Tall Girls

[Lauren Richards]

I am in the 6'+ Club (over six feet tall, without heels - about 1.825M), and not exactly Twiggy. Fit, but not ultra-thin. I am very comfortable in my female attire, and would likely venture outside even more if it were not for my height. I love to wear heels, but have stuck to flats mostly when going out.

I like to dress appropriately whether in male or female clothing, and have ventured out to shopping malls, casinos, car trips to the gas station, the post office, and long walks. I have even gone to my office several times, off hours. My SO is aware of my CD side, and is supportive. I feel great en femme.

Sometimes, however, I am reluctant to go out, and have on many occasions decided to stay inside because of my height. Just the other night, I decided to stay home and not even get dressed. Ok, everyone has stuff to deal with as a CD, so I'll be honest and say that height is my main bugaboo.

I suspect any woman over six feet tall is more likely to draw attention, so I try even harder to not draw attention to myself. That air of confidence helps, and I have learned to use it at all times. I act like I belong, wherever I am; because I do belong. I am Lauren, watch me walk. I'm a tall girl, just doing normal stuff. But sometimes.. and I wish it were not so, I find that being tall is not an advantage.

How do you other tall girls feel about it? How do you deal with it?

Lauren

[urban gypsy]

Hi Lauren
I know how you feel, my freind Sonia and I are both over 6 foot and both very well built, so the pair of us usually wear flat ballet style pumps unless we are gonig out somewhere special ie clubbing or a meal then we will wear heels.
But it must look odd to see to ladies both touching 6' 5'' in 3 inch heels and built like a pair of rugby players walking into somewhere.
but having each other and our wiives for support we can just laugh it off,sometimes you have to be so self confindent if you are tall it is unbelievable.
But thats the hand were dealt so you just make the most of it.

[Billie1]

Lauren,

Myself, being 6' (w/o heels), have the same concerns you do.

I intially had big problems with posture, because I found myself 'slouching' to appear shorter. That does not help confidence one bit.

What it did, was made me work harder to develop my self-esteem.

Try some solo outings, such as a walk in the park, away from others to practice walking, and being comfortable with yourself. The air of confidence, I've found, is half the battle. If you feel comfortable enough, that ease of movement and 'presence' will draw far less attention than over-compensating for a supposed 'handicap'.

If nothing else, let's both get jazzed-out and go partying!

Ta-Ta,
Billie:luvu:

[classicgreysuit]

I'm 6ft 2ins in my stockings - I have no supportive SO. My legs look so much better in heels that if i cant go out in them I'd rather not go out at all. At 6ft 5ins it tends to make me far too conspicuous. I have ventured out dressed but usually in the dead of night in very safe situations just to experience the breeze playing around my legs.

I do look ok otherwise,my adams apple is almost non existant and my arms arent too big or hairy but to be honest i'm happy enough doing my own thing in private and dont feel the need to dress 24/7. If I was shorter though it might be different.

[Rainbow6562005]

Hi, everyone :)

Fortunately for me, I'm quite satisfied staying indoors when dressed. At six-two, and loving sandals with five-inch stiletto heels, I am always afraid of falling, whenever I walk, or even stand, in such shoes. Well aware that my head has six-feet seven-inches to fall, I stay on my thick carpet whenever I wear these sexy shoes; the hardwood floors could be lethal!:eek:

Rainbow

[Francine]

Me too. I am just over 6'4" tall. It seems the one thing..that keeps holding me thinking I would never 'pass' as a tg or ts. And I like to wear heels, but limit them to 3" so I still can go through a door way! Usually I keep them lower to the 1 1/2" to 2 1/2" heel. But I love dressing as a woman. And maybe, if I can get over this "height" thing and other issues..be a woman.

[christine55]

I see GG's over six feet tall. You don't see a whole lot of them but unless she is really pretty I don't really take any special note of her.
hugs, Christine

[Marlena Dahlstrom]

It seems the one thing..that keeps holding me thinking I would never 'pass' as a tg or ts.

The fact of the matter is that very few of us will ever be mistaken for GGs 100% of the time. I've been out a bit and I can move in a crowd without generally being read, but up close -- especially when I open my mouth -- I've got no illusions about being seen as anything else but a guy in a dress. (I'm 5'10" and 220 with broad shoulders and barrel chest so I'm not exact a petite gal.) But nonetheless, I've almost always been treated as a lady.

As Christine said, there are GGs your height, and they probably attract extra attention because of it. So just recognize you'll also be facing more scrutiny as well. But rather than worry about passing, focus on being presentable and confident. If you act like you deserve respect, my experience is you usually get it.

[MandyTS]

I am 6'6" 200 pounds on a good day, tall and skinny, I have seen GG's that are my height before, and the heigth does not bother me. I am part of a yahoo group of TS people that average 6'4"+. It is possable to pass at our height it just requires confidence and poise to do so. Sure if you are tall it is easier to get read... but who cares. If you blend in then no one is going to care one bit... just act like a GG and you pass.

