Caught off guard

[Melissa.Lynn88]

I just wanted to share a story that happened to me today. I was at my girlfriend's house sitting on the couch using my laptop. Then all of the sudden I noticed her mom was staring at me and I looked over and smiled. Then out of no where she asked if I was wearing mascara. She said underneath my eyes it looked like it. I said no but kind of choked up because I wasn't expecting it. I had dressed the night before but I used makeup remover and thought I had gotten everything.

This situation has made me a little nervous but my girlfriend said not to worry she was only joking. But I'm the type of person who keeps thinking about things and let them bother me. I just don't want her to suspect anything because I'm not ready for anyone but my girlfriend to know about this.

So that's my story if anyone has any comments or can share similar experiences please share.

[BethCD]

Wow Melissa, that's a tough one. She obviously nailed you........Is there time to create a "costume" excuse or just everyone says that about my lashes....? Ask your GF for some help too. GOOD LUCK........
Beth

[Karren H]

My wife can tell when I've been playing in makeup a mile away! The lashes always get stained or darkened no mater how well you remove your makeup.

[CindySTJ]

Yes you do have to be careful but I have been asked if I was wearing mascara and told I have beautiful long eye lashes that most girls would die for and I have never in my life done anything with anything to do with my lashes. Tell her it is just something you were blessed with.

[Krista1985]

I was on my way to get coffee this morning when I noticed my slightly curled, dark lashes in the mirror!

The drive-thru Dunkin Donuts was the obvious solution. Yeah the make-up remover doesn't work 100% on lashes. I'm about to re-apply, and be more diligent in removing it before bed.

[DeniseNJ]

Does your GF know you dress??? you look cute in your avatar maybe the mother was fishing trying to figure you out!!!

[sissystephanie]

As others have said, mascara doesn't always all come off. You could have just told your GF's mother that people say that to you a lot!! Tell her you just have nice eyes! But don't worry about it, it is not worth that!!

[Launa]

Ya, you have to be careful with the mascara. I dressed one night years ago and thought I had it all off by the morning. I went to work that day and at the end of the day the wife said she could still see it on me. From that day forward I've tried to be a little more careful and get it all off.

[Allisa]

Oh how many times I've been questioned about my lashes ,I just reply "I don't think so".Maybe try just a little less or even try some partial false lashes.Bye-Bye.

[Being Paige]

yes removing mascara is the worse thing to do, no matter how goo of a job you thought you have done before you go to bed, there is always black in the morning even if it is just the goop in the corner of your eyes.

[Cynthia Anne]

You could of said! YEAH SOOOOO!:eek::D Hugs!

[ColleenCD]

Melissa,

Imho:

Mom may have her suspicions, and it's probably not the last time she may question you, but your gf seems to have your back. If you're not ready to explain CDing, then you either have to get deep in the closet or get self confident in sharing honestly who you are.

Best wishes,

Colleen

[yas159]

It sounds like she is on to you. You just have to be a bit more careful in future. My ex girlfriend commented once, when i popped around to her hse, for a coffee. Like you i thought i had got rid of all of it. I could have died and my excuse was quite feeble really. Being caught off guard is a nitemare. My ex never knew for certain i dressed, but she had her suspicions.... good luck in future, we have all been there :-) yas x

[satinchrissy]

I have had a girlfriends mom see that I was wearing panties (shown over my jeans while on the couch). Its all in how you play things off. If you want them to know, go that way. If not, then you lost a bet, etc. To each their own on how they deal with it. No universal answer fits every situation.

[kelseymichellelee]

I'm guessing she knows since you couldn't explain the mascara away. Sort of related to this topic, it's why i don't ever do anything to my eyebrows, it's too easy to spot when a guy has his brows done. IMO, doing your eyebrows (after concealing facial hair) is one of the biggest things you can do to feminize your face.

