With women who talked about their boots...

[heathr1]

Just had my hair cut.

The hairdressers were all women and while I was sat in the chair, nearly all the time durung my haircut two of the hairderssers chatted to each other about their new leather boots and one of them was wearing hers too!

I found it hard to control myself and not join in with the conversation.:)

[Sharon]

Why couldn't you join the conversation, Heathr? You don't need to out yourself as a crossdresser to state what style boots you like to see on women.
Sometimes, we (not just you) are so self-conscious about the stigma associated with our lifestyles that we allow ourselves to almost completely withdraw from even innocent conversation.
Speak up! Don't allow yourself to withdraw from people who could, potentially, share valuable insight with you, and perhaps even become a friend.
The shell we enclose ourselves in becomes more and more impenetrable the tighter we pull it closed.

[knelson]

Women love to be complimented on their shoes and obviously these women loved their boots too. When in drab, I would have joined in and expressed by feelings about their boots too. And whew, do they feel good on too.

[urban gypsy]

Sharon is so right , we do sometimes feel that we can't join in a conversation because we might let things slip, but everyone loves a compliment. so just be yourself and don't be shy.
If you only knew some of the things that I have done without being a shamed you'd be amazed.
But thats another story.

[heathr1]

Mother used to encourage me to complement women on clothes/make-up/hair, and I still do it easily today.

Shoes and boots I'm a little shy about.:o

[Joanie]

Mother used to encourage me to complement women on clothes/make-up/hair, and I still do it easily today.

Shoes and boots I'm a little shy about.:o

Would a woman find it strange, do you think, if I complimented her on her eyeshadow? This woman who works in the grocer's bakery has made sandwiches for me on a number of occasions and she has perfect eyeshadow, eyeliner, mascara. I was so close to saying, "you do a great job with your eye make up, it looks great on you" but that really seemed like something only another woman would do! I was afraid if I even started, I would also say, "care to share some tips?'' So I kept my mount shut. Damn frustrating!!!

[tifftg]

Sharon, you are so on target, I find myself pulling back, when it would be safe to join in to the conversation.

Joanie, maybe make a compliment of how lovely her eyes look, rather than a specific reference to eyeshadow. Ok, did I just negate what I said to Sharon?????

tiff

[andreaboots]

As a teacher,(college) I actually have many conversations about topics concerning female attire and...boots with my students who are of all ages and backgrounds. In my figure drawing class I have my models dress in many types of costumes to create interest in the human form - clothing is just an extension of the human figure. Several models have chosen knee and thigh boots to compliment their outfits. The drawings,(usually in pastels) are quite interesting and visually powerful and amazing. So, during the critiques we talk about the costumes and about the boots and make-up as well. Being an educator, I have quite a few opps to discuss just about anything and I do. All one needs is a little confidence and knowledge about something you're familiar with. Being a Cd'er talking about something fem like boots should not be a problem because YOU know something about it. I would probably say something like, " If I may say so, I think boots are very attractive on a woman. They make her appear very sexy and very cool!" I know, Ive used this line just the other day when two of my older students were talking about the coming cooler weather and that they were discussing where would be the place to buy a pair of boots. Well, naturally I:cool: joined in and the rest is history. Anyways, now I think I'm ramblin'. But try the above mentioned angle, it might work and what do you have to lose??? Take care gals!!! XXX