People always tell me... you can not be a TS, you will never pass. I say, hey, if a GG was born to be 6'6" do they worry about passing? Heigth is an advantage, people look up to you, and they seem to hit on you more IMO... just enjoy it. I think the perfect size is about 6'2" anyway.

[Alayna]

I have the same issues being 6'5" without heels. I guess I do have the benefit of being really skinny but same slouching and such nonetheless. I used to only buy flats and 1" heels. But I found that I felt more femme and confident if I just decided **** it and wore 4" stiletto's. Sure, at 6'7" or 8" I 'm pretty conspicuous - but no more than if I wore flats. I think there's a point when we break that height barrier and draw attention no matter how tall we are (until we start pushing 7';))

[Jessicafreed]

I am 6'2" in my stocking feet and love to wear 3" and 4" heels. They really show off my legs. I wear flats too, but my pants and jeans drag on the ground unless I am in heels. I have come to learn that confidence (as everyone else here says) plays a big part in how you feel. I don't care what other people might think. I love heels no matter how tall they make me. They make me feel very feminie and I will continue to buy and wear them.

Love,

Jessica

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Lauren -

i am 6'2 just under 190 (on the way to 180!!)

check out my thread in the picture gallery... i spent hours and hours out last nite in those outfits. My wife is totally completely against this so i sneak out alone...if i could get a gg to go with me, i would be even more comfortable...

if you make an effort to look and feel feminine...it is VERY RARE that anybody hassles you.. it can happen but so what on you go!

you can do it

michele

[jo_ann]

6'6" here too (but 300 pounds). If I wear 5" heels and tall hair, I get knocked out trying to get through a doorway.

[Andrea's Lynne]

I'm 6 feet even and in the privacy of home (never been out, except for one glorious Halloween) I love to practice in 4 inch heels........feels just lovely. If I plucked up the courage to go out, I'm sure I'd tone it down. I just don't see many GGs in heels that tall.........except for fancy occasions.

Lynne

[Lauren_T]

At 6' even, I feel my 'reasonable' limit is 3" heels...

[rexy]

HELLO GIRLS i am also over six foot and am begining to not care if i go out and wear high heels. Becuase if they make me feel more like a women( and they do ) i do not care . GIRLS JUST DO IT !!!!

[Stephanie Kay]

Rexy, you are brave (and you have nice looking legs!). I'm 6"4", 240 lbs. No heels for me! Oh, well, maybe 1"-2" if it's in a nice supportive shoe. Spike heels are dangerous, hard to walk in, are uncomfortable, and don't do a thing for my look! I know lots of women who feel the same way about heels. I don't miss it at all and still look and feel feminine! But to each his, er, I mean, :) her own!

[windycissy]

It's like a bell-shaped curve: the taller you are, the more you will stand out. I am about 5'10" and I always wear flats, this makes me a tall woman, but since most real girls walk around in 3" heels or higher, I don't have a problem passing. When I wear heels, the odds go way down. If you're much taller than 6', it's pretty unrealistic to expect to be able to pass in any circumstances.Ask Windy (http://snurl.com/askwindy)

[obsessedwithpantyhose]

i have a GG cousin who is over 6 ft tall and she didnt let that get to her one bit while growing up:D shes married and has kids :D

[Marlena Dahlstrom]

If you're much taller than 6', it's pretty unrealistic to expect to be able to pass in any circumstances.

Depends on your definition of "passing." To be mistaken for a GG, that's pretty difficult -- since even us shorter gals get read. To be treated like a lady even though people realize you're a guy in a dress, that's entirely doable.

[windycissy]

Depends on your definition of "passing." To be mistaken for a GG, that's pretty difficult -- since even us shorter gals get read. To be treated like a lady even though people realize you're a guy in a dress, that's entirely doable.

Well, you're right there: nobody goes four-for-four in the All Star Game. My definition of passing is to fall within the big part of that bell-shaped curve, and I am mistaken for a GG at least 80% of the time, probably closer to 90%. Man, that 10% of the time is a bitch! Being treated like a lady by some total stranger who makes me as a guy in a dress does nothing for me....but those are my hangups.

Windy

[Sophie_A]

6' and 155lbs and I have just begun to go out and about, there are gg's taller, and dont slouch, it just makes you look like a guy, you dont see gg's slouching. Walk tall and with poise that way they spend more time looking at your legs than your face :D

[nicki]

Im at 6.2 without any shoes and at 150 pound range. When im out i never leave without 5' heels . Trust me at that height and getting into a pair of size 2 ultra low cut jeans or that special lil mini most gg's look at you with that jealous look wishing evil things to you . Which makes me feel so much more fem and

[jessbcuzz]

I'm 6'1" and 240. I prefer heels over flats. I don't care what others would think. The only think I need to be thinking about is ducking under low hanging things.