[noeleena]

Hi,

Heck thats pretty good youv .....got eye lashes ......to put maskra on wow.... ya ya i know youv been done.....
You could not tell with mine. nothing there to worry about, with or with out.

...noeleena...

[Annie D]

If your girlfriend knows, then chances are that if her mother suspects anything she will talk to your girlfriend about it and if your girlfriend knows about you, then she will share it with you. Of course, if your girlfriend doesn't know then she may ask you about too. The way you find out is to ask your girlfriend.

[Dannigirl]

Oh ya, my wife busts me everytime I have had makeup on. I have scrubbed and scrubbed and I have a couple of great removers, actually, make that 4 things I use, but there is always a little eye snot left over later. It also depends on what kind of eyeliner you use, some I find leave more of a residue than others. If she asks again, just say, you betcha, love the stuff and she will walk away.

[Melissa.Lynn88]

There is a little more to this story that happened later in the night. Me and my girlfriend were getting ready to leave her house to go back to mine. I was packing up my stuff and then her mom again asked me was I wearing mascara or if I had lined my eyes. This time I was able to play it off a little better but it still was kind of awkward.

I asked her if I looked bad and she said no I actually looked good which I guess is a plus. But she just kept saying something on me looked different. My girlfriend was trying her best to try and say things like he got his haircut and shaved and things like that. Its kind of funny because I was thinking to myself that has nothing to do with my eyes looking different. But its good she has my back at least, she knows everything and is accepting of me.

So that's the end of the story, I'll just have to wait and see if she says anymore. But I'm definitely going to try and be more careful going forward.

[docrobbysherry]

I don't use make up to dress. Fortunately, because I'm lite complected. And, like many have said, when I have used it, I couldn't get it all off. I strongly suggest u use the same reply I would if someone notices:

"Yes, I was trying it out for the heck of it. What do u think? Would I look better with a little eye make up?"

[Barbra P]

Hi Melissa

I strongly suspect that your gf's Mother suspects. You need to talk to your gf, I'm assuming from what you wrote that she DOES know you dress, and see if she has any insight in to how her Mother would react if and when she does find out for sure that you dress. The be prepared for the next Inquisition and fess up. You may find that her Mother is cool with your dressing and even supports it. Good luck with your gf's Mother because I doubt that the questions are going to stop, if she suspects she's apt to keep pushing until her suspicions are confirmed - she just might not be prepared to take NO for an answer.

I use makeup remover wipes and they do a fairly good job of removing most of the eye makeup, but not all of it. Some additional washing with soap in the shower usually does the job, but again not always. What I have found to be the best remover of eye makeup is Baby Oil, but it is best used before taking a shower because you do have to wash off some residual oil film and that is best accomplished with a washcloth and a little soap.

[darci.c]

Say, "Yeah, I'm thinking about joining a band. I've also been looking at getting a tattoo. I guess I always wanted to be different, and not give a s__t like a rock star."

[Joann Smith]

going way out on a limb here ....you think your GF may have discussed yalls little secret with her mom?

[nicolecdgal]

What a great topic! My wife busts me every time I wear mascara and eyeliner. I think it's the eyeliner that is more difficult to remove. I look in every mirror in the house and swear it is all off. But she comes home and barely glances at me and can tell. I have since switched to baby oil to remove my makeup and she hasn't been able to tell since! Baby oil is the key!

[jamie-upstate]

My daughter said that to me one time . I thought I had it all off. Somthing make me thing she knows


I just wanted to share a story that happened to me today. I was at my girlfriend's house sitting on the couch using my laptop. Then all of the sudden I noticed her mom was staring at me and I looked over and smiled. Then out of no where she asked if I was wearing mascara. She said underneath my eyes it looked like it. I said no but kind of choked up because I wasn't expecting it. I had dressed the night before but I used makeup remover and thought I had gotten everything.

This situation has made me a little nervous but my girlfriend said not to worry she was only joking. But I'm the type of person who keeps thinking about things and let them bother me. I just don't want her to suspect anything because I'm not ready for anyone but my girlfriend to know about this.

