What have you accomplished?

[Kate Simmons]

What do you consider you have accomplished in life, CDing notwithstanding? Have you achieved any goals you set or have you lived your life around CDing for the most part and everything else is secondary?How has CDing impacted your friendships and family and career? Would you have accomplished the same without CDing or more or less? Overall, how much of your life has been affected by CDing?:)

[kundthu1]

I am only a closet CD, but wear ladies undergarments under my regular dress almost all the time
As for as career is concerned, perhaps i would have progressed mire being agresive,and unmindful of other's feelings. But i have achieved more after my cding is, that i am more satisfied no tension, and being more empathetic and helpful towards my collegues, i have gained lots of friends and liked by almost all persons
In my personal life I am more at peace with myself, more loving and sensitive to others, which has greatly improved the atmosphere at home and made everybody to feel comfortable and open while interacting with me

[thechic]

Ive definitly lived my life around crossdressing have never been able to get away from it ,one of the biggist accomplishments ive achieved is comming out of the closet and living as a woman,and im still married with kids,comming out has made me relise who are my friends,thought i had pleanty of freinds,turns out i only had 2 and these are the best friends one could have,they easly make of for all the friends ive lost.
My whole life has been affected family wise and work wise.but i do fell that ive been relesed from the hell of pretending i was a guy.Now i dont have to hide,dont have to hide my makeup and clothing can go out as a woman and be treated as a woman,im lucky im fearly passable as a woman so dont have meny issues at work,or out in public the only coments i get at work when people dont know me is why is a chic doing a mans job,or nice seeing a girl doing a mans job.

[cassandra54]

there are several things. the first one, which may seem insignificant to some is that for the last ten years or pretty much since i met my SO, i have led a organized and financially responsible life. this includes a good job with decent income, good credit, the nice things in life with the bills to show for it. valid drivers license, registration, proof of insurance, and generally making wise and mature decisions regarding purchases and taking care of things.

the second is being aware of my talents and abilities and gaining the self-confidence and self-esteem needed to use them. don't have a problem anymore accepting that i am very smart( about 130+), being recognized by my coworkers for that and utilizing that for fun and profit. i do photography now, something i only dreamed about before. started an amateur career in entertainment and that is going well despite the fact i haven't achieved fame or fortune. yet going to start writing poetry again here real soon and maybe start writing a book.

in general i just needed to get over myself and along with the second part is issues. i've been working out my issues, things i have conflict with and learning how to live a life that is free of co-dependence, enablers or enabling and that in general is healthy emotionally and mentally. it's easier said than done.

this leads me to the last thing. i used to dress mainly for sexual reasons. not anymore i dress to become cassandra and live part-time as her. that includes being out with my SO, going out in public and learning all i need. makeup and hair are really hard. getting out the door is really hard. putting together a look is difficult. seeing as a lot if not most CD's, TG's ever go out in public, i think my four outings so far are a huge success.

and yes i am not stopping. i constantly push myself to do better at everything i do. i think i've achieved greatness in life, maybe not in the classical sense where you achieve fortune and fame, but i feel i am successful.

[Piora]

Just wondering why you posted this in Beauty Club? :)


What do you consider you have accomplished in life, CDing notwithstanding? Have you achieved any goals you set or have you lived your life around CDing for the most part and everything else is secondary?How has CDing impacted your friendships and family and career? Would you have accomplished the same without CDing or more or less? Overall, how much of your life has been affected by CDing?:)
As a closeted crossdresser, I have had very little fallout from my activities and love for female clothing. Recently, I came out to my daughter who at the ripe old age of 24 :battingeyelashes: was very accepting of my CDing. Of course, she was raised with compassion, understanding, tolerance and acceptance....so I shouldn't be surprised.

I don't think that it has affected any other part of my life...such as my job or who I married. I am divorced - but my ex-wife never knew about my dressing, so even that wasn't a cause and effect.

[Lorileah]

I have thought about this a lot recently. What have I done? Could I have done more? Why am I here?

It is never a simple answer. What have I done? I didn't think I made an impact on anyone really. I was just there. But I now know that I have made a difference to many people. They all have rallied behind me. They have joined forces to let me know that I have made a difference. It may not be earth shattering but it was a difference.

