Cross Dressing Freedom

[cdtraveler]

This summer my wife took the kids on a week long trip to see friends and left me at home for the first extended period of time to do as I pleased and the week taught me how good it felt to truely imurse myself in femm things. I showered in fem products, used beautiful smelling lotions and of course dressed the entire time including painted toe nails for the week. Sat on the deck enfem (semi private) Have reflected on that week alot and it struck me how relaxing and soul soothing it was, not having to hide everything or worry about getting caught. Couldn't wait to get home each day to play.

Just wondering if you girls have had that kind of experience and iso what you did and how it may have had an effect on how you veiwed your dressing?

[Karren H]

Yeah! My wife went away for a week this year... And 5 weeks last. And I was on an extended business trip last year. Your right. The feeling is amazing.

[CarlaWestin]

I save vacation days for just those occasions when the wife is out of town. She is aware of and accepts my gender adventuring around the house but when the opportunity comes around to go full fem I don't want a pesky thing like work getting in the way. I savor the memories of the last adventure week.

[DebbieL]

The only thing more wonderful is knowing that you don't have to wait until your family is away. When you're out, the love of your life supports you, and those who know, love and accept you. When you don't have to hide from anyone. So much freedom. It's almost like flying.

[Stephanie47]

My wife returned from a four day trip, and, she is going on another eight day/seven night trip next month. Yes, I get to be en femme 24/7. It is wonderful to get up in the morning and slip out of a slinky nightie and choose from among the dresses and slips hanging from a clothes rack. And, I can change dresses during the day from a day dress to something a little more formal in the evening.

[prettytoes]

My wife is leaving today for a 4 day business trip. She is somewhat accepting, but there are certain boundries that limit my dressing when she's home. I will be able to do some experimenting with eye makeup this week, and I will be sampling some different perfumes! My toenails are always painted; I think I will do my fingernails one day this week. Hmmmmm, which color to use?!

[erickka]

It is a wonderful feeling to be able to do this on occasion. It has been about a year since I have had the opportunity to do so.

[Carol A]

Oh yes know the feeling very well, my wife was in Germany for two weeks and I was in fem heaven. I lived and dress as a women everyday
and found out I could live the rest of my life as such if it were possible. Now one thing I did learn a women goes through a lot everyday to look good
and be precentable at her best but in the long run it is worth every minute of it.

[Wendy_Marie]

I have spent the last 35 days now dressed enfemme 24/7...even on those days when I couldn't present myself as female such as for work...I managed to put together outfits of female clothing which were easily seen by others as normal male attire for a sort of stealth look.
The circumstances behind my having so much free time aren't pleasant ones, but the end result is that my time is now growing short and I am beginning to have to think about how I am going to continue with my newly found freedom once things around my home return back to the way they were.

[Karren H]

and I am beginning to have to think about how I am going to continue with my newly found freedom once things around my home return back to the way they were.

Which was?? Inquiring minds want to know? Lol.

[BusinessTraveler]

I had a few of those week long escapades and like you they are exhilarating. I am a bit anal so I would plan the entire week, and each night was awesome... although I always felt a little rushed.

[suzy1]

A slightly different situation for me.
My wife and I divorced four years ago. It was nothing to do with C.D.ing we just did not like each other anymore.
So I know how you feel about your free time and to dress and be your fem self.
For me the amazing feeling has never dulled or gone away in all this time.

A happy, SUZY

[Wendy W]

The longest freedom for Wendy was 5 weeks several years ago. Other than dressing drab (but still underdressing) for a 9-5, M-F job, the rest of the time was in enfemme. It was an awesome experience and the weekends were wild! I learned alot about myself and that its not all 'green grass' for the GG's when it comes to beauty & hygiene. Lots of work. But it was worth every minute. Oh to live those days again.... Thanks for the thread CD.

Wendy

[Alice B]

It is wonderful and I'm looking forward to a three week period of total freedom starting in two weks.

[J'lyn GG]

Hate to be a buzzkill. But, I am saddened/disgusted by how so many think its wonderful when they don't have their wife around. What does that say about you, that cding is that important in your life? I can understand that it can be stressful to be in a situation where your wife doesn't know or doesn't accept. But, you put yourself in the 'wife not knowing situation', if she doesn't know. ANd if she does, and is uncomfortable and/or unaccepting, how much were you willing to put aside/ reel in/go slow and be considerate and understanding so she could try to understand and, at least, be okay with it. And before you go and say anything about our life, I am not a completely accepting wife, but we work out EVERYTHING together. Hubby uses all the same soaps and washes that I do. And he only dresses once a month. It took a long time to get here and I recently turned a corner (that I hope is for good) but it took A LOT of understand and compassion from my husband. ANd when he has the opportunity to stay away for the night, he either chooses not to stay, or he doesn't take anything with him. Lecture over. Continue on! Let the slams begin! LOL

[suzy1]

Hate to be a buzzkill. But, I am saddened/disgusted by how so many think its wonderful when they don't have their wife around. What does that say about you, that cding is that important in your life? I can understand that it can be stressful to be in a situation where your wife doesn't know or doesn't accept. But, you put yourself in the 'wife not knowing situation', if she doesn't know. ANd if she does, and is uncomfortable and/or unaccepting, how much were you willing to put aside/ reel in/go slow and be considerate and understanding so she could try to understand and, at least, be okay with it. And before you go and say anything about our life, I am not a completely accepting wife, but we work out EVERYTHING together. Hubby uses all the same soaps and washes that I do. And he only dresses once a month. It took a long time to get here and I recently turned a corner (that I hope is for good) but it took A LOT of understand and compassion from my husband. ANd when he has the opportunity to stay away for the night, he either chooses not to stay, or he doesn't take anything with him. Lecture over. Continue on! Let the slams begin! LOL


You make a good point. The big problem here is the need to dress is overpowering for many crossdressers. And many crossdressers know [or think they know] that to tell all to there wife would end the marriage. And it’s very likely that it will!
We have to see it from all sides here GraceAnne.