So that's my story if anyone has any comments or can share similar experiences please share.

[Kathy Smith]

Olive oil is great for removing gel eyeliner. I don't know whether it works on mascara though, I haven't tried it for that.

[Missy Tanya]

You could have always said, that silly daughter of your's..She was getting made up and taking too long as normal. Next thing I knew she shut me up with a swipe of mascara.. But don't you think it looks good, we do!!!

Other than that, just pass it off to being young and enjoying life. She will get over the mascara much easier than the new Tat on her daughter..

Tanya

[chloe cute]

It happened to me once. My friend askednme if I used eyeliner, I was so surprised she noticed that.

[Melissa.Lynn88]

going way out on a limb here ....you think your GF may have discussed yalls little secret with her mom?

Joann, I never really thought about that but I don't think that's the case. My girlfriend knows how important to me it is to keep my dressing just between us right now. As others have been saying the mascara and eyeliner seems to be the hardest stuff to get off. I know my eyes usually look a little different for a little after taking it off. I just never realized how noticeable it really was.

[Noel Chimes]

Hi Melissa. Don't get too upset about getting caught with mascara. My daughters clock me every time I use it. However they have been told that I have very long eyelashes for a "guy" and that's where they get theirs. So I just leave it at that. They don't know about Noelle so all the other things I keep under wraps. Personally I have let my girls come up with their own explanation and let things go at that. there's an old saying, " sh&& don't stink till you mess with it".

[Kristy_K]

I don't think she would have said it looks good if she wasn't open mined about it. Maybe she is as open mined as your girl friend.

[Angelofsomekind]

I had the same situation, only it was my dad asking me that.

[Katie83]

My next door neighbour often asks me if i'm wearing mascara, when i have been wearing it the night before. It's obviously still visible! I've come to the conclusion now that she knows i crossdress, as she's said to me about a cd she used to know.
So i think your gf's mother knows or at least suspects you. I wouldn't worry about it though, she'll probably be fine with it if your gf is.
Katie

[kimdl93]

yeah, she's definately picked up on the mascarra. It is possible that a little color persisted along the water line - that's where I find it most difficult to remove. If I were you I'd ask your GF what she thinks. Her mom apparently doesn't object - she seems genuinely curious.

[DanaR]

Olive oil is great for removing gel eyeliner. I don't know whether it works on mascara though, I haven't tried it for that.
I use olive oil too, it works great. I believe that your gf's mom knows.

[Chickhe]

Here is the perfect answer... 'I don't think so....' go look in the mirror and say...'huh, that's funny, I don't see any'.... Shrug your shoulders and say...oh well.... and decide on that attitdue too...

[RenneB]

I hear that Melissa. Usually the sleep will wash the remainder of it away onto your lower eyelid. When you wake up in the morning, you have to wash off the remainder.... IRL just tell them you must have gotten dirt on you face from working on the car or something..... Then there's the one where they say, why are your lips so red.... keep red chapstick with you.... Why do your earlobes look like you were wearing earrings?... I have a really tight cover hat that I wear when working on the car in the garage.... Why are your finger nails reddesh? ... must have been using red spray paint in the garage....

Pays to have a garage.... LOL..

Renne.....

[Meg East]

Mascara and eye makeup are meant to stay on. I stopped using them after I noticed it didn't come off after a shower.

[andrea35]

That happened to me also, at first I said really! I got something in my eyes? when the same person asked me again I said: a lot of guys are doing it now a days, does it look bad? she said, no actually it looks good on you.

[KristyPa]

1. I always pay attention to getting all the eye liner off and sometimes I just don't get it all off. It's hard to tell sometimes.
2. Girlfriends mother. My ex mother-in-law was the reason we divorced. She always had her nose up my a**.

[MarcyHunter]

Gone cottin choppin.