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12Andy777
11-22-2011, 02:31 PM
I was thinking the other day, what if I had been born female? Would I be happier? Less happy? The same? I came to the conclusion that I'd probably be the same for the most part. I feel perfectly fine in my male body, but my gender identity I see as both boy and girl. If I was born a girl, I'd love the freedom to express my feminine side without consequence, and I'd probably be equally comfortable in a female body, but I'd still want to have guy time too, and present myself as male sometimes. I can't be 100% sure about this of course, but I imagine it would be that way.

What about others, though? I'm just curious to hear what you all think your lives would be like.

kimdl93
11-22-2011, 04:18 PM
Again, this is kinda like entering the Twilight Zone (it has nothing to do with tween vampires, for you younger reader ;) ) I suppose I could imagine being born a woman, but then would that be "me" or some other person. My frame of reference would be entirely different. Might as well ask what if you had different parents or were born in India instead of Minnesota.

RenneB
11-22-2011, 04:31 PM
Since we are all conceived as female, that's why males have mamary glands, my answer would be a definate yes. Why I ended up this way, I have no idea. Maybe it's God's way of giving us the best/worst of both worlds.

I have a female brain and she wants out soooo bad. But I've made a life with this other part of me that doesn't want to give it up either... Someday, I'll wake up and this will all have been a bad dream, I'll put on my little summer dress throw on a pair of heels fluf up my hair and head out the door to the girls school.....

Renne....

Kaz
11-22-2011, 04:49 PM
I remember around puberty wishing I would wake up as a girl, but it never happened... so I kind of got on with it as you do... I am just conflicted and conflated in how I synthesise all this stuff. Am I a girl? NO I am a father and grandfather... and proud of it! Am I a regular guy... NO they piss me off, boring, boring... move away... and so the paradox emerges... I am am me... this sad conflicted crazy guy... would I prefer to have been born female? Something says yes please... but I have lived a life that has been amazing in so many ways... I look at my grandaughter (5 last Saturday)... and I think about 'stuff'... She is amazing... would I wish her away for the want of living a different life?

Marleena
11-22-2011, 05:30 PM
If I could try being a female for a week I kinda think I might want to switch. :) Thing is I'm happy being a CDer right now. I'm sure it's not easy being a GG. Tough to imagine this one.

KellyJameson
11-22-2011, 06:04 PM
The grass is always greener goes the saying. My mind (now) would be better suited in a female body but that is the paradox because if I had been born in a female body I would not have the same mind, be the same person and have had the same experiences that shaped me into the person I am today and I am very thankful to be me because of the happiness I have from the inner peace I have been fortunate to aquire through much effort, luck and heartache.

To be human is a wonderful terrible experience because the gifts we are given that separate us from other animals come with a very high price and we still have many of the instinctual behaviors of our animal cousins that to some degree enslave us all at different times in our lives.

But RenneB's reply rings strongly with my own truth, She wants out of this body in a bad way and I feel at times I'm walking through a very dangerous minefield where any misstep could result in a lost limb or piece of my soul but we do not fully live until we learn to take risks. It is always a question of finding balance.

sissystephanie
11-22-2011, 09:08 PM
I was born a male, and love being a male. Yes, I do crossdress, but only because I love the fit, feel, and look of feminine clothes. I have never had any desire to actually be a female and still don't have! But if God had made me a female, than so be it!!

allie45
11-22-2011, 09:16 PM
I think if I had been born female, I would have turned out to be a tomboy. So I would have probably missed out on dresses and skirts anyway!
I love crossdressing.
You just can't please some people! LOL!

Raychel
11-22-2011, 09:18 PM
If I had borm a girl I dont think I would be happy at all. I would have to crossdress in guy clothes. And we all know how bad they feel

Jilmac
11-22-2011, 09:47 PM
I've wondered from time to time, what life would be like if I had been born female. How much different would things have been? Would I have had the same interests as a guy? would have I persued the same coures of study, same line of work? Would have I gotten married, raised a family, been a grandma? One can only wonder, one can only speculate.

Sophiewouldbenice
11-23-2011, 06:34 AM
Since i am learning, that being dressed up at home every possible minute seems to be my destiny (beside possible girl friends denying it) and I am going further and further (well I have defined limits, probably I would not define them that strong anymore, if I would be younger). Yes being born a girl/woman would be great, lets say at least being born under more or less the same cultural and society circumstances...

I also wished so so often to wake up feminin or at least tried hard to think of such stuff before sleeping to manipulate my dreams (happened to work rarely).

