Sharing....

[IamToni]

I count my blessings that I have a wife who is not only supportive and understanding of who I am and what I do, but actually encourages me to be myself. We have a very strong marriage which is underpinned by the fact that we are best friends and share everything.

Sharing is a wonderful thing and can take many forms - a shared interest, a shared thought, a shared joke, the list is endless. What has blown my mind this weekend though has been the sharing of "feminine items" and how this has made me feel.

We often share lipsticks and I find this rather exciting, but this weekend when getting dressed for a girly night in my wife passed me her deodorant and suggested that the more feminine scent might be more appropriate when wearing a dress. A small thing for sure, but to me it signalled a level of acceptance that filled my heart with joy.

But this was nothing compared to the next act of sharing. I'm sure many CDers rifle through their SO's underwear drawer from time to time, but I hadn't imagined that the reverse could be true. So you can imagine my surprise when my wife emerged from my underwear drawer with a pair of my pink lace trimmed footless tights in her hand and asked if I minded her wearing them. Did I mind? Far from it - I was practically ecstatic at the idea!

The whole idea of sharing my femme items with my wife conjured up a vast array of feelings. On one level there was pure excitement, yet on another there was the feeling that my crossdressing is just a completely normal thing - what could be more normal than someone borrowing an item of clothing? The fact that she feels relaxed enough to wear my female clothes blew my mind. As for the fact that she looked a million times better in them than I ever will, well c'est la vie :)

[stacycoral]

Toni, it really sounds like you have a great marriage, my SO wears my heels from time to time, but it is the only thing beside asking if i have a new pair of pantyhose she can use, i do know how great it is to beable to share the joy of being dress as a girl with someone that you love. I wish you the best

[JamieG]

My wife has borrowed my tights on a few occasions, too. The first time, I joked, "See, there is some advantage to be married to a crossdresser."

[SarahLynn]

I'm so, so damn... oh you know. Whoo whee but you are one lucky lady. Ooh, but i'd like to be in your heels with this.

SarahLynn

[Cynthia Anne]

What a beautiful and loving thread to read! Thank you for sharing! Hugs!

[Maria 60]

It is a great feeling but it only happened once before a wedding she first asked if she could borrow my support spanx slip, and then she put on her pantyhose didn't like them and then asked me for a pair of mine. Usually before a party or wedding she will ask me to try on her dresses that she chooses so she can see what they look like on someone else and makes it easier for her to decide which one to wear. That's fun, it makes me feel like a model.

[Michelle 2]

Hey Toni thanks for sharing your story. My wife to date has only borrowed a double strand pearl necklace to go with a LBD she purchased from David's Bridal for a fundraiser we attended. I felt at that point we turned a corner of understanding and felt closer to her than ever. I am sure she will borrow other things from my wardrobe in the future. Just yesterday she purchased some nail polish remover for me and we spoke about her new AAH bra like we were sisters. I am really enjoying this special connection with her and I am grateful that I am married to such a wonderful woman.

Michelle

[kimdl93]

Toni, congratulations on having a wonderful relationship with your wife. It is very fulfilling to share this part of yourself within a relationship and the act of sharing cosmetics, clothing and jewelry takes on a symbolic significance....plust its very smart home economics!

[Jillian Faith]

My wife and I are about the same size (10) on the bottom but I'm larger up top (L) vs her (M). We are able and often share skirts, pants and a few dresses.

[Katecat]

I wear my wife's stuff. She is a size larger than me for pants tops fit wonderfully though and so do her bras. Unfortunatley she doesnt know -I might accidentally leave something out when she gets home one day ;)

[BRANDYJ]

I agree. This is a beautiful and loving thread to read. My SO has given me some of her things, but I would never ever invite myself to her clothes. So I'm not one that would rifle through her drawers without permission. Some things are still private. But like others, I'd be thrilled if she borrowed my fem clothes. My past wife used to borrow my things all the time and I loved it. But as I remember, she always asked first.

[evadan]

I bought a bra but the band size was too small for me. Turned out it was just right for my wife. Now she wears it.

I'm loving it!

Eva

[Jeannie]

I know exactly how you feel and it is almost un-describable (evidently that's not a real word in spell check, but in this case it is). When I came out to my wife the agreement was that we would share everything and not keep secrets from each other or tell our deepest secrets to anyone else. So far I am not aware of her braking that agreement, I know I haven't.

[Marissa333]

The closest I can come to this is we recently traded panties. She bought a 6 pair, I bought 6 pair and we didn't like the selections we made for ourselves, so we traded. I am waiting for the day she asks to borrow some hose or something like that.

[IamToni]

Thanks to you all for the very positive comments. I'm still rather overwhelmed by situation and have to keep pinching myself to make sure that I'm not just dreaming. I really do appreciate what a big deal it is for a wife to accept, let alone encourage, her husband's wish to crossdress. It's heart warming to hear that others are in a similar situation, but I really do feel for those that aren't.

[Barbara Ella]

This was a wonderful post that I saw, but could not get back to until now. Good reason for the OP to make an entry after a week or so to respond to the other posters. It is heartwarming for all, and especially those who are struggling with the outing to the SO to read words like these, and the responses. A lot of us are hoping for such an outcome and can only say that you really better take of that girl.

Babes

[IamSara]

This is a wonderful thread. To date my wife and I only share panties. She is only OK with this at this point. She does not like to see me in them but will leave the drawer open or put a bunch on the bed for me to choose from after we have taken a shower. Unfortunately she is struggling some with my crossdressing. We are talking and talking but as the thread started communication and no hiding are the secret. Eventually she may get to the point of sharing more. I hope so anyway.

[*Vanessa*]

Yup the Ex like to riffle through my things all the time. Even borrow my forms on occasion when she wanted her girls to sit up a little higher in her dresses. Totally agree, it creates a very unique bond.

[Joann Smith]

Sharing...is that what its callled ...seems more like i be getting robbed to me, I got two of them cleaning me out....The wife gets into my makeup, The daughter gets me for my clothes ...seriously have been considering going back to hidding my stuff again...

Joann

[CloserthanthisGG]

Toni, I totally agree. I have made it a goal to lose 40 lbs so that Lisia and I can share all of our clothes. I am down 9 so far! It is such an intimate thing to be able to share with your SO. I am thrilled to be able to do this with my love! Best wishes to you and your lovely wife, I hope you have many many happy decades together!!

[Miss Maxine]

My girlfriend is always borrowing my lip gloss. I usually borrow her eyeliner. It's fun sharing makeup and makeup tips.

[UNDERDRESSER]

Gah! I'm so jealous right now! One of my biggest fantasies, ( well, the realistic ones anyway ) is to have a girlfriend/wife that I can share clothes with.

[Miss Maxine]

Gah! I'm so jealous right now! One of my biggest fantasies, ( well, the realistic ones anyway ) is to have a girlfriend/wife that I can share clothes with.

Don't give up hope! ^_^