What are your positives of 2011??

[Kristy_K]

I see people posting all of their negative happenings of 2011.

What about the good things in life??

What are the good things that you chose to focus on to keep you going instead of the bad things that could drag you down.

For me, I could look at it negatively that it took me over fifty years to transition or I could look at, since I finally decided to transition, all of the enjoyment I've experienced over the last 3 months. All of the new friends I have now and all the wonderful experiences that I have had.

That doesn't mean I haven't had any bad experiences, but I would sooner focus on the good things that happened to me. Like the girls that are calling me there girl friend now and not a guy that won't even talk to me at work. Or maybe a complete stranger that encourages me to keep being me and not that person that looks away in disgust. Or even all the girls that have given me hugs and not the people that won't even take a chance to get to know me.

So let's hear it girls, what great things have happened to you in 2011?

[Rachel Morley]

What about the good things in life?? What are the good things that you chose to focus on to keep you going instead of the bad things that could drag you down.
That's easy for me. I'm an optimist. I always look down the "food chain" rather than up. I'm still married to the woman of my dreams. I'm still employed. We still have a house and food on the table. We're both still healthy (as far as we know). We don't have large debts. Another day above ground ...etc etc. Always remember no matter how bad it feels, there is always someone (lots actually) who is worse off than you? Don't believe me? Read the world news.

[Kathi Lake]

2011 has been a good year. My biggest positive? Well, at first, it seemed like a life-changing negative. A few months ago, my wife found out about this site. No, she hasn't signed up or anything (nor may she ever). Instead, due to carelessness (or fate or God or whatever you may believe) she saw my history on this site. To say it was a revelation would be an understatement.

Some would wonder; why is this positive? It is positive because it opened a dialog between us. It opened up communication between us. It opened up my eyes on how she saw some of the things I was doing, and surprise, surprise - they weren't always the same as my thoughts.

So, although it seemed a negative at the time, I do believe that it led to, and continues to lead to a better life for both of us. How will that life look? I don't know. I do know that I love this woman with all of my heart. I don't know if she can ever accept this part of me, but it doesn't matter. She loves me and that is enough.

So, that is my positive for 2011.
:)

Kathi

[Barbara Ella]

My positives for 2011. We spent the entire year babysitting our only grandson (24 mos old in Jan 2012) three days each week to help our daughter out until he starts preschool. Other grandparents take him the other two days. Been a joy to watch him grow and develop. I discovered my true self in September, and embraced cross dressing and it stopped an ugly spiral that had my wife disliking who I was becoming, due to the conflict of not really knowing what was going on in my mind. We are both at peace now and I am improving as a male, and really enjoying working on improving my femme side. She has embraced who I am.

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[Alice B]

I went to ed every night and woke up every morning. At my age that is positive.

[Melody1985]

That's a great way to look at things first of all.. Shows ultimate maturity!

I have had many bad things happen (pre-CDing) in this past year, particularly the first 9 months lol.. But most of that has been canceled out since I started dressing a couple months ago. Even when I was going through what really was the worst year of my life, I feel that I ended it on such a great note. (Aside from the fact that I'm still alive, have food, shelter etc.) I have discovered a special part of me that brought me to these forums in the first place. And for that, I am forever grateful for 2011. Looking forward to a great 2012, and life lived to the fullest!

[noeleena]

Hi,

Being accepted in a way that says acceptance is there for those who are not afried of getting out doing things joining groups & getting known ,being a part of & with people,

Life is for liveing ....yes.... focus only on the negitives you soon get over taken by that, so work around that till you have the positives instead,

...noeleena...

[Cynthia Anne]

I'm positive the price af food and gas has sky rocketed! OH wait a minute! That's another story!
I've had a few positives ! The main one being I enjoy and respect life much more then ever before! Hugs!

[prettytoes]

That's an easy one...my wife found out about my dressing. Now I am free to express myself (with some limits). Life has been better, and I have been much happier! I only wish that I had told her long ago. It made me realize how deep her love for me runs.