Kate Simmons
11-23-2011, 06:55 AM
I would have had at least half a dozen kids and would be a Grandmother now, many times over. I love children and my priority would be family like many other women.:)

KrystalA
11-23-2011, 07:06 AM
I've wondered a lot about this question, but I don't think there can be an answer, because if I'd been born a female I wouldn't be the same person psychologically and emotionally as I am now. My thoughts and desires and tendencies wouldn't be what they now are. I'd have been raised differently and I'd have experienced different things in life. But, all that being said, I really do wish I could magically wake up as a female some morning and remain female for a few days just to truly know what it feels like to have the female anatomy and the feminine outlook on life, and then switch back to being male. Who knows, I might never cross dress again. LOL... Yeah, right.

josee
11-23-2011, 07:19 AM
My life would have been so much better I believe. Free to be who I am, dress pretty much how I wanted to. Live. How I wanted. I wouldn't have married my first wife.
I think I would have been a lot happier.

Desiree2bababe
11-23-2011, 07:28 AM
I would definately be healthier if I'd been born female and I know I would have enjoyed sex more.

TGMarla
11-23-2011, 08:45 AM
It's hard to say, really. Had I actually been born female, I probably wouldn't enjoy dressing in women's clothing as much as I do now. Instead, I'd probably take it for granted, gripe about hosiery, complain about high heels hurting my feet, wear pants most of the time, moan about monthly periods (and then the tribulations of menopause), and claim that men simply don't understand women. However, as a guy who loves to emulate a woman, it's easy for me to say that yes, I'd rather have been born female. At least then, I probably wouldn't have gender dysphoia.

Suzy Parker
11-23-2011, 09:17 AM
I would not be here to post this.

meri
11-23-2011, 09:27 AM
I have been a non-conformist since I was very young. I assume I brought that attitude / personality into this life. This "approach" on life works pretty well in a male oriented society. Drop the same personality into a female body and it would have been more difficult for me to succeed in this society.

I believe one of my life's lessons is to balance my M and F energy to make better me. Not sure that would have worked as well from a female body platform.

Hence, I think I am just where I need to be... this time around.

Jordan
11-23-2011, 09:32 AM
If we had our choice I would have been a female what a great feeling that would be. Seeing I cant have that I guess I'll have to make do with what I got

Tina B.
11-23-2011, 09:33 AM
Impossible to say, had I been born female, maybe I wouldn't have been born a Transgendered person, I wouldn't have carried a life time of guilt and shame with me, because of my choice of clothes. Maybe I would have felt like a total disappointment to my father, and maybe I would have been a daddy's girl. Mom would have made all of those pretty dresses for me, as well as my sister, and I would have felt I fit in. Would life be any better, who knows, I could have married a wife beater, or worse, if there is anything worse. But hopefully at least I could stay on one side of the gender divide or the other.
Tina B.

*Vanessa*
11-23-2011, 09:52 AM
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By now... I'd be a crack wh*re hit'n ya'll up for treats. <dark humor>

I have no idea - I would just be me with way better cloths I guess.

Patti Remick
11-23-2011, 10:04 AM
I was thinking the other day, what if I had been born female? Would I be happier? Less happy? The same?

What about others, though? I'm just curious to hear what you all think your lives would be like.

With my luck if I had been born a female Id be one of those that wore fake moustaches and put a large rolled up sock in my briefs...

BillieJoEllen
11-23-2011, 12:35 PM
Since very little on I have always considered myself to be female. I think I would of been a very feminine girl/woman. I am sure I would have advanced far more greatly in life had I been a true gg because CDing takes an enormous amount of time and energy. I was an still am constantly thinking about CDing/TSism.

nikkijo
11-23-2011, 12:44 PM
i wouldnt be posting this, or crying every night id be far happier..

sometimes_miss
11-23-2011, 10:31 PM
I wasn't one of those who were born wrong or anything, as far as the self gender identification is concerned. I'm a 'created' crossdresser. If I were born female, I suppose I may have had a more normal life. But there weren't any girls in my class in my neighborhood, either. So I really don't know how it would have worked out. But I doubt I would have been molested (at least by the same person) as the situation that existed would have been quite different.

ReginaW
11-23-2011, 11:01 PM
I think I would love all the girly girl stuff I love now when I CD, however I'd do all the tomboy stuff that is considered masculine. (i.e. watch/play/follow sports, play video games, watch crude tv shows, etc.)

Aprilrain
11-24-2011, 12:40 AM
If I'd been born a girl I wouldn't be here that's for sure!