[NicoleScott]

Other activities didn't allow my family to vacation with me, so I had a week to myself in a Florida time-share on the beach. I didn't go to the beach much, nor en femme, but I did dress most every day - sometimes two dressup sessions a day. Here are the freedoms that I really liked:
- dress anytime I wanted, no worries, no schedule, no visitors, nothing unexpected.
- took my time with makeup and dressing, savoring each minute.
- hanging my dresses, tops, & skirts in the closet and high heels on the shoe shelf.
- leaving makeup and related dressup/makeup things out on the counter.
- wearing perfume. Even after showering, there was a slight lingering scent which kept me "in the mood"
- lots of time to take pics, try new combinations, or just chill en femme.
- away from my home town, no fear of going out en femme or shopping for girl stuff in guy mode.

Needless to say, had a great time.

GraceAnne, enjoying home alone time does not necessarily mean that we don't like to be with our wives. But there's nothing wrong with taking advantage of opportunities.

Scarlet Rose, I would expect your comment (working on your truck) on a shade tree mechanic website. I wonder if guys there post "I have a week to myself. I could work on my truck, or I could crossdress for a week." I wonder how that would be received.

[Veronica Lacey]

Earlier this year my wife and I agreed that she would stay over at her parent's home for four days and give me time to dress on my own. I simply enjoyed dressing 24/7 in whatever I felt like wearing and put it all away when she returned. We both enjoyed ourselves and, as the old tried and true cliche states, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

While she does not wish to see me dressed she is okay with me dressing on my own time and does not judge me for it. It is a very complimentary relationship we enjoy in that we do many things together but give one another the freedom to do things apart and that includes my dressing. We plan our vacation time together, family time together and various activities but we live lives as individuals as well. In our wedding vows we had the minister include the following: http://www.katsandogz.com/onmarriage.html

GraceAnne, the resentment - past or present - towards your partner in your post seems an unfortuante byproduct of your relationship but hopefully not a barrier. You both deserve one another's support but agreed, it can be a challenge. I hope that your partnership works out for you both in the long run.

[Cheryl T]

Haven't done it yet, but in 2 weeks we are going away on a "girls only" vacation. This will be the first time for me and I get to spend 8 days just as I like. There will not be one stitch of male clothing in any suitcase....can't wait...can't decide what to take...LOL.

[J'lyn GG]

I understand that you can lead seperate lives, if that's what you so choose. In my family, we don't see the benefit in taking seperate vacations by choice. We are a pretty conservative, traditional family. I think my husband is a rare gem and I appreciate him everyday. We have had opportunities for seperate vacations or trips (for whatever reason). Neither of us enjoyed it, at all. Hubby wouldn't use the time to dress, anyhow. To us, that is akin to hiding. And we don't want any more hiding. It just about destroyed me twice.

Veronica, I have read my post over several times. I have no idea what about my post screamed resentment, I was just pointing out something that everybody seems to ignore. Just because I am not totally accepting, doesn't mean I am resentful. In fact, I have been feeling pretty darn good, as of late. In fact, so good, that nobody's response upset me, in the least. It was what I expected. But, nicely put. Thanks.

Nicole Scott I guess, if I were reading something like this from my husband, I would feel unwanted. Regardless, if that is how it is meant. It would make me incredibly sad that he enjoys, so immensely, time spent away from me. Thankfully, I don't have to worry about that.

Suzy, to not tell all would also possibly end the marriage. Regardless of how she feels about cding. Getting over 18 years of lies is not an easy thing to do.

Scarlet Rose, my husband actually has a muscle car he works on. He's replaced the engine 3 times, so I understand that analogy, but it still comes down to reasonable money and time spent. BTW, we agree on those purchases, as well. We agree on most big or controversial purchases, for both of us.

[Sallee]

:daydreaming:I don't think it is so much that the wife is gone factor It is more of I get to hang by myself take a ton of pictures try on a bunch of outfits generally waste a bunch of time and not feel guilty. NOt that wives make us feel guilty we just feel guilty because we are really just wasting time and not being productive.
I have found that if I hang out in fem alot I enjoy it but I don't get a lot done. I primp to much I guess. If do some chores in fem it becomes a chore which is fine but I am no longer aare being dressed. I am NOT fixing the car in heels or even a dress I could do under dress with pads etc wear which I have but I much prefer to be fully femmed out at least make up and wig
I do like extended fem time wasted or otherwise

[AnitaH]

My wife and I got married a little older we both had developed our own intrests in life. She knew from early in our dating about my crossdressing. Trust me when I say we are totally opposites of each other in nearly everything. We enjoy our time together, we vacation together and even work together. But we also allow each other the space and time to do the things we like that the other doesn't. That includes some vacation time for each of us apart. We had a couple of our own vacations this year. One of the times she was gone I was able dress and go out 7 out of 8 nights. What fun that was.

AnitaH

[wearingtanpantyhose]

I done this a number of times, and it's wonderful... however taking off the polish on the last day was a bit depressing!