Watershed moment

[ReneeT]

I am travelling home this morning from Hartford, CT and didn't do much special to get ready. I am dressed very casually and asexual - jeans and sweater-have on minimal makup and just a pair of small diamond studs and a silver cross for jewelry. Absolutely no one has paid attention to me. So, i was really (and pleasantly) taken aback when the baggage screener at the security checkpoint called me ma'am in a very matter-of-fact way. While i probably put too much stock in this, it was the first time ever for me when i wasn't really trying. I was just me. Coincidentally, i have been at corporate meetings all week in male attire and just last night i was thinking that it's getting harder to look like a guy in male mode. If the physical changes of transition are a continuum from boy to boy/girl to girl/boy to girl, i think i am between bg and gb. I sure wish i had been taking regular photos to catalogue the changes. I will start now at least.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

:hugs: Thnx for sharing that! It's a wonderful feeling to make progress.

Getting feedback from the rest of the world that you are in your true gender role is very fulfilling

[Leanne2]

Renee,
You have been pretending to be a girl for a long time. Now you are going to have to pretend to be a boy some times. As time goes by that will be harder and harder to do. That is a normal part of becoming to look like what your mind has been your whole life; a woman. Leanne

[Kathryn Martin]

It is always a great moment when being recognized for who I am, like you were in this encounter. I am like you, although further along, when you hit the stage where people simply recognize you for you are, or the precursor to this when they cannot quite make the determination it is a watershed. Just take it as the affirmation that things are changing.

[Michelle.M]

. . . and just last night i was thinking that it's getting harder to look like a guy in male mode.

That is wonderful! I have the same issue here. I am a shapely A cup now (I cannot go out in a T-shirt in boy mode) and with HRT-induced facial changes and electrolysis I am starting to worry about my ability to pass - as a man. Nice problem to have. If I can hold on for 3 more months I'll be able to transition into my RLE easily.

[Traci Elizabeth]

That is indeed good news Renee. Nothing like being called ma'am when you are not even trying.

Trust me, once you get to where you are a woman on the outside and well as the inside, things that were important to you in your transition become so natural you give them no forethought or value.

Once you transition, you really could care less about being called ma'am or miss because it becomes a given "what else would they call you!" So recognition from others referring to you as a woman becomes totally uneventful.

It's kind of crazy that we put every ounce of our being into being physically seen as a women, and each milestone brings one closer to that goal. But once you reach your end-game that of being "Woman," everything goes back to normal. Only now, you are normal "female."

So hopefully if you transition for all the right reasons, the point at which you have completed your transition will become anti-climatic.

Just look at how excited we are at every little transition accomplishment, and how many of us are live in the pink clouds from time-to-time. But once you are there, you become just like, and no different to, any other female.

And that is what you ultimately wanted anyway. Right?

[ReneeT]

Traci, you nailed it. I just want to get on with my life! This transition crap is such a distraction! I want to be me, be seen as me, be accepted as me, and be judged on the content of my character, not the color of my eyeshadow! ( absolutely no disrespect meant towards Dr King. He walked the path when there wasn't one)

[Longing2be-Trisha]

That sounds great Renee that you are getting ma'amed without trying!

Hugs