CyberBullying and CDing

[Briana90802]

Recently my SO and I have become more aware of the problem of cyberbullying and I must say that when I come here I'm so glad that there aren't any cyberbullies here. She is part of a nice website called my fitness pal and they aid in weight loss but she is always amazed that for a website that is suppose to be supportive they have many cyberbullies.

Has anyone encountered cyberbullies while enfemme? Would love to here about your experiences and how you may have dealt with them.

Btw thank you all, especially mods, for keeping this a great cyberbully free zone!:thumbsup:

[Shadeauxmarie]

The anonymity of the internet allows some people to try out different facets of their personae. Or not.

[Niya W]

Recently my SO and I have become more aware of the problem of cyberbullying and I must say that when I come here I'm so glad that there aren't any cyberbullies here. She is part of a nice website called my fitness pal and they aid in weight loss but she is always amazed that for a website that is suppose to be supportive they have many cyberbullies.

Has anyone encountered cyberbullies while enfemme? Would love to here about your experiences and how you may have dealt with them.

Btw thank you all, especially mods, for keeping this a great cyberbully free zone!:thumbsup:
Ignore it. I'm a child of the net .I've found that when ignore these people they get even more pissed. THe odds of me meeting them is slim. Yes I've have had people harass me in chat rooms for months . The thing as adults we can just turn it off.

[Marleena]

I agree that people get real brave behind a computer, sad but true. It sounds like that website needs to be monitored better. This place rocks for the type of content we discuss. The mods/admins do an excellent job here.:)

[DebbieL]

The good thing about the Internet is that cyberbullies are often exposed on the internet, making it easier to monitor them and discover that they are also real-life bullies as well. The internet has also made it easier to flush out pedophiles, sadists, rapists, and many others who previously would leave almost no trail.

[Nelson]

They are the kind of people who can't express themselves in a face to face situation, or say nice things to your face, then rubbish you to other people. They are so far below your radar, so undeserving of your attention that you really need to zone them out. I am very sensitive to what people say, so I know it can be hurtful to come across bullying, I know it's hard to not recall what was said. But at the end of the day, you are above it all and this site is a perfect example of a safe zone. And yes, the moderators need to be recognised for that.

[angpai30]

I just got home from the local tri-ess meeting and i stopped off to get gas. A construction worker noticed my flats and red nail polish and flicked a cigaret at me. I paused to see what it was and he laughed in my face when i looked at him. I noticed they had gotten behind me when i turned out onto the street. When the light turned green I quickly took a left and then traffic caught up so they couldnt follow. It didnt scare me like it usually does when something like that happens. Let alone cyberbullying. Cyberbullies have no life and get their jollies from bullying others. Just ignore them and eventually they will realise they wont get an arrousal out of you. The best solution is to report them for abuse and if nothing changes then something more needs to happen, but never react in any direct way to any cyberbully or there could be trouble. Ignore them, but nothing will change if you don't take action to stop it either. Remember the womens rights movement. Women took action which now allows for them to get away from abusive situations like an abussive marriage. Women before had no option, but to remain married before the rights movement. Also, a community is a community because we all work together. So no cyberbullies because we dislike them and we all want to feel safe, secure and beautiful. So hats off to all of you for keeping this place safe and stay beautiful all yall!!

[sandra-leigh]

I am a mod on a technical forum. We do not get much trouble there, but that is definitely partly because people know that the mods are paying attention: an atmosphere and reputation as a well-regulated forum go a long ways in keeping people calm. Never completely trouble-free, of course.

We are pretty careful on that technical forum about remarks that might be perceived as bullying. We do end up allowing some negative remarks, but only when the remarks are actually helpful from a longer viewpoint. For example, if someone is obviously not competent in a field of study, then better they should know it before the course-drop deadline.

It takes good policy and conscientious effort to keep a popular forum well behaved.

[Stacey Summer]

I frequent a forum for an MMORPG I used to play and I think the mods do a fantastic job to keep cyberbullying away. At the same time though they are aware that everyone has a different viewpoint and that exchanges can get heated. It's not unheard of for someone to call another person a rude name in a post but take it much further than that and the mods come down on you like a ton of bricks. It's a fine balance but it works.

