How to walk and act like a girl?

[sarahcsc]

Can somebody teach me how to walk and act like a girl? Is there a video I could watch? I tried youtube but there weren't any proper instructional videos... :(

[DanaR]

Check this out:

http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=walking+in+heels+tutorial&oq=walking+in+heel&aq=1&aqi=g5g-s1g4&aql=&gs_sm=c&gs_upl=7089l16328l0l19722l23l20l3l3l3l0l461l3233l2 .5.2.4.1l14l0

[prene]

One thing i do is never walk in big steps.
I walk like i am wearing a tight skirt.
I also always keep my legs together.

[Katie83]

Keep your shoulders back, with your elbows in. Lead with your hips when you walk.
Most importantly is relax.
Katie

[sarahcsc]

Ugh... its hard... >_< I guess it definitely helps if you have hips.

[Clueless]

I've heard that wearing heels helps, as it changes your posture. I've never tried wearing heels though, so I don't know if that's true or not.

[Alisa]

This might help...http://www.biomotionlab.ca/Demos/BMLwalker.html

[marlaNYC]

even without heels, concentrating on one foot in front/almost in front of the other helps the hips sway naturally. relaxed shoulders and arms, the arm swinging with the hip all help to feel that fluid motion. i spent a few months being really conscious of batting my inner forearm with my hip on every step to try and get/feel that sway.

@Alisa, that's a fantastic find, thanks for sharing!

[Karren H]

Should have paid more attention when your mother was explaining that to your sister!!

[sarahcsc]

Wow, the biomotionlab things is really cool! thanks!

[erickka]

Try going to a public place (the nearest mall, etc.) where a lot of GG's of all ages tend to congregate, and casually observe these lovely creatures in their habitat. You can learn a lot...not to mention get a lot of style and fashion tips for free.

[DanaR]

Walk with a book on your head, to help your posture.

[IamSara]

that Biomotion thing is really cool. But the others are right posture is the most important thing in my IMHO.

[Chickhe]

Pretend a thread is attached to the top of your head and it is pulling you upright and you are not allowed to break it. This will force you to hold the correct posture.

[Acastina]

Can somebody teach me how to walk and act like a girl? Is there a video I could watch? I tried youtube but there weren't any proper instructional videos... :(

Sarah, that's a tall order. It takes GGs years to develop their own styles and personalities, and learning it (while un-learning the giveaway guy stuff) as one would take a college course just isn't the same. We were, after all, trained from early childhood to excise all traces of femininity from ourselves, and undoing that training takes time and effort. Observe critically, especially girls and women you see as attractive and what you want to emulate. The rest is practice and feedback. Our house has a long hallway with a full-length mirror at one end; perfect practice area.

Prene's advice of shorter steps, definitely, and be prepared to walk more slowly rather than speeding up short steps to move at the same pace as you do with longer, more typically male steps. Marla's also onto something with a narrower step pattern. Watch fashion models do an extreme version on the runway. It encourages that subtle hip sway. That biomotion gadget is a real eye-opener. Few things give a CD away faster than plodding along with toes splayed out (10 & 2 o'clock) and arms just hanging like a linebacker's.

Then there's sitting properly. Males tend to occupy more space, spreading their legs and arms out, while women tend to be more compact and tidy. One subtlety is smoothing one's skirt with a swipe of one hand just before taking a seat; it should become second nature. The most feminine way to cross legs is at the ankles; next is knee-over-knee. You would think that nobody needs to be told not to rest one ankle on the other knee or splay one's knees out while wearing a skirt, but...even in pants, it's macho and un-ladylike.

Women tend to be more deferential and less assertive. Feminists would give you an argument here, but we're trying to pass, right? Women smile more for no particular reason, especially at children and puppies. Try to learn a soft little grin that says the opposite of threatening.

In the end, there is just no substitute for practice and critical feedback. Posture is key, and Katie's advice to relax is also important. Everybody in sight really isn't studying you; keep telling yourself that and think of how little attention you pay to most passersby.

Having lived-full-time for nearly a decade back in the 1980s, I was pretty much compelled to develop the whole thing, and now it's automatic to change modes. My wife used to comment often back when we first got together, that my whole affect and some of my personality changed noticeably. Lucky for me she fell in love with the girl first and got the boy as a bonus.

