Told a colleague today...

[Stacey Summer]

I was having a chat with a lady from work over coffee today and she took me into her confidence about something I obviously won't go into here. I've been thinking about telling her for a while as I got the impression she would be accepting. So I figured that since I know a secret of hers that could possibly do real damage if it got out I was on safe ground.

I've just realised that this was a dirty, sneaked, underhanded thing to do and it shows my supreme lack of trust in anyone. However, I digress. The point of it all is that I now have a shopping buddy who actually lives near me and I've got someone who can and is willing to teach me how to do my makeup!

On cloud nine right now :D

[AnitaH]

That's great I'm sure you will enjoy your time. Someday I hope I would have a shopping buddy. I don't know though. Even my wife hates to shop so even if she was more at ease with my dressing I still would not have a shopping buddy there.

AnitaH

[Cynthia Anne]

Call it what you may! I say more power to you! I would love to have someone to go shopping with! I'm happy for you! Hugs!

[PretzelGirl]

Yea, telling someone because you can basically blackmail them is probably far down the list of reasons to tell someone. But it does sound like all is well. And just maybe she is thinking that now you can't tell about her. Don't ya think? :thinking:

[Stacey Summer]

Yea, telling someone because you can basically blackmail them is probably far down the list of reasons to tell someone. But it does sound like all is well. And just maybe she is thinking that now you can't tell about her. Don't ya think? :thinking:

That isn't the reason I told her. I told her because I wanted to, this just gave me an opportunity to protect myself from being exposed. The status quo is being kept.

[jillleanne]

Not really underhanded. The reason you have not shared your secret is you required a level of anticipated trust that was not present before. Now it is so you extended the secret to her. You probably would have anyway, based on a trust level you felt with her, not her secret. Hopefully this is the start to your coming out some day.

[kimdl93]

I think its a really fair deal. She revealed her secret to you because she felt you were trustworthy and you reciprocated. Its not underhanded - its equity. And now you both will reap the benefits.

[Jennifer Marie P.]

Now you girls can share secrets and you have a shopping buddy.

[pinto]

Sharing secrets - yes this is a good way to confess. Maybe this is one of the easiest ways. I envy you.

[k lynn]

I told a female coworker once this lady always nice skirts to work I said if I had legs like yours I would wear a skirt too she said go ahead some of us ladys know about you

[flatlander_48]

That isn't the reason I told her. I told her because I wanted to, this just gave me an opportunity to protect myself from being exposed. The status quo is being kept.

No, I think it reinforces the idea of trust:

"Since you trust me as a friend, I want you to know that I trust you as a friend also. One very personal detail about me is...".

To me, that feels a whole lot better than just maintaining the Status Quo.