Crossdressing and Sexual Confidences

[Want2bPretty]

(I don't know if something along this lines has been asked before, though if it has had i apologise.)

As i mentioned in my introduction thread, i'm 28 years old and for as long as i can recall have been drawn to women's clothing (which i have really rather just tried to suppress). So i'm starting to think i really need to start addressing these thoughts rather then continue to suppress them.

I have to admit also that when it comes to the opposite sex, i have always been rather unconfident and uncomfortable with dealing (and thus i'm still a virgin at 28). I'm just wondering, if addressing the crossdressing urges, etc will possible help with regards with this as well. Has anyone experienced anything like that themselves? or ...?

[bridgiit s]

hiya want2bpretty, u r pretty as u feel, my xdressing makes me feel safe n relaxed in my soul, n is important part of my being, i am not a virgin but i am not perfect either, i love the sheer expanse of choice girls have in their appearance n like to grab some of that by dressing as i like and feel but it does make me outside accepted social practice but what the heck

[Marie-Elise]

think crossdressing or rather accepting myself as a crossdresser boosted my confidence. GGs, I think, respect a man who is confident and knows what he wants. Coming out to my wife has boosted my confidence overall. With regards to women, I have noticed that they seem to notice my confidence and, in turn, have been more flirty with me. But, as always, your mileage may vary.

[ArleneRaquel]

My crossdressing has made me more sexual active, but in ways that I would never had expected.

[Kate Simmons]

If it means getting in touch with yourself and your feelings and getting to know who you are as a person, then yes I'd say it would help. There is no "magic bullet" when it comes to CDing. People do it for different reasons but if the desired result is achieved then I guess the process has accomplished it's particular purpose for them. :)

[Cynthia Anne]

Once you get to know yourself and except yourself your confidence grows! For me it was very fast! I may be a poor ol' country girl, but I have confidence that I can tackle anything that comes my way! This site has boosted me in such a good way! Best to you! Hugs!

[kimdl93]

People find confidence attractive. I don't know think you should keep look to cding as a solution to a lack of self esteem. You might start try getting out and interacting with people in volunteer groups or charitable efforts as a way to develop more confidence in your ability tosocialize.

[Tina B.]

Maybe if you get out and about, stay in the closet, and you become a recluse.
Tina B.

[JamieG]

I actually think it was the other way around for me. Getting married (and everything that is entailed therein) allowed me to gain confidence in myself which in turn made me more comfortable with my crossdressing. In a way, I had "proven" myself in a man, so it didn't matter if I was effeminate in various ways. Eventually winning my wife's support has also gone a lone way to helping me be positive about crossdressing. Now don't get me wrong, I still think it is better to become comfortable with yourself and share it with your partner before any serious commitment, but alas, that's not what happened in my case.

[carhill2mn]

First, it will probably be impossible for you to suppress your attraction to women's clothes. I am sure that there are more than a few of us who felt a bit uncomfortable around girls when we were struggling with our CD desires. Try to find women with whom you feel comfortable (not necessarily someone you would like to date) and learn to be able to just talk with them. I
would expect that as your comfort level around those women increases you will feel more comfortable about trying to date some.

Good luck!

[the_me]

I'll keep it short and sweet.

Yes, for me at least, crossdressing, getting out there dressed, and coming out to people (more and more each month) has greatly increased my confidence with the opposite sex. And I'm 27 with not much better a track record than you with women it seems.

[ClaudiaDawn]

As long a you are uncomfortable with yourself, you won't be able to be comfortable with anybody else. If while interacting with women you have thoughts of guilt, remorse, low self esteem because you cross dress, then definitely once you learn to accept this part of you, your confidence will improve. Be yourself, love yourself.