The Frustrations of Dating

[Jorja]

This morning I received a call from a gentleman asking me for a date. Yes, the old girl still has it! ;) I have known this guy for 5 to 6 years now. I am at City Hall quite often for city zoning/planning or historical preservation board meetings and occasionally see him passing by. We always say hello to each other and maybe some small talk.

Well, there is a big problem. He is not married his wife passed away 2 years ago due to breast cancer. He is good looking and well groomed and has a great personality. He is financially secure. Everything a girl could ask for, right? So what could possibly be the problem? He is the Mayor of our town and he is up for reelection.

Normally I would not hesitate to go on a date with this man. I would accept and we would go have fun. But this, this is different. You know as soon as someone spots us together they will say, who is the woman? The answer would be she is a local architect named Jorja. That would satisfy 99.9% of the people. But, you know as well as I do some reporter would dig and dig and dig until they found out that I was once a male. This would be used against him in his bid for reelection.

I told him before we could go out on a date we needed to sit down and talk. I asked him what he was doing for dinner this evening. He said, TV dinner as usual I guess. We set a time and he will be here at 7:00pm for dinner.

Damn, I hate to do this!

[Toni Citara]

Look at it this way... you're inviting a friend over for dinner, that is all. Friends do things together all the time. He at your place, you at his place, the two of you meet for lunch sometime, nothing "odd" or any "pressure". Just FRIENDS hanging out.

[kristinacd55]

Interesting quandry......of course you'll let us know how it went!!

[AllieSF]

Jorja, as usual, you seem to have everything under control. Your approach is the same as mine would be. Let him run for office and then you can truly start the dating after. His livelihood and professional goals are to be the Mayor. For him, since apparently he has not yet dated you, he needs to focus on his priorities and goals (goal in this case). Anyway, I am surely preaching to the choir, and wish you the best. It is a pleasure to learn more about you from your recent very interesting threads and posts. Thanks for sharing and as always I will await the results of your dinner encounter.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

jorja it is more that a quandry... how big is your town??? if you tell him then your situation is public no matter what he does... he could leave and tell everyone!!

i don't want to be an alarmist, but how important is your anonymity??

[Jorja]

I just went to see the results of the latest census. It says we now have 45,000 people here. So it isn't New York City or anything. I have never hidden the facts of who or what I am, however, I haven't advertised either. Those who have needed to know have always been told. I have 30 transgender girls in all stages of transition and 2 gay guys working full time for me. Its not like we hide anything. As a company we have paid our dues and have shown we get the job done right, on time and usually under budget. So I am not really too worried about my side of things if he should tell. However, I don't think he will. If he does, what else would be new? I have fought this my entire life what is one more time?

Right now, I think what is important is that we don't allow this to interfere with the elections and his career. I will let you all know what happens.

[Stephenie S]

Tell him you would like to see him AFTER the election.

S

[kimdl93]

Well, try to be discrete until after the elections. Before that, could you go an a group date?

[Paulette]

Jorja you are very correct in trying to protect the Mayor , as someone who does opposition research for political campaigns , I will tell you that your prior life would make a nifty postcard mailer from an independent campaign committee. Is it the right thing to do, and would I do it , HELL NO! But I know my competition and they would all over this like a cheap suit.

[Kathryn Martin]

I know that you are making the correct choice, but it still sucks. I hope you have a pleasant evening and he shows some format as a person.

[Badtranny]

Jorja, just a quick question; Does the SRS matter? Does it help? Won't we always be trannies anyway?

[Jorja]

Jorja, just a quick question; Does the SRS matter? Does it help? Won't we always be trannies anyway?

To answer your questions Melissa, yes the SRS does matter, to me because that is who it was done for. Does it help? Yes it does help me everyday, otherwise I would be dead by now. Won’t we always be trannies anyway? I guess maybe in our lifetime we will always be labeled trannies. Those yet to come will be the ones to benefit from our efforts just as we are benefiting from those before us.



So we had dinner. He arrived about 7pm as planned. I made baked Walleye filets in Italian style tomatoes/w a little mozzarella cheese on top served on a bed of brown rice, steamed vegetables, and a nice Ohio white wine.

We talked and I told him the situation as I saw it. He said, “Really? I would have never known.” He appreciated my being honest with him and thanked me for thinking that far ahead. He agreed now would not be a good time. Then stepped forward and gave me a kiss and asked, “So after the election you will go out with me?” I said of course I would, even if you loose ;). So I guess it didn’t freak him out too bad.

We will see where this leads.

[Jonianne]

I just wanted to say, wonderful!, Jorja!

[S. Lisa Smith]

You are such a class act!!! I hope things work out with you and him!!!

[arbon]

Then stepped forward and gave me a kiss and asked, “So after the election you will go out with me?


I really hope the two of you can try this again after the election :)

Thanks for sharing about it here.


I have 30 transgender girls in all stages of transition and 2 gay guys working full time for me. That is really neat. :thumbsup:

[Badtranny]

To answer your questions Melissa, yes the SRS does matter, to me because that is who it was done for. Does it help? Yes it does help me everyday, otherwise I would be dead by now. Won’t we always be trannies anyway? I guess maybe in our lifetime we will always be labeled trannies. Those yet to come will be the ones to benefit from our efforts just as we are benefiting from those before us.

Well, you're definitely a class act, but my questions were referencing this specific situation and not your life in general. I'm very intersted in your answer to the first question as it appears to indicate that SRS is done for personal reasons rather than societal which is counter to the point you were maiking with me in an earlier discussion.

[Katie Moore]

Wow, a very good start. I hope the rest of the movie plays this well. You both sound well grounded.

[AllieSF]

I like where you are at with him and yourself. Now, when will you invite me over for some walleye fillets?

[Jorja]

Well, you're definitely a class act, but my questions were referencing this specific situation and not your life in general. I'm very intersted in your answer to the first question as it appears to indicate that SRS is done for personal reasons rather than societal which is counter to the point you were maiking with me in an earlier discussion.

I will concede in this specific situation, I was wrong. Wouldn't be the first time and certainly won't be the last. Up to this point, I had never had a politician ask me out on a date. Lesson learned! I am sure we will have exceptions to the norm for everything. However, if you take a second to read all I wrote, you will see that I said, “Normally I would not hesitate to go on a date with this man. I would accept and we would go have fun. But this, this is different.”


I like where you are at with him and yourself. Now, when will you invite me over for some walleye fillets?

Hopefully, I will have some more fresh Walleye this weekend. You will have to hurry cause it doesn't last very long around here. :)

To everyone else, thank you for your kind words and well wishes.