As far as being transgendered or what I wear I have achieved what I want at this point. I worried for years what others would think but there is now only one person who makes any difference, me. I have to be responsible for me. Would I have achieved as much without CDing? Yes, because nothing about me as a person would change. I am who I am. Nothing more nothing less. In retrospect though I wish I would have enjoyed the journey more. Paid more attention. My life has been good. Maybe not great recently but there are far worse things that could have happened. My choice of clothing would not have changed anything.

I know I say this and often I don't even follow my own advice, but you only get one shot at this, there are no re-rides.

[marlaNYC]

omg. like Lorileah, this has been on my mind a lot of late. part to do with my kid growing, part to do with the discovery of old projects, part to do with connecting with old friends back in the home country. raising the specter of "what is the legacy i leave my child?"

i think i've managed to achieve a great deal, mostly not even knowing it was something i wanted to achieve, but from which i got great satisfaction and (apparently) garnered a great deal of respect from others. your question makes me realize that i would most likely never have been given the chance to do any of it if my dressing had been known about...

[Karren H]

Really whether I crossdress or not hasn't changed what I've accomplished to date... No real impact. And I think I've accomplished a lot. Personally and professionally. Loving wife and great family... Got both kids through school and they have no debt to start their lives out. I have no debt either. None. 36+ years with the same company. Financially at a place I had never dreamed I'd be at. They keep throwing money at me to stay. Retirement looks like its going to be soon and very comfortable. As far as what I've accomplished crossdressing... Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would do what ived done and go where I've gone enfemme. Never. Crossdressing has made life more complicated but nothing more than a good planning and scheduling exercise for an engineer! :)

[docrobbysherry]

I lived a complete life time BEFORE I began dressing! Literally!:eek:

These r all things I'm proud of:
Attended college.
Served in the Army.
Opened my own business and became fairly successful.
Traveled all over the world for pleasure.
Got married and had a family.

Then, NOT so proud of:
Got divorced.
Started dressing and watched as my dressing has;
Distanced me from family and friends
Stood in the way of me forming a close relationship with a GG
Caused me to neglect many of my responsibilities

But, dressing has also allowed me to meet some of the most interesting, accepting, caring, and unique individuals I've met in my life!:hugs:

And, after my divorce I wasn't enjoying life and having much fun. Rite now I'd say because of Sherry, I'm having the TIME of my life!:D

[suzy1]

This question got me thinking Abigail.
My crossdressing is completely separate from the rest of my life so has had no affect on my accomplishments.

But then I realised that the combination of crossdressing and meeting and being influenced by members here has defiantly encouraged me to be a nicer person.

This is a bit of a wow moment for me. To suddenly realise this.

Suzy getting soft.

[SuzanneBender]

Great question Abigal and also timely because I have been thinking about this a lot since my return from the other side of the world.

Have I achieved a lot in life? Yes. I have a life most would dream of the centerpiece of which is my family. I have had a highly successful career that has bestowed to many gifts and experiences upon me to count. I walk through my house and every room is full of trinkets from my travels around the globe. I like to think that my career of service has also made a difference in the lives of others. Being a sheepdog guarding the flock is a great calling that seemed to suit me.

Has being transgender made a difference. I would say yes. Not so much in my career. I have kept the two apart. I think it has had an enourmous negative impact on my realationship with my wife so much that I doubt I will ever let any of the remainder of my family know. I think the biggest impact has been on friendships. I am very guarded and my friends are limited in my male life. Most of my friendships are limited to those I have served with or my TG sisters. Both situations lend themselves to lifelong and very strong friendships due to shared experiences and hardships.

[NathalieX66]

I'm relatively happy in life, my TG life is separate from my real life but oddly it's somehow merging.
Job & money's great, cool fame, ecellent retirement package, awesome friends, I just need an intimate friend.
It's weird with me, my life is across between Adam & Jamie of Mythbusters, and Zooey Deschanel character on tv.
And like Susan, I keep my trangender side secret from my career, but I'm getting some flak in my corporate environment for ngrowing my hair long after one year. Hah! no one has noticed the laser on my beard.

[Phylis Nicole Schuyler]

CDing used to be in the background of my life until about 16 years ago. What have I accomplished in life? I have to say that keeping a very positive attitude ( even when the ghosts of Vietnam visit me every night-3 tours) thoughout my life is the greatest accomplishment. I've retuirned to my art (watercolor pencil paintings) and am the happiest I've been other than when I crossdress.