[lady di]

i found out who i am , i retired , i told my SO as soon as i found out and she bought me my frist dress , i volunteer at the local theater did i meantion i love being a CD.....................di

[ReneeT]

It has been a GREAT year for me in many ways
- i have made some very dear friends this year, largely thru this site
- i have taken the first concrete steps to aligning my gender identity and gender expression by starting hrt
- i told my son about my gender issues

All in all, a good year

[Trish]

I wouldn't know where to begin, it's been a great year. Everything has gone right for me. I hope it continues for me, and everyone else on the forum this comming year.

[PretzelGirl]

Only one thing that matters. My wife is very healthy for the first time in years. :love:

[Karren H]

I had no real negatives. Have a great family... Both kids are done with school. And they have no tuition debt to start out with. I paid off my mortgage. Have zero debt. Have great job... With a great pension. Have enough money to retire if I want. But crossdressing on an expense account is hard to walk away from! Lol. Life is good

[Veronica Lodge]

It was a good year. It was a productive year at work.

I also found my female voice, made some good friends, got myself into the best shape of my life, joined this site, made some long range plans that still appear on track..

I'm optimistic about 2012.

[sammysaenz]

2011 was when my wife kicked off my crossdressing. It was a tough year overall. But she made a huge change in my life. I enjoy it so must

[Marleena]

I finally accepted myself for who I am, my wife accepts and encourages me. Everyone is healthy here. I'm still alive.:)

[rachaelsloane]

Although the year started with a few downers I it has ended with:
1. Joining this forum in March and meeting so many wonderful girls.
2. Go out for the first time and feeling great doing it.
3. Having my health and looking forward to a great 2012.
Happy Holidays to everyone,
Rachael

[Alice B]

Dispite my earlier post it was a great year for me. Greater acceptance from my wife, the chance to go to DLV and be dressed for an entire week and out in the general population for the first time and the freedom to openly select clothing, shoes, etc. to add to my growing wardrobe. Looking very forward to 2012.

[monica.missil]

I have two wonderful grandsons that because of circumstances are living with me with mother. Even though it has almost taken all my dressing time away, I have gotten to know them and realize how special they are.

[Kristy_K]

Only one thing that matters. My wife is very healthy for the first time in years. :love:

I feel so good when I hear things like this.

[Kristy_K]

I've had a good year. I got promoted! Yeah :)

Congratulation Rose, I hope the rest of the year is better.

[Kristy_K]

I finally accepted myself for who I am, my wife accepts and encourages me. Everyone is healthy here. I'm still alive.:)

I myself would think self acceptableness is one of the most important thing in life.

[Kristy_K]

It is so nice to see wonderful posts of good and wonderful things that has happen in other people lives. It energizer me.

[Launa]

Good job, good family, making lots of friends and most important of all...
I ramped up the whole wardrobe and stepped out that door on Halloween and people told me I looked darn good. But I'm not bragging. lol

[drag n fly]

Hey..I found this site in April....Came out to my wife in May(or so)...For the first time in my life (66 YO) can dress in front of her....although I keep it down..It's very confusing, and perhaps scary to her...We had the house majorly remodeled and it really looks good now...My grandkids are all doing well...pretty well, anyway..My wife is hanging in there...
Still smokes, coughs her ass off....Won't quit...sheesh....I'm healthy, need nothing...Happy as a pig in s--t most of the time...Coming up on 18 years sober...
Just made two trays of ziti for the meal at my daughters house this evening...Thank you all smooches Jackie

[Eryn]

A lot of positives for me.

Two wonderful daughters who are doing great at university.
A wonderful wife who is also my best friend.
A job that pays the bills and is relatively stable.

