Sort of a unique problem? or Im not sure how to explain

[Myojine]

So I met someone, a guy who is REALLY into transexuals, he even described the body of a trans girl as the image of perfection and it seems he has his sights set on me.
Im flattered.. but also kinda awkwardly... whats the word. Uncomfortalbe about it. Ive known him for a while and we played MMORPGs and computer games together via the web.
He's really intrested in me, and he wants to help me, but with a catch, he wants me to... keep my penis.
Um, im not exactly sure how that would work... but I know theres plenty of "tranny porn" out there.
Now im not asking because of just one guy, im asking because there have been SEVERAL Guys who have stated the same sort of terms and conditions, as well as a girl that I ended up in a relationship with. She wnated to have hetero sex, but none of the "dumb ass guy drama" as she stated it.
It seems that I have a knack for attracting "Tranny chasers" for lack of any better terms.
Now me i'd love a wonderful meaningful relationship and id be more than willing to meet someone middle ground on the issue, like they let me be a girl as much as I can be without having to get rid of my "man parts" inbetween my legs.

Is that even possible or is this just some fetishism some guy/girl wants in their life 24/7 365?

I have another issue with it though.
My um... penis is pretty... um God i hate to say this but truth is truth. ITs pretty big. and therfor HARD to hide. Id LOVE to wear a one peice swim suit or a bikini but this thing is Impossible to hide.
in terms of math, the mass even when "limp" is to much to just tuck away and expect it to not be visible.
It really sucks...
How can a transgender hide a um... bigger one. And how will hormones affect it? (obviously relating to the previous inquirey)
Because this guy is kinda thrilled mine is bigger than his... im not, but he is...


I apologize if this is really ****ing wierd or what not but I kinda need to know....

[Jay Cee]

My understanding of folks who seek out pre op transexuals is that it is more of a fetish. Maybe it would last a while, and I'm sure that the sex would be interesting. Sooner or later, though (as with pretty much any relationship based upon the physical), your partner's desires and priorities will change. That will probably mean the end of the relationship. Sorry to be a downer.

As for hiding your gear... have you tried a gaff?

[Melody Moore]

My experience is with tranny chasers that they only want a fling and to fulfil a sexual fantasy.
Most of them are gay men hiding in the closet wanting gay sex but justify that it is OK, because
for all intensive purposes you look like a female. I haven't found one yet who is willing go out on
a date or anything because the reality is they don't want to be seen with you in public.

So I think you have a lot of wishful thinking to ever believe that it could ever amount to anything more.
You really should talk to Andrea about such men & she eventually fell in love with another trans woman.

See: http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?162737-Life-is-good-finally

[vikki2020]

I'm on a couple of "mainstream" dating sites, and I've found that there are an awful lot of guys out there that are ok with a girl like us. I'm listed as a woman, but I always make sure it's clear that I'm transgendered. As for a LTR, that does seem to be a stretch, but I'm not really looking for that either. Not right now,at least. I believe the TrannyPorn sites have a lot to do with these guys infatuation. Who knows. I have met some guys,that seem very genuine about a relationship, but they tend to always live far away, hmmmmm??

[Aprilrain]

in spite of the conventional wisdom it's not impossible to find a man who is interested in a relationship. In my limited experience it does seem to be older guys who are willing date and court women like us. older being like 40s, 50s. I like a little grey though ; )
I met my BF on line and it has worked out so far, we have been dating for almost 3 months now, and I do mean dating! We go out to eat we go to the movies we hang out and watch TV. we even sometimes sleep together and DON"T have sex : o If he was expecting to get much out of my penis I think by now he would be pretty disappointed. I use it to pee and occasionally I masturbate but as far as sex is concerned it's functionally useless.

[Stephenie S]

I agree with April. Of course it can happen. And we are all SO glad you are getting the attention you deserve.

That said, dear, we all want you to be safe. So just be careful, OK?

Both physically and emotionally. Be careful.

Tranny chasers are a fact of life. Keep a hold of your heart. Remember, you are a person who deserves respect and kindness. Be careful.

Lovies,
Stephenie

[Amber99]

That's not a condition that anybody has the right to ask of you, don't even entertain the thought unless you are comfortable keeping it regardless.