KylieA
11-24-2011, 01:31 AM
I think about the same. I would still be a geek, just a female geek. I might have stuck with premed instead of computers. But still a geek. I doubt I would have been a total tomboy. I would likely have a decent interest in fashion etc. I would have liked to look good.

noeleena
11-24-2011, 04:36 AM
Hi,

Well thats too easy for this kid, i am one ,so no probs there, there is a catch tho. im male as well. see i get it both ways,

Tho as it goes im just a woman who's different. the ? for me is would i wont to be a all out male or all out female . i love where i am .where i'v allways been .

...noeleena...

Suzy Parker
11-24-2011, 08:38 AM
I would be modeling for Secrets in Lace. I would have a modern look combined with retro glamour.

Kitty Sue
11-24-2011, 08:48 AM
Knowing me I would be a FtM CDer. :)

eluuzion
11-24-2011, 09:40 AM
Oh, let’s see…assuming that nobody has locked me up in a mental institution by now...:heehee:

I would probably be like Jenna Jamison (is that the name of that blond?) and have already concluded a successful porn career by now and be living happily ever after in my beach house someplace, living off the proceeds from my investments…and having big pool/beach parties that I would invite all of you to...:D

Then again…at some point, I would likely just end up on this forum anyway…looking at all of you (us) CDs from the same mystified perspective as the SOs and GGs that are currently on this forum, :heehee:

Whatever I ended up doing, I am sure I would be happy doing it, just like I am now.:battingeyelashes:

:love:

Mollyanne
11-24-2011, 10:38 AM
Would i be happier if i were born female? I can only answer it this way------if i knew what i know now i would be much happier as a female then a male!!!!!!

Molly

Joanne f
11-24-2011, 02:09 PM
If i had been born a genetic female would i now be looking at it from the other side and know some of what it is like to be a FtM and the struggles that they have in life.

Amy_Olivia
11-24-2011, 02:39 PM
I'm not sure to be honest. I'm quite happy being a man and just occasionally cross-dressing. If I'm honest, I am happier when I'm in femme-mode. But does that mean I'd be happier as a girl? How do I know that if I was born a girl I wouldn't spend time occasionally cross-dressing as a guy?

Robyn2006
11-24-2011, 08:05 PM
I have no doubt that my life would have been far better had I been born female. Christ, I am female… everything about me screams this. All my work to become as feminine as possible drives me nuts. God there be, there are a few questions I'd like answered.

Sophie86
11-24-2011, 08:08 PM
I would be much less happy. Crossdressing would be no fun at all. :sad:

Ashley Lynn Swift
11-24-2011, 08:35 PM
If I had been born a Girl I don't think I'd be the girl I am now having had to struggle through life. In fact I'm pretty sure I would have grown up to be the Paris Hilton type. I also think I would have been very dangerous 7 days of the month as everyone already say I have a bad enough attitude when I'm mad or upset. Can ya imagine what that would be like amplified by PMS.

Maddie22
11-25-2011, 12:52 AM
If I was born again, It wouldn't matter if I was female or male as long as I was cisgender. I've struggled with my identity all my life, and life would be much more simple had I been born cisgender either way.

12Andy777
11-25-2011, 02:45 AM
Thanks for all the replies, everyone. It looks like it can be confusing for all of us, which is always comforting to know :). One thing I will say to the girls here who are miserable as guys, don't let life pass you by, transition if you're this unhappy. Make sacrifices if you have to, but you have the power to be whoever you want.

Claire Cook
11-25-2011, 08:10 AM
Sometimes I think some of the anxieties I've had in the past wouldn't have happened had I been born female ... then again, I'm sure I would have had others! Like dealing with the sexist attitudes of the 50's....

5150 Girl
11-26-2011, 10:54 PM
I hate men, and beeing forced to live as one totaly sucks!

Rachel Morley
11-26-2011, 11:02 PM
Well, I feel sure that if I wasn't married to the woman I am married to (those who know my story might get where I'm coming from) I feel that if I was born female I would be happier. That said, I am who I am and my life with my wife Marla is totally "living the dream" and so I feel I have everything I could ever have wanted and more regarding love, life and TG-ness combined.

Melody1985
11-27-2011, 06:28 AM
If I was born a female, I would probably be just as happy if not happier.. (this will sound shallow) if I was pretty.

A girl's life would be one I think I could fully embrace.. Especially if I could fast forward the menstrual cycle every month. One thing's for sure though, I would be a lesbian!

Melody1985
11-27-2011, 06:32 AM
I would be much less happy. Crossdressing would be no fun at all. :sad:

You do have a point there Sophie!

Jonianne
11-27-2011, 07:58 AM
I would be right back here on crossdressers.com exploring my masculine side!

Makina
11-27-2011, 09:10 AM
I would be happier. I would enjoy my feminity everyday if I want, I would be a wife and a mother. But I'm sure I would fight to have the same rights as males, I would fight against injustice, male chauvinism.