WHAT NOT TO WEAR ...The CDer EPISODES!!!!????

[Shayla99]

The judges... this show would be the best...how many "Oh Girls" would there be??:heehee:







I say this because, the line between support group, and advice column gets pretty blurred, and sometimes, I don't feel like some responses are as honest as they are supportive???
I am not trying to be mean at all, but sometimes I feel I could wear mismatched sport socks and a potato sack, and some one would be like " You look great girl!", I 'm not wanting to make fun, but a section for more open critique, and advice, would be helpful>
Myself I will never leave feed back I don't mean?! No response is more honest . ya know?? Sometimes I wanna offer advice, but I dont wanna be a Negative Nancy, shouting down over a chorus of praise......:straightface:

There are not equal parts to every CD here, some are natural, some work hard , and some are near disasters!? But it makes it tough to value feed back when someone much hotter gets the same praise as some one less gifted?? So an impartial panel, of these three, would be perfect.

Perhaps even an open critique section, where post PICS at your own risk applies??
Fashion no no's, aren't to be ignored because we are male, on the contrary, if we want acceptance and to be better, perhaps some more honest opinions would be helpful??
Just Saying.
THOUGHTS???? :) sHAYLA

[AllieSF]

I was doing quite well until I read this part of your post, "But it makes it tough to value feed back when someone much hotter gets the same praise as some one less gifted??" That sounds like you may be thinking about yourself here. I immediately thought of your other recent post about going out and being the hottest one there. Do you think that you are being unjustly commented on, either too little (not hot enough) or too much (hotter than others)?

My thoughts are that most here, including myself, lean toward the support side and prefer to say nice things versus critical comments, or we say nothing at all. We will try to offer carefully worded responses to maintain the support intent and offer constructive criticism occasionally. There is also another current thread on this same topic with a lot of good comments.

[Kate Simmons]

Usually when feedback is genuinely asked for, I don't do it on the open forum but by PM. There are never any bad feelings with that method in my experience and I usually get thanked for my honest input. Putting someone's pic on an open forum and critiquing them is not the way to go. It's almost like vying in a beauty contest and ending up an "also ran". No one is ever happy with that experience if you get my meaning. Basically I keep both my critiquing and praise private because in my estimation, that's what it is a "private" opinion.:)

[Shayla99]

I was doing quite well until I read this part of your post, "But it makes it tough to value feed back when someone much hotter gets the same praise as some one less gifted??" That sounds like you may be thinking about yourself here. I immediately thought of your other recent post about going out and being the hottest one there. Do you think that you are being unjustly commented on, either too little (not hot enough) or too much (hotter than others)?

My thoughts are that most here, including myself, lean toward the support side and prefer to say nice things versus critical comments, or we say nothing at all. We will try to offer carefully worded responses to maintain the support intent and offer constructive criticism occasionally. There is also another current thread on this same topic with a lot of good comments.

This is not about me?! Honestly....I feel pretty comfortable, and know where I stand, Middle of the pack , and improving as my weight goes down....
It's more some of the other people's pics, I sometimes wanna be forward and honest, but I am not sure that it's welcome??
I mean not every pair of shoes is cute.....not every pose is flattering....not every outfit is the greatest of all time, ...yet I've seen comments that I was like, "seriously?" , the next post suggested PMs and I guess that is the way to go.
Whenlip color doesn't match an outfit....should I say?? ...or just praise like everyone else.
It does diminish all feedback, when it's all just supportive!?!? ...and I guess thats how it does regard to me, I wanna feel like the comments I recieve are genuine!? That is all.
I must say ,most of the gals here, are pretty and worthy of praise, and by my selection of judges, there was some intent of humor?!?!

[Babeba]

What if lip colour matches the person? What if those shoes were the best that person could find within the local area and her budget? There is no rule stopping you from suggesting what you think would improve that person's look, should she (or he) request it - so long as you are polite and constructive. If there is someone that you feel is insincere, then don't listen to their comments but please do listen to the scores of others out there. You could also ask in your post title for 'no holds barred' comments, or specifically request that every poster tell you one thing that they think would improve you.