[rexy]

Rexy, you are brave (and you have nice looking legs!). I'm 6"4", 240 lbs. No heels for me! Oh, well, maybe 1"-2" if it's in a nice supportive shoe. Spike heels are dangerous, hard to walk in, are uncomfortable, and don't do a thing for my look! I know lots of women who feel the same way about heels. I don't miss it at all and still look and feel feminine! But to each his, er, I mean, :) her own!




THANKS STEPH: LET ME SAY I WOULD NOT GO OUT IN 5" HEELS THAT IS WHAT YOU SAY A REAL DANGER. when i am out maybe a 3" or 4" is enough for me !!!

[DebbiAnne]

I'm 6-3 & have gone to the mall, liquor stores, grocery stores, drug stores & beauty supply stores in daylight & never have received stares & i wear 3 " heels. If you act ladylike & confident it will be OK, I have even asked employees at drug stores about my appearance & never received bad feedback. I asked others if they thought I looked too tall in heels & they said no, you look very nice! Also, more than once in the past 6 months, there were 2 women taller than me in the grocery store. Women are getting taller or we are getting better at passing!

[Debbie Kong]

I'm 6 feet tall. I only go out to fun spots that are T friendly but I always wear four or five inch heels. I'm not pretending to be a woman so I don't care how tall I appear. I'm proud to be a TV and wouldn't want anyone to think I'm other than that.

Most of the time I have to pretend to be a man so it's nice to act natural once in awhile.

Debbie

[Lauren Richards]

Ok, girls. That does it. I'm going out tonight - in my favorite 3" heels. I do love the sound of heels on concrete, and how they feel on your feet, and how they make your legs look in a skirt, and...and..and just about everything about them!

I do like to dress appropriately for the occasion, whenever I go out, so maybe just a trip to the Post Office, or to gas up the car. Maybe a walk around the block on Capitol Hill. Or Belltown. We'll see. It is early yet.

I know most all gg's have both heels and flats, and although I love heels (both wearing and seeing them on other girls) there are times when flats are best. Casual wear works some places where being dressed up just looks out-of-place. When I go to the casino up the road, tight jeans and flats work best. Not tonight, though. I'm going to treat myself to a new pair of panty hose, and go listen to the rapsody which can only be made by a pair of heels - mine.

But you all know, it's not about the heels. It is about whatever you feel comfortable doing. Nobody gets to tell you what to do...one of the GREAT things about being a crossdresser. We come in all sizes. You decide what makes you happy. Tonight, heels do it for me. Another time, flats and an equally low profile. Or just a few girly things on at home. What I want to know is where does a tall girl find pants that fit over your shoes??! I haven't found a pair yet. Still looking..just another excuse to go shopping!

Lauren

[RenoDana]

Ever look at a really well-dressed tall woman? They're using the "optical illusion" thing for all it's worth.
A 6'3" GG friend of mine (I'm 6'1") never went out in anything but a short skirt and heels. WHY?
Because someone seeing her would immediately assume that the length of her visible legs, and the height of the heels, were the reasons that she looked so tall! Obviously this didn't hold up when someone got close to her, but for all those people just walking by (which is mostly what we're concerned with) she just looked great.
SO: want to look like someone really concerned about height, and make sure that all your extra inches get attributed to your biology? Wear flats and pants or a long skirt.
At my PC in a minidress and 6" heels (OK, I don't go to the Safeway in these)
--RenoDana

[Lauren Richards]

Got out the door, and went to the Post Office. I parked about half a block away, and walked in my heels on the sidewalk, just to hear the sound. It was late, and a few cars passed, too. As I went in (love the sound of heels on the smooth floors in Post Offices), a man came out. I don't think either of us was expecting the other. I was a little taller than he was, but at the time I didn't care. Walked by his car after picking up a voters guide, and got back in my car.

Off to Capitol Hill, a safe place for Lauren to join the other folks who would be out late. As it was a little bit after midnight, there weren't many people out, so I walked several blocks away from my car, acting like I was just coming back from something. Totally normal. I must have walked about 20 minutes, then as I was headed back to my car, I turned a corner and a young man coming the other way asked "Ma'am, do you have 50 cents?" I was very sad that I did not have a dollar ready to give, and shook my head slightly as we passed, my heels making that wonderful sound, as the "ma'am" echoed in my head. Totally unexpected, yet so nice!

Took another short drive to BellTown, a trendy section of the city where I could also not look out of place late at night. Carried my voters guide with me (carrying something adds to the image of just being normal, if just a bit tall), and walked around for another 20 minutes, taxis in the street, and people walking on the other side of the street on several occasions. It felt good to get out tonight. Wish I could leave the nail polish on, but it will be coming off soon. I may be tall, and it may still be a slight nag in my psyche, but I love being able to go out once in a while. Maybe next time it will be to the casino, in flats, and more casual attire than my short black business woman skirt. Who knows? Can't do anything about being tall, but I can enjoy dressing up!

Lauren