[Debglam]

Sarah, that's a tall order. . .

Awesome!!! reply Acastina! Great advice!


Try going to a public place (the nearest mall, etc.) where a lot of GG's of all ages tend to congregate, and casually observe these lovely creatures in their habitat. You can learn a lot...not to mention get a lot of style and fashion tips for free.

This is what I would do ( I do it). Just watch the GG's.

Good luck,
Debby

[wishing2bali]

Not sure if it's for everyone, but I picked up a pair of 2 1/2" loafer pumps recently, and I can say without question that they helped with my posture right away. They force you to walk more feminine, I feel. Also as previously said, find a long hallway, and a full length mirror, then it's practice, practice, practice!! Good luck.

[RenneB]

Sure Sarah just take this little pill and poof you're a girl. Geez I wish it was that easy...

Walking is a constant thought process while scanning the field of view for obstacles... cracks, grass, uneven sidewalk, air grates, etc. At the same time, while you've managed to scrunch your waist down to 0.7 of your hips, your hips tend to move differently. Walking in heels can best be practiced by picking up a pair of kitchen chairs one in each hand then outstretch your arms and walk. You'll see. One foot in front of the other almost like a tightrope, but short steps....

Once you got the walking mastered then you get to try stairs. Up isn't that bad, but down is downright scarry. One slip and you've got a broken ankle...

The rest comes from watching GGs.... not the ones at the Wa*Mrt, the ones at the real department stores.... Take millions of mental notes and when you think you've got it, take a video of yourself and you'll say, OMG I forgot the arms which sway from the outside in around the hips and th.....

Just watch the GGs... and practice, practice, practice.....

Renne.....

[Brittany CD]

From what I've seen from girls, a lot of times walking involves putting one foot directly in front of the other. As for acting like a girl, think of a female friend of yours and base girl self off her

[Misti]

Can somebody teach me how to walk and act like a girl? :(

Sara, no single response can possibly cover such a broad and very important thread as this one is for us CD/TS novices, I feel. Yes, there are others like it scattered throughout the forum, on YouTube, et al., to help us, but this is the one I choose to follow, thank you very much. Two (2) "Positive" thoughts immediately came to mind as I read through the myriad posts: :daydreaming:

1) Somehow, by hook, crook and/or miracle I walked perfectly in my very first 4" high 'RED' heels during my first makeover as Misti; which BTW elicited a simultaneous chorus of "Holy S#1t" gushing out of those first five (5) persons ever to meet/see Misti out in the waiting room of Glamour Boutique 2 "My own initial response was: "Houston, I think we have a problem?"; :o

2) Ever since then, I have been practicing virtually 24/7 at home wearing 2" high heels working to "perfect the walk." I feel that it has worked because my SO has commented, without any thought what-so-ever, on two (2) separate occasions recently, about my "Bum (her words) swaying and looking beautiful!" YES! :battingeyelashes:

3) And added this one after watching the Biomotionlab URL
This might help...http://www.biomotionlab.ca/Demos/BMLwalker.html Thanks for that one Alasa; :drink:

4) And added this one when I “timed out” and couldn’t find the thread again when I logged back in? (I bookmarked it this time and See my title here). :brolleyes:

MORAL TO THIS STORY (and one that I used to teach to my Nationally Ranked Girl's Amateur Softball teams, as well): "Practice doesn't make perfect, only 'perfect practice' makes perfect!" Plus, "Never be afraid to make mistakes; JUST LEARN from those mistakes; and NEVER MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE TWICE! THAT'S WHAT'S CALLED: LEARNING!" :2c:

L&R :love:
M.

[Acastina]

"Never be afraid to make mistakes; JUST LEARN from those mistakes; and NEVER MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE TWICE! THAT'S WHAT'S CALLED: LEARNING!" :2c:

L&R :love:
M.

Wow. Quote of the night. Thanks. My late father was still enrolled in university courses when he died suddenly, one month short of 88, nearly nine years ago. Stop learning, and soon stop living. I've been CDing for nearly 60 years, and I learn something about it every day.

