Oh God, here goes. My first time out ever.

[Melissa Jill]

I wish I could say I prepared and that I had my make-up done, I was shaved all over and had a lovely outfit done.
But honestly I look awful. Im blatently a guy in a wig, I just can't stand to put this off any longer.
Its dark outside, my housemate knows Im a crossdresser and I just need to do this. Im going out! God I hope Im ok.

[Melissa Jill]

woow, what a rush. I wish I had stayed out longer but around the corner I heard a couple of guys so I panicked and did a 180 turn.

[StaceyJane]

Melissa, that's a great first step. It will just get easier and you will get more adventurous. Enjoy!!

[Dana921]

Congratulations! You are off to a good start even if it seems like only a small one as far as the actual outing, it is or was a huge wall to get over! I hope you can find a safe place to go and talk with others!

Dana

[Veronica Lodge]

Big first step. Congrats.

In no time at all you'll be walking right by those guys.

[KimberlyJane]

Congrats dear!! Makeup, Dress, Go Out, Repeat. Cheers!
Huggs! Kimberly

[Brynn_A]

Way to go Melissa! It's always a bit un-nerving..but sooo much fun

[IamSara]

Great first step Melissa!!! As you go out more you will get more and more confident. I am proud that you got the courage to make that first step.

[Eryn]

Big first step, but remember"

"Fail to prepare, prepare to fail!"

If you feel well-prepared that will give you the confidence to face the little unknowns, like those guys talking.

[connie23]

Melissa,
Great first steps. I know you will feel more confident now that you have made the plunge. Also, every time you go out you will get better at make-up, your style, your hair etc. One little suggestion, don't forget accessories. I used to go out without a watch, bracelets, and earrings. My friend who does my makeovers at MAC told me to accessorize and it was the best advice ever.
'Great job --hugs,
Connie

[Alice Torn]

It will get a little easier, but, there will be good, and not as good times. I struggle with fear yet, too, have not been out in over a year. Way to go!

[kimdl93]

Stay away from dark alleys and places where troublemakers hang out and you'll be fine, Melissa. With time and practice, you will grow increasingly comfortable with your presentation.

[Carla Stevens]

From someone else who's just made their first forrays out & about...Congratulations Melissa. :hugs:
As Connie mentions, accessories can make a huge difference & don't forget a handbag...if nothing else it gives at least one of your hands something to hold. Even an over the shoulder back needs 'steadying' with a hand. ;)

[Loni]

great first step. i also look like a guy in a dress, but to the mall, food store, gas, restaurant. no problem. just remember you are there for (X) event, how you are dressed does not mater, have fun doing it.
yes you will be noticed but good people will say nothing, the sa's at the stores only want to go home at the end of there shift.
(unlike a ex macys employee).
just never go were a proper lady would never go. and if you must "go" try to find a family room first. in time you can use the lady's room.
it is all good,.

take your time and be safe.

.

[Melissa Jill]

Thanks. Definetly looking forward to going out again. Though I only managed it yesterday because I wasn't sober.

[RenneB]

Melissa, I know exactly how you feel girl. You walk outside and there's this new noise coming from your feel. I've never clacked before you think and then you remember the heels that you have on. And the cool breeze on your legs feels great tooo..... Baby steps girl.. But once you do it you'll want more.....

Out and lovin it....

Renne.....

[yas159]

Well done Melissa... I wish i was as brave as you... They say, the first steps are always the hardest. Now you can move forward and enjoy even more experiences...Yas

[luuv2dress]

Congrats Melissa like everyone says its the baby steps that help you become comfortable, i started out at nite like i think most of have and it becomes easier and easier...welcome to the outside world :)

[jsmith9213]

well, I figure that you'll never see these people again for the rest of your life; it doesn't matter what they think; it's definitely less stressful than coming out to a SO; and we only grow by doing things outside our comfort zone. If I were half as passable as you Melissa, I would do it all the time!

[linda allen]

Melissa,
Great first steps. I know you will feel more confident now that you have made the plunge. Also, every time you go out you will get better at make-up, your style, your hair etc. One little suggestion, don't forget accessories. I used to go out without a watch, bracelets, and earrings. My friend who does my makeovers at MAC told me to accessorize and it was the best advice ever.

Yes. I find that I am far more observant of women's outfits than I used to be and you seldom see a woman (other than a bag lady) out in public without a necklace, bracelet, rings, etc. Even cheap stuff from Walmart will help to pull it off.

[linda allen]

.......... don't forget a handbag...

Yep women carry them unless they are jogging. Around here, it's a "purse". Same thing. And it's a place to keep your keys, phone, wallet, makeup, etc. Lots of women's outfits don't have pockets and even if they do, they aren't meant to be used.

[Caroline2tone]

Hi Melissa, congratulations. I cannot live that far from you (let's face it Wiltshire isn't that big) so if you want some moral support to venture out please feel free to get in touch.

Caroline XX

[pinklilly211]

I was at a motel last nite. The doors to the rooms are outside and I needed a smoke. So here I am with nothing but my forms, bra and nitie and gown on and a car full of guys pull up. What to do? I just gave them a big smile and said... This sucks that you have to go outside just to have a smoke. They answered Yup. Have a good night. Wow!
Huggs Lilly

[Melissa Jill]

Hi Melissa, congratulations. I cannot live that far from you (let's face it Wiltshire isn't that big) so if you want some moral support to venture out please feel free to get in touch.

Caroline XX

You with Gloscats? Ive been a couple of times.

[Jenny Doolittle]

Just like those first steps of your kids....they are full of smiles and joy!

[Caroline2tone]

Hi Melissa,
I have PM'd you. I am with Gloscats, been a member for about 5 years I would guess.

Caroline XXXXX

[inori]

Gratz~~!!! At least you have the courage to do it, so be proud of yourself!!

[Beth Mays]

capri pants were my first thing to wear out in a large enviroment, add french tips on toes and it can be pass as a guy that cares how he looks or ... ? but the point is it is more about how you carry yourself no matter what you wear.

[MarcyHunter]

Gone cottin choppin.