Also - I would like to say that what is hot is really in the eye of the beholder, hotness =\= talent (there are some incredibly gifted makeup artists on this forum who just don't have the bone structure/shape to 'compete' against some of the younger, smaller CDs) and it's really about making the best of it with what you've got in front of you, having fun, and being yourself. Another thing to keep in mind - although fashion is pretty global, there ARE regional differences. If the colours seem really weird to you, check and see if the poster is from another continent. It CAN make a difference.

[Christine1954]

Hi Shayla,
I totally agree with you except for the choice of judges.
I do believe that we need to be more critical when neccessary, if we do want to reply in an honest manner, otherwise say nothing.
I believe this may be true of a lot of other CD's.
I believe the better that someone appears is reflected in the number of replies, more replies means better presentation etc.
Christine. :)

[Stephanie47]

This forum is unlike any other I've ever read, let alone participated in. First, I realize I am a male, and, have very defined male features as ordained by the gods. Therefore, when I gazed into the mirror I do not see what I am, but, the reflection of what my mind thinks I should see. I see how differently the digital camera sees my maleness as opposed to what I think the mirror is reflecting.

There are definitely some fine looking ladies posting pictures on this forum. There are definitely some who look like me. I need a lot of attention. But, I do my best to make myself feel great! There are many ladies posting pictures, who have taken great effort to accentuate their limited femininity. Their selection of clothing and accessories are great. I like what I see. If I were to offer critical commentary on a ladies appearance, I'd do it by a private message.

When I venture to the mall, I do observe women for their presentation. There are women who appear to go out of their way to look like wet dogs coming in from the rain. There are women who look lovely- great makeup and tasteful clothes. For many years I watched Miss America and other beauty pageants, and, I have been critical of many of the "professional" contestants. Many seem to think they are the greatest thing since sliced bread. I worked in an office building for over thirty years, and, there were MANY beauties who would put Miss America to shame.

I think the ladies who post pictures and receive no or limited feedback realize their limitations. Maybe the answer to Shayla's concern is to have a separate segment for honesty. How does one achieve that? I guess a computer programmer could develop a program to have the infamous big white dot obscure the face, if the posting lady wishes comments on her attire. The poster and responder could have their posting name scrambled randomly by the computer program. If the poster wants a critique of her makeup, well, be ready for an honest answer.

Be gentle!

[Shayla99]

PLease remember all, there was some attempt to be funny......just a good laugh???

WHAT NOT TO WEAR ...CDers season 1 ....!!!??? Thats hilarious, give that to a talented Sat nite live cast!?!?

I was hoping for a couple LOLS here people!!! :devil:

No one gets my sense of humor??? :doh:

[Phylis Nicole Schuyler]

I bet we could out do the ratings of many of these as the stomach turns real life dramas they call shows. We'd definately look better than the Bossum Buddiy's. Keep that sense of humor. Start story-boarding the show.

[bridgetta]

Its funny. But also would be A damn good show too. I hate that rupaul academy makeover show. Blech. And who wants to see rupaul in a moustache. Blech.

[Shayla99]

To see Clinton Kelly, slapping Ru, and Have Miss J, throwing a tantrum with a giant bow tie on his head, all because some guy has his size 14 hoof, hanging out the front end of his size 12 sandal...and his toe nail is all chipped and crooked!!!It would be scandolous....there would be so much hilarity.
Then of course, they would never agree on anything...... so we would all walk out more f'd up than ever!!! Gayer, crazier, and still without half a fashion sense???

[SamanthaS]

I understand how you feel. I've been honest with some who don't bother to put on make up and just wear the clothes for shock value; and have been blasted for being honest. Why some feel like they have to do this is beyond me. It's one thing to wear clothes around your home, I do that when it's too hot, but you'll NEVER see me post pics of me like this.

[Shayla99]

i understand how you feel. I've been honest with some who don't bother to put on make up and just wear the clothes for shock value; and have been blasted for being honest. Why some feel like they have to do this is beyond me. It's one thing to wear clothes around your home, i do that when it's too hot, but you'll never see me post pics of me like this.

thank you>>!!!! Thats exactly right