SO reactions to some aspects of CDing

[Katie83]

Yesterday i was talking to my wife, not about CDing, and i became aware that she was studying my hair or something, i asked her what she was looking at, she said about my eyebrows, she knows i pluck them, she said she didn't think i should thin them out any further. I said ok as i'm happy with there current shape.
This got me thinking. What would her reaction be if she found out about tucking? Is it perhaps going too far? I love the results so i wouldn't want to stop that.
I'm curious what other girls SOs think of tucking especially and their initial reactions as my wife may find out and i'd like to know what to expect!
Thank you.
Katie

[Karren H]

Where you store your private parts when not in use seems like its personal and no one else's business. Can't imagine how she would find out?

[linda allen]

Yesterday i was talking to my wife, not about CDing, and i became aware that she was studying my hair or something, i asked her what she was looking at, she said about my eyebrows, she knows i pluck them, she said she didn't think i should thin them out any further. I said ok as i'm happy with there current shape.
This got me thinking. What would her reaction be if she found out about tucking? Is it perhaps going too far? I love the results so i wouldn't want to stop that.
I'm curious what other girls SOs think of tucking especially and their initial reactions as my wife may find out and i'd like to know what to expect!
Thank you.
Katie

You haven't told us if she knows about your crossdressing. That's important.

When you talk of "tucking", are you just sticking it between your legs or are you taping it or using some other elaborate proceedure? Do you do this all the time or only when you're "dressed"?

Me. I think your wife would find this pretty strange if you're not dressed as a female at the time.

[kimdl93]

I don't think the tucking should be an issue, since its unlikely to be noticed unless at an intimate moment...in which case, I'd suggest making the appropriate adjustments in advance.

[deebra]

I agree with Karen that it's personal and tucking should be up to you and she doesn't have to approve every little personal thing, HOWEVER if she sees you in panties or tight girly jeans and that area is perfectly flat and looks female then she's going to think that area is female and not what the man I married is suppose to look like. Panties aren't made to contain the extra room a "package" requires and when panties or a thong are worn the male should be tucked if he is trying to present as female, one member on this forum likes for his maleness to show under panties' and thats o.k.' it's what you want. A good tight tuck under panties makes your "mental state" change and you see yourself as being more female, the panties feel even more feminine, sensual and comfortable because they are now caressing the same flat area they were made to cover on a gg. Some smart women can accept this and want their mate to look as good dressed as they can and not weird by having a bulge in fem jeans or skirt. My advise, make the bulge go away gradually and see how she handles it, if she's not around tuck, it's the right way to wear panties.

[Katie83]

My wife knows i crossdress, but so far has not seen Katie. But alot of what Katie wears does tend to be tighter, leggings, skinny jeans, figure hugging skirts and dresses so it not being visible would be noticeable.
As for tucking i mean the two go back inside abdomen, and the one goes underneath.
Katie

[Kathy4ever]

Does she see you in these jeggings or pants? If she has seen you wear them I would say she knows. Since you are wearing tight pants the bulge would definetly show. I tuck between my legs all the time. I hate those tight pants and showing the bulge. My wife has not said a word.

[DebbieL]

Katie,
If that's your real picture, I suspect your wife already knows. She may be waiting for you to tell her so she can work with you, or she may be quite content to have that be "your thing". She may also want to help you get past "CD Puberty", that period when your makeup looks clownish, your wardrobe looks ****tish, and your posture and walk look mannish. In the picture, you've plucked them to pencil thin.

Bringing up your eyebrows was a very non-threatening way to let you know that she knows, accepts, and wants to support you.

I suspect your marriage may be about to take a delightful turn.

[ReineD]

If you're interested in a GG's POV (albeit a liberal one), I can perfectly understand the concept of tucking while dressed in tight clothing. A CD presenting as a woman does not want to appear as a man who wears feminine clothing.

But, if it is constant tucking even when not necessary, such as in guy mode whether or not there is underdressing involved or under a loose skirt, even though it is none of my business, it would make me question if my husband despised his male anatomy. This would point to having a degree of gender dysphoria, which is a description of a TS more than a CD. I would then wait for the other shoe to drop, such as wanting HRT and androgen blockers. The same with body hair. I understand wanting to shave the hair that shows when dressed, but if a CD despises all his body hair and wants a woman's all-over smooth skin all the time in order to feel better about himself, this also points to a degree of GID and it would raise the same questions. I would believe my husband if he told me that he is a man and he does not plan to become a woman, but I would rely on blind faith and I would experience a feeling of unease.

You know? It would be as if there is a disconnect since the words wouldn't match the actions.

In terms of the eyebrows, or if you have long nails, long hair, pierced ears, clipped arm hair, etc (like my SO), again I understand the need for the purpose of presenting convincingly as a woman. I realize that eyebrows or arm hair can't be plucked and trimmed on the Saturday and then grow back for the Monday only to be trimmed again on the following Friday, but still there is always background noise in my mind over the possibility that certain people (not everyone) will think my SO is effeminate. It is not such a great unease for me to say anything about it to my SO, especially since it is his body and not mine, but still it is there especially when my sons are around.

I know I'm a GG and I don't see it the same way as perhaps the majority of the CDers here, but since it is impossible for me to know what it feels like to be transgender and I have no way of knowing where is the line between CD and TS, it does feel sometimes as if there is a real possibility that one day things will ramp up even though we're not there yet. It sometimes feels as if I don't know what will jump out of the shadows at me.

I honestly believe that many GGs feel this way, even the accepting GGs like me. I don't visit these fears very often because they are uncomfortable, but they do lurk in the background. I dare say that for many GGs, the fears are always in the foreground if their husbands tuck and shave everything all the time.

Sorry for the long post.

[Carol A]

My wife perchased me a nice pair of leggings and when I put them on and was totally dress she said "very very nice but jr. needs to be tucked away better or wear a girdle".