Came Out to My Cousin / First in My Family

[BreenaDion]

Yesturday I finally came out to my side of the family, my youngest cousin. Couple days prior I left a message with the new name I am using but haven't legally changed it. I inavertly tease about who I am an didn't want to use that name again. So left a message again and messaged me back on facebook.

OMG he is so excepting and told me all about his life, the bad times. We chatted for about 2 hours and I had to do errands an take son to DR appt. I have 12 cousins and all the older generation are passed on. I asked him because he is the smartest and most intelligent of this generation. I invited him and his new friend, as he says "not a Girl Friend Yet" for dinner because I make a great Portugese Chicken. Being that recipe as she lives near the Portugese community, sorta.

I have reservations about telling my sister and brother which I hate both after the death of my mother. They both can find out through the grape vine. I will met with my psychotherapist in 2 weeks and ask how I tell the others. Why am I telling them now after being on HRT for 20 months ? Guess I am being compled to as my spouse's family already knows about me and only her mother doesn't aprove of me.

My psychotherapist says I transition slowly, most because I am caught in to many conundrums and I wait for the hormones to do there job first. I am in no hurry to change my name and in no hurry to file bankruptcy , so I procrastinate to suit our needs an let it fall in place when its appropriate. Thanks for letting me share.
Breena.

[Traci Elizabeth]

What I want to know is what is your Portuguese Chicken recipe step-by-step??????????????????

[JennyA]

I have reservations about telling my sister and brother which I hate both after the death of my mother.
Why do you hate your brother and sister? Please explain, hate and transitioning don't go well together. You are going to have to drop a lot of grudges and emotions. I am very logical , maybe I can help you patch things with your sibs.

When coming out to people this logic for worked wonders and I never had to even use it because mostly people were cool.

Ask them:
"Do you love me?"
they will answer yes, I am assuming if it's family or someone you care about.
Then explain to them that you got to a point in your life where you were not happy and it was only going to get worse as time went on. Explain to them that at this crossroads you had few choices:
A) Not transition, spend the last 50 years of your life unhappy and probably turn to drugs and alcohol to numb the sadness.
B) Not want to live the horrible existence for 50 years of being not who you were and on drugs and thus kill yourself instead of going through living hell for decades.
C) Transition, become truly happy, the person I have always wanted to be. To be free of this sad weight and finally feel like a real person.

You: "You said you loved me. Would you have me live a life of agony or off myself? If you truly love me you will understand this and want me to be happy. And a large part of my happiness is going to come from my loved ones having my back and loving me for who I am.


If you say something like this I don't see what arguments they can make against you.

[BreenaDion]

I had Portugese Fish last year in Provetowm Ma. I like to try different chicken or fish recipe when going out for dinner. I copied it as if was fish but used chicken instead, so being said I don't even know if its called that but I do. My fatherinlaw and motherinlaw totally loved it.

The sauce is a specialty of mine, I don't write down what I use but its common sense. I used Traditional sauce , plain no store aditives. I'll empty the 2big cans in a bowl and add about 3/4 to 1 teaspoon of basil leaves,cilantro,marjoram leaves whole oregano,celery seeds and black ground pepper. mix in bowl and poor into casserole dish about 1/4" deep to cover the bottom. Take boneless breast of chicken and cut as much fat off as you can then slice in half to thin it out so you have 2 pieces that are about 3/4" thick not that big 1 1/2 or 2'' full piece. Cover both sides of the chicken with black ground pepper and garlic powder and hand rub into chicken. Place in casserole dish , size dish appropriate for the chicken you use. Slice one big tomatoe and 1 big onion and place over chicken. Poor rest of sauce over the chicken/ tomatoes/onion but dont over cover. You have to much best to save it an freeze for other dishes. Cover sauce with shredded mozzarella cheese about 1/2 thick. Bake at 375 degrees for about 45 minutes, depends on ur oven. just watch it as not to burn.
Breena.

[BreenaDion]

Sorry Jenny but I have talked to a Clinical psychologist and my psychotherapist and both agree I don't have to say boo to either 1. Not going into that painfull story and if we was friends I would talk in person or phone because its lengthy.

LOL thats so funny what you wrote about that 50 yr span, totally not me but thanks any way. Sorry for the humor its just not me , nothing is correct that u wrote , thats cool.

I was not going to tell any of my cousins range from 65 to 51 yrs old but Paul who I chatted with is the only one I am close to or did things with and have a relationship with. Our lifes path as horror filled in both are similar in a sense.
Breena.