I've quoted my songs here before; another sample:

"I've lost track of my regrets
They're many more than few
And the days I would forget
Are many more than blue"

Lessons learned lie ahead.

Happy Holidays (no War on Christmas intended ;-))

–Annie

[Jolie Deen]

The BioMotionLab is Great!!! @Alisa

I have a few tips that help me. :)

1. Walk with your feet placing in front of each other (like walking on tightrope). Point the toes even in flats. Small and slower steps.

2. Keep the knees close together, imagine there tied together with a small rope.

3. Wiggle the hips (rotating from lower neck), like a pendulum.

4. Tuck in the elbows close to the waist and pull back slightly.

5. Try not to sway the shoulders to much.

6. Keep that head high!!!

Relax!!!

And remember practice and practice well. Practice makes permanent, not always perfect.

x

[Sarasometimes]

Get a vision of how you should walk then practice a lot! We have two things to overcome to do this well. first we have to suppress the way we usually walk and secondly, but a bigger challenge is overcoming our anatomy. GG's have wider hips so their walk isn't just learned it is biomechanical. We need to fake that part without overdoing it. I found that keeping your elbows in by your sides and sort of sauntering helps!

[Misti]

Wow. Quote of the night. Thanks. My late father was still enrolled in university courses when he died suddenly, one month short of 88, nearly nine years ago. Stop learning, and soon stop living. I've been CDing for nearly 60 years, and I learn something about it every day.

I've quoted my songs here before; another sample:

"I've lost track of my regrets
They're many more than few
And the days I would forget
Are many more than blue"

Lessons learned lie ahead.

Happy Holidays (no War on Christmas intended ;-))

–Annie
No, thank you, Anne. I like you father's quote equally, as well. Plus, your songs have the same knowledge power, too! Happy Holidays to you and yours!
L&R
M.

[Carmen]

All this year I have been closely watching how GG's walk, particularly the ones that are the same height as I am. Several GG's seem to be struggling with their walk. To me it appeared that many are not used to wearing heels and are having difficulty, many exhibit poor posture...slumping shoulders, lower back out, chest in, several swing their arms like a GM, etc...
I realized that my walk is my walk. I'm not prancing down the runway at a fashion show, but I'm walking casually and carefully, feet in line, lower back in, shoulders back, head up, making eye contact with those that glance ini my direction and smiling.
Yes there are many GG's that always walk the ideal walk, and many that dont.

Personally, if you tuck as I do, I will need to walk in a careful manner, always mindful of those certain sensitive items that have been carefully secured and 'locked away'. Tucking also requires me to sit carefully and not just plop myself down on the seat...ouch!

From the moment that I finish dressing and flip my long hair back over my shoulders, everything changes, my persona, attitude, poise, approach, identity, everything shifts and I abandon all of those GM traits learned over a lifetime. The world feels very different to me. Because to the world I am a girl and that is my role from that point on.

It just feels sooooo good!

[Beverley Sims]

Put one foot in front of the other and go forward into 2012.
When there, return all the eye contact you get and smile.
Try and say hello in a soft voice. or just move your lips.
If you are a little more outgoing, wear a nice skirt, 3 inch heels, one foot after the other, tight jumper, straighten your back, poke your boobs out, smile and go for it.
Merry Christmas and all the best for 2012.
After reading this I think I had better take some of my own advice.

[Kaz]

I'm with the 'watch the GGs camp'! It is a good way of learning and it is also fun! You will also realise that they are all different! So a lot is about feeling good with your own body and balance. Walking in heels is also very different from wearing flats! And different heel heights present different challenges. Have fun!

Beverley's advice about mouthing hello is brilliant!

[Misti]

I'm with the 'watch the GGs camp'! It is a good way of learning and it is also fun! You will also realise that they are all different! So a lot is about feeling good with your own body and balance. Walking in heels is also very different from wearing flats! And different heel heights present different challenges. Have fun! Beverley's advice about mouthing hello is brilliant!

You know, Kaz, seems there's an awful lot of that same kind of brilliance floating around here this joyous season. So, in keeping with these wonderful holiday feelings: "Seasons Greetings to one and all!" :love:
L&R
M.

[Elana]

Thanks for the biomotion link, it makes it to much easier to visualize walking fem,