslie Langford]

An only child.....and my mother always used to tell everyone she wanted a dughter, not a son.....

...and does she now know that she did get her daughter after all? :eek::heehee:

As the ancient Chinese curse puts it: "Be careful what you wish for - you might just get it!" :doh: :heehee: :D

[Ellyn]

Youngest of 4 Two boys , two girls.

[Margo Paulse]

Number nine of fifteen here. Lots of middle children in my family.

[Lynn Marie]

Die Evil Thread!!!!!!!!!!!!

The final count today is 82 first or onlys, and 51 with older siblings.

I quote from Diane Smith:

"About 60% of all children in the First World are first borns, as well as about 80% of the students at Harvard."

Sorry, but I just don't feel this thread proved a darn thing. Oh well, you never know til you try. Thanks for all the responses. No great enlightenment here! LOL

[Berta82]

Another only child here.

[danaillecd]

1st born with bother,sister,younger brother

[Leslie Langford]

Die Evil Thread!!!!!!!!!!!!

The final count today is 82 first or onlys, and 51 with older siblings.

I quote from Diane Smith:

"About 60% of all children in the First World are first borns, as well as about 80% of the students at Harvard."

Sorry, but I just don't feel this thread proved a darn thing. Oh well, you never know til you try. Thanks for all the responses. No great enlightenment here! LOL

It would have been interesting to combine this poll with one asking how many of us were Geminis as well to see the degree of overlap. I would suspect a strong correlation between the two...

I, for one, am both a Gemini and an only child. Needless to say, my fate as a transgendered individual was sealed form Day 1... :eek: :doh: :heehee: :D