Personally, a far greater understanding of myself and CDing, having "the talk" with my wife almost exactly one year ago, the relief of my wife being accepting and encouraging, making great TG friends here on the forum and elsewhere, learning a lot about clothes and makeup, leaving the house dressed for the first time, leaving the house dressed quite a few more times, having a regular "girls' evening out shopping and dining" with my wife and sometimes with my friends, dinners with my CD group, etc.

All in all, a pretty good year!

[Beverley Sims]

I have had a load of positives for 2011.
I covered this in the mirrored thread, and I can vary that easily.
"I turned all my negatives into positives. and all the positives remained."
Nothing outstanding really, had some cancer, got rid of that.
My heart goes out to others though that are less fortunate, again be positive and life can be better.
Oh! the real positives. I had an inflatable bra demonstrated for me yesterday.
The adventure is covered elsewhere.
Tried on 3 bras and the girls knew I was a man, a very enthusiastic demonstration by them.
The only downer was, your'e not the best looking girl we have seen but you are OK!
OK! and the honest interactions we had over a half hour period was the best thing that happened to me this year.
Definitely a +++positive+++
The fitting episode is a thread somewhere.

[ChristineM]

Finally went out for the first time (and second and third). Plus went to three tri-ess meetings in Austin and the Halloween party.

Now maybe the best of 2012 will be the wife becoming accepting.

[Phoebe]

Spent most of 2010 and early 2011 recovering from leg surgery with therapy sessions. Learning to walk in heels again ;). Found some ankle boots that have a thicker heel width and they help my balance. Found an inexpensive vehicle so I can drive and get out again. My old vehicle had a serious engine failure, to expensive to repair. Trying to get active again in CLCC activities. Looking forward to 2012 for better experiences than the past year and a half.

[LindaC]

Things couldn't be better. Over a year since my neuro-surgery and I'm still kicking:battingeyelashes:

[Rianna Humble]

Hi Kristy, what a good idea to review the highlights of this past year :hugs: here are a few of my own:

February, after a photoshoot with a very dear friend, she said to me "you've never been a man" :D

May, another girlfriend (who is less than half my age) offered to take time off work to be with me at the Gender Clinic if I need her support. :thumbsup:

Later that month, a woman I have never met came up to me outside a restaurant to compliment my choice of shoes (which she felt were more suitable than her own) and the rest of my outfit.

June, my 89 year old dad offered to go with me to my first Gender Clinic appointment despite any journey of more than about 30 min being an ordeal for him and this journey being over 3 times that long

Finally my first appointment arrived less than a year after it was requested. At the end, the doctor encouraged me to become active in politics again even before I complete my transition.

August, invited by the Co-operative Women's Network for training on becoming a parliamentary candidate

October, my 2nd GIC appointment goes well despite my fears the previous evening and I'm promised the referral for Hormones "straight away" (for those who don't speak NHS, that means in 7 weeks time)

November whilst having coffee with my former MP who has been a friend for over 15 years she told me "You are a much nicer person to know now that you are settled about who you are" :o

End of November finally got the prescription for the trial dosage of hormones :dance:

Today - end of first month on Hormones :cheer:

[Rachel Flowers]

Work picked up.
Discovered and got to grips with my transgenderism.
Stopped some unproductive personal activities.
Came out to my wife to total acceptance, support and involvement.

Merry Christmas, ladies! xxxxx

[Michelle.M]

Kristy, I am so glad you started this thread! All too often we don't take time to reflect on life's blessings.

For me, the answers come easily -

- I finally came to grips with my gender identity and decided to stop denying myself and to begin my transition
- Started therapy, which has been very empowering
- Because of all that I decided to leave the military and change careers (to what I do not yet know), and my RLE will begin in a few months
- Started HRT, which is yielding very good results
- Started electrolysis, which, along with HRT has allowed me to be quite comfortable and properly identified as a woman when I go out
- All together, these things have totally changed my outlook, my sense of self and given me the confidence that I have made the right decisions.

I can hardly wait to see what wonderful things next year will bring!