Does CD get in the way

[Laurel B]

How much has this happened to you? I am still in the closet to the people I know, with a few exceptions. Lately I find myself wanting to dress more, being an avid runner, both cd'd (mostly) who does marathons and ultras I need to keep the mileage up. Well I have a long run scheduled but I was invited to watch the college football game the night before. These are people that I am not friends with per se, but people that our kids are involved in some of the same activities. I found myself non committal to attending because I want to go on the long run the next morning. I feel that sometimes my dressing gets in the way of some of these things. Even though I am not a big drinker, just being up late the night before would not be conducive to running the next day. I guess long story short, Has dressing gotten in the way of your "normal" activities?

[Piora]

Rather the opposite for me. Normal activity seems to get in the way of dressing, most of the time. I think many of us feel that way rather than the other. But, probably there has also been the odd time where I didn't do something I regularly do, because I really wanted to dress.

[Laurel B]

I guess I never thought of it that way.

[S. Lisa Smith]

What happens to me is that I schedule an out of town dressing session, usually in Richmond at my sisters, and there is always surf. It makes me crazy!!! So dressing gets in the way of my surfing. Oh well....

[Kaz]

Yeah, for me it is all about balance and finding a way to make it all work. I have work (non CD), I have my various bands and music activities (non CD), I have my family (non CD), I have general 'boy stuff' - drinks with friends, extending networks, etc.. (non CD).... and then there is my CDing... Conflicts? Balance?

[gabimartini]

Rather the opposite for me. Normal activity seems to get in the way of dressing, most of the time.

Ditto! I feel the absolute same way.

[Aprilrain]

Hmm? I found that my lie of a male life was getting in the way of being female but that's just me

[Laurel B]

Yeah, for me it is all about balance and finding a way to make it all work. I have work (non CD), I have my various bands and music activities (non CD), I have my family (non CD), I have general 'boy stuff' - drinks with friends, extending networks, etc.. (non CD).... and then there is my CDing... Conflicts? Balance?

I have all of those also, but I find myself wanting to dress more and more.

[Cheryl T]

When I first came out to my wife about 8 years ago we agreed that we would not let that happen and it hasn't. Our decisions are based on other things and sometimes dressing wins and sometimes it doesn't, and that's fine.
Years ago when I was in the closet it did affect me that way. I would "steal" time to dress and not get things done around the house and it would also take away from time that I would spend with my wife. Now we are closer than ever and spend even more time together, doing everything.

[PretzelGirl]

I am with Kaz. It is all about balance. Your "male" life has its needs and its priorities and you should attend to those. Your femme life has these things too. Both need attending to. To ignore one can cause stress in your life depending on the level. Now there will be times when you have to prioritize one over the other. Generally we find it is the "male" side that needs the priority since it is the one that is publicly visible. But it can go both ways. If you have been going a while without being dressed and you are feeling it, is watching a football game with a friend more important?

It can be a tough call but just remember that a life should be filled with all parts that make it feel whole and complete. Leave out a part and there is a void that can negatively impact you.

[April_Ligeia]

No, crossdressing has not gotten in the way of any non-crossdressing activities. I simply dress appropriately for whatever activity I am engaging in. I went to see Judas Priest with friends on Friday night, in guy mode. Today I am home with my SO, in girl mode. It really isn't hard.