Best friend finally makes contact.

[Melody Moore]

Yesterday was the first time in almost 18 months I have heard from my best friend of over 20 years who stopped
talking to me after I told him that I was intending to transition. He came back with apologises for the way he
behaved & for shutting me out like he did. He said his hardest problem was knowing how to talk to me. He said
before he could talk to me about anything, but now he wasn't sure how to talk to me. I told him that I was still
the same person and that I had many years to get use to the way he was. So I told him he could still be his
usual self around me and that he didn't have to try and change who he was to suit the company he is with.

Anyway, he is coming over to see me in the next couple of days which will be the first time he
has seen me after nearly 18 months on hormones. So I think he is in for a bit of a shock there :heehee:

I will keep you posted on how things progress from here, because we were always
very good close friends so it will be interesting to see how this all changes now.

[DanaR]

Melody, I'm sure it will be an adjustment for him. By him contacting you, that says a lot for your friendship. I'm sure it will go fine. Take care!

[Melody Moore]

Dana, I am fully aware that there was an adjustment for him and I never wrote him
off as a lost friend because they do learn more about being transsexual as well when
they talk to others, or from news articles etc that they read. Both my parents who are
divorced rejected me initially and I expected my father to be the hard one, but as it
turns out, Dad is now accepting and it is my mother has proven to be a huge bigot.

But I still haven't given up hope that one day she too might turn around. However who
I really want to hear from the most are my kids. I have been following the dialogue on
Facebook between them about me and it seems they are close to talking to me again,
but I won't push them and I will wait for them to contact me.

I think my main message is that you just have to give people time and space & never
to assume that people won't ever accept you. There are always a few causalities in
these types of situations, but I think that the best relationships always survive.

[IamSara]

Melody,
I am so glad your friend is contacting you again. It is really great when someone finally is beginning to accept us as we are instead of what they think we should be or what we were portraying in life. I hope your kids and your mother come along also and begin talking to you again. That is the only way they will ever truly heal the hurt they have in their hearts from you being honest and doing what you have to do in your life. Thank you for sharing and keep us posted on the outcome.

[DanaR]

Sometimes it is difficult to figure out what people are going to do. It took my daughter quite a few years to fully accept me, after she found out. I'm not transitioning, but she found out that I crossdressed when she was 19. Prior to that we were very close. Let us know how everything works out.