loosing the urge to dress

[clair]

Hi all, been here for a long time but not posting very much so please be nice! I have a sort of problem that I love dressing and smooth skin, pretty clothes, nice make up etc which i am lucky enough to be able to experience fairly frequently. However once dressed or even before if i relieve myself from the excitment I loose the urge to dress and can quite often get changed back to drab until the urge to dress comes back..sometime only 20mins latter! sometime longer. Does anyone understand this or have any answers?

[Debra Russell]

Understand ? does anyone? just go with the flow! -- Or see a therapists..............Debra

[Kittyagain]

If I understand your post then you are saying once sexually satisfied, you no longer feel the need to dress. Is that correct?

[Holly]

Sweetie, this is your life. The only one who needs to understand is you. The discovery of the answers is the greatest part of the adventure. One area you may want to explore is that your dressing is fettish based. If this is the case, I assure you that you are in a lot of company. It's also possible that this is not the ultimate destination but only a stop along the way in a much larger journey. In any case, enjoy the ride.

[Sam-antha]

Clair, your sexual needs may only be a trigger to the complete condition that we all possess. Accept that and go with it as much as you personnally need to. Remember that anticipation is 90% of the enjoyment and even more as you get older.
~Samm

[Stephenie S]

The answer to your question is yes, yes, and heck yes.

Your feeling were, at one time or another (almost exclusively in the beginning), shared by almost every single male member of this forum. Your feelings are perfectly, classically, normal.

Where you go from here is entirely your choice. The CD/TG world is wide open to you. Please don't beat yourself up feeling guilty and ashamed about crossdressing. Enjoy. The pleasure is there for the taking and you harm NO ONE.

S

[Leslie Iz]

I used to think that my dressing fulfilled some hidden sexual fantasy in the beginning which maybe it did. After a couple of years the desire to feminize would come at me 24/7 and still does. Look inside and ask yourself where does the urge come from, a sexual release or a true need. Go with your feelings and don't be guilt ridden. We're all different yet in some ways the same.

[rhonda]

TO B OR NOT TO B relax u r just like the rest of us hooked cant change so enjoy Rhon xxx

[Courtney463]

The answer to your question is yes, yes, and heck yes.

Your feeling were, at one time or another (almost exclusively in the beginning), shared by almost every single male member of this forum. Your feelings are perfectly, classically, normal.

Where you go from here is entirely your choice. The CD/TG world is wide open to you. Please don't beat yourself up feeling guilty and ashamed about crossdressing. Enjoy. The pleasure is there for the taking and you harm NO ONE.

S

Its nice to know I'm not the only one!! Its so strange I thought I was weird or just a woman in a mans body, but i would crave it so and soon as the release ...boom, feeling of why did I do that, now I cant mow the yard in shorts great...lol But somehow I had a epiphany and realized its still me! And I love it! Now if I could just find someone to enjoy it with!! How I can sit in the office all day and think of how pretty my toenails are and wish i could sit and admire them how I love women, so much that I wish I was one... For me When I was little I looked through Sears catalogs for the ladies but not to fantasize about making love to them but to be them...anyways I have always wondered if that's common, so thank you I'm at peace now

[Karren H]

If you want to crossdress for more than 20 minutes you need to reassociate sex with something other than wearing women's clothing! I had this friend who lived on a sheep farm...... He would have had no problem crossdressing! Lol.

[Aprilrain]

No one has any answers sweetie so the beauty is you get to make them up for your self as you go along. HECK! Thats what the government does (it doesn't matter which government)

The trick is to stop asking why and start focusing on how a much more practical question. Why wants to fritter away the day with theories and speculation. How asks the practical questions of logistics and comes up with solutions. Why only wants to sound like Why knows what Why is talking about. How looks to get things done. One never knows if Why is right or wrong (if it even matters) but when How is wrong it becomes evident and How seeks another solution to the problem.
Only god knows why perhaps when your dead god will tell you why! Just think how underwhelming that will be. Really? THATS why? ; )

[clair]

thanks for the replies, some a bit harsh only asking if others feel the same and good to see most understand. I have been dressing since a young age and may be brave enough one day to post a picture..