I would also say that there is a big difference between a bully and a troll. I'm not talking about what the media likes to call a troll. Someone, like the person who posted on Facebook that a footballers' child should die, is not a troll, they are just sick.

I read many posts on this forum before I signed up to get a view of what it was like and I chose this forum over others because I liked that any form of bullying is vigorously stamped out. So yes, well done mods!

[Cynthia Anne]

Ignore it! Or do what I do spend your time here! Gee I love this place! Gee I love the girls here! Gee I love the Mods here! Hugs!

[MsJanessa]

cyberbullies are folks who are usually to cowardly to confront people in real life---haven't seen a lot of them around CD/TV sites--encountered one here years ago--2006--got to the point where he was sending me threats in my private mail---saying he was going to kick my a**---when I asked if he was threatening me (duh!!) he quickly backed away and I never saw him on this forum again--can't even remember his name now--I suspect that the people you are having problems with will be a dim memory a year from now

[DanaR]

It's really sad that there are bullies everywhere. I think that they are being out more and more, but they are there. So if you are out, be aware of your surroundings, and be careful.

[EllieOPKS]

kristen - Sorry to hear of your bad experience with the construction worker. For the life of me, I can't figure what pleasure people take in pulling crap like that. I think it has a lot to do with why I stay closeted. One of my faults is if someone confronts me in an aggressive way like flicking a cigarette at me, they have sacrificed all options at that point - we are going at it. The right thing is to walk away but I just can't do that.
As far as a cyber bully, they don't even warrant a response. Ignore the idiots and they will get bored and go away.

[christina s]

Trolls exist on every website. The best thing to do is to befriend who you can and if no one on that site is helpful . Find another website.

[Julia_in_Pa]

What's a little strange is that I'm a bit of a bully in real life and not so much online.

In the end I usually get what I want anyway.


Julia

[EllieOPKS]

yeah Julia, you may be a bully in real life but you are a very attractive one :)
Ellie

[Julia_in_Pa]

Ummm.....Thank you young lady. :O)



yeah Julia, you may be a bully in real life but you are a very attractive one :)
Ellie

[ArleneRaquel]

IMHO most bullies are really cowards and very insecure.

[Julia_in_Pa]

I only got one from that admirer and I quickly sold it and bought a 98 Saab. :O)


Julia



I hope you have a Rolex or two. :)

[Donniesr]

When he flicked his cigarette at you you should have picked it up and flicked it back at him...then give him a face full of pepper spray to teach him some manners..believe me..pepper spray WILL teach them manners..I've used it a couple times..It does work with bullys..

[Jeannie]

I was bullied some in school but I learned ignore them and they went away. The internet seems to make some people a lot more brave than they really are because of the anonymity of it. I always thought that if they were confronted face to face most would tuck their tails and run. I don't think I have ever been cyber bullied and that may be due to the fact that I don't go to chat rooms. I type so slow that by the time I respond to what is being said the subject has changed and what I say makes no sense, so I just don't go to chat rooms at all and my problem is solved.

[Donniesr]

I guess cyberbullying is a bit different than real life bullying..as in the case with the cigarette being flicked at you..Like I sais in my earlier response, just pick up the cig, and flick it back at him,,then pepper spray the moron..but as for cybebullys,,,as others have said, just ignore them and they will go away..what they live for is your response. no response..no bully..

[Stacey Summer]

ignore them and they will go away..what they live for is your response. no response..no bully..

This doesn't ALWAYS work. Years ago a couple of friends and I were targetted by some snot-nosed little brat in a campaign clearly designed to ruin our reputations in the area. None of us took any notice of him and no one else believed anything he was saying. Then he took it a step too far. I was tipped off by his sister that he was going to try hacking my computer with the intention of uploading some rather disturbing pictures to my HDD and then call the police. I sat and waited for him, then when I detected his attempts I led him down a blind alley, so to speak and re-routed the photos back to his computer. I also created an .exe file out of the "Restart" command line and uploaded it to his Startup folder so that every time he booted his computer it restarted in an endless loop.

I kept a record of everything he was doing, called the police and he was arrested and charged with possession of child pornography (The pictures he was trying to upload.) Last I heard he did 3 years inside and is on the sex offenders register for life. Revenge acn be so sweet sometimes!