how do you feel about it?

[sammysaenz]

Well here's my quick story. My wife started my crossdressing about a month ago. I have enjoyed it ever since. But lately I wanna be dressed more and all day. Is this strange? I love my man life....but this crossdressing has got me hooked. Any advice?

[charlen]

No it not strange. Ilike that my self.

[sammysaenz]

Really? How do u deal with it?

[Sharon B.]

You are one the lucky ones to have a supporting spouse, I also enjoy some aspects of my male life but do want to dress more as a woman. Just wish I had someone to enjoy it with.

[insearchofme]

Follow your wife's lead. I've never made a mistake when I made my wife happy!

[MissMarcie]

My wife started my crossdressing about a month ago.
Your wife started it? There has to be more to this story than what you've just posted.

[Miranda09]

Just have fun with it Sammy....don't analyze it. I've gotten to that point now where I like to dress at home every chance I get simply because of the way it makes me feel. I guess it makes me appreciate both sides of my personality better, male & female. :)

[sammysaenz]

Miss marci...why would u say that? And thank you everybody for your comments and advice. You guys can chat with me anytime

[Barbara Ella]

You are in the pink fog, and just cant get enough. Go with the flow, follow your wife's lead and dont run too far ahead. Balance will come later, enjoy your emotions now and be happy.

Babes

[rachaelsloane]

Sammy,
I agree with Miranda, don't over analyze the why, just enjoy. It is great that your wife is accepting and if she sets rules, please go with them.
Rachael

[Rachel Morley]

Follow your wife's lead. I've never made a mistake when I made my wife happy!
Exactly! ... a supportive (I hate the phase "accepting" because it implies passivity and also carries a connotation that there is something negative about having a transgender spouse) and even an encouraging wife as you seem to have can't be underestimated. Let her drive. Hooked on crossdressing? .... tell me about it. Once the genie is out of the bottle there is no way she's going back in! Embrace and a enjoy! :)

[Beverley Sims]

A quick reply to a quick story!
The novelty of it MIGHT wear off?
Man life MIGHT take over again.

[sammysaenz]

Thank u again to everybody. I just didn't want her to be like u are doing it too much. This is very new to me and emotions are everywhere.

[Allisa]

It is very exciting isn't it?You don't have to give up your man life to be a crossdresser.Your wife started you down this road,so ask her what her expectations are,she seems to be an open minded person.But for now enjoy yourself,explore your femme side,it's fun to be a girl.Bye-Bye.Lisa

[Launa]

Any advice you ask? I say let er rip.

[Cynthia Anne]

If your wife started it then no doubt you are having fun with it! Let her leed you where she may and enjoy yhe ride! Hugs!

[Ellyn]

Sounds like this is quite interesting. You could at least give us the basic details.

[BRANDYJ]

Just have fun with it Sammy....don't analyze it. I've gotten to that point now where I like to dress at home every chance I get simply because of the way it makes me feel. I guess it makes me appreciate both sides of my personality better, male & female. :)

I think what she means is we would all like to know how this came about. Was this your wife's idea or did you hint or suggest it and she agreed to let you dress? We do like details when we read of other supportive wives.
So you like it and want to dress more. Very normal. I too enjoy my masculine side and both sides of me co-exist quite well. I don't feel any less a man for having this desire to emulate the greatest gender. So don't worry about it. Just be careful to not let the pink fog take over and as others have suggested, let your wife lead. Let her set boundaries to suit her own comfort level. All to often when this first comes up with wives, we can get carried away like a kid in a candy store. Be thankful and most apprecitive of the love your wife has for you. Never take her for granted and let this new found thing make you forget to give back to her. You are blessed to have her. I wish you the best for the coming year

[Sister Rachel]

Lucky girl! Enjoy :)

[josee]

You really have to tell us more. We want more details. For now just go with it as long as you are comfortable but don't do anything you are not comfortable with. Most of us started on our own and have been dealing with it. It is a bit like having two lifestyle at times. You have your crossdressing and your non crossdressing life. Sometimes the lines can get blurry because the more you do it, the more you want to do it. Take it slow and don't get in a hurry to try something. Just relax and enjoy your special wife.

[Stefanie_in_Mt]

Wow girl I say go with her lead.. see where it takes you !!!! oh yea does she have a sister.. I would love to have a gf that would do the same with me...

[Vickie_CDTV]

Interesting, how did your wife get you into crossdressing? You never dressed before? Ever?

As others have said, you may be really into it for a while but the interest may settle down as the pink fog begins to fade.

[suchacutie]

Advice 1) Always keep your wife in the loop.

Advice 2) Talk with your wife about every aspect of what you are going through (see advice 1) ).

tina

[Sarah_sarahcd]

Wow, this is all pretty good advice. If there is one thing that I have learned about marriage, it is that it works best with honesty. Tell her that you like it and that you would find it fun to explore BUT that you want it to be with her. The, "let her lead" advice is good, but pitch it centered on her and her lead with the emphasis that you like it... a lot... hint hint... *wink *wink. but emphasize the fact that it has to do with her involvement, perhaps explore on your own, but shared with her. You may be successful w/ her involvement in every stage. honesty always works (well not always but it makes you more credible).

kisses,
Sarah

[roxannerenee]

if you tell her exactly what you told us ,you cant go wrong. but most crossdressers who are encouraged by their spouses ,tend to over do it and have to pull back or end up with spousal issues .at least from what ive seen.good luck! it could be worse!

[DonnaT]

When I first started dressing, I wanted more and more. I think it's a normal progression for some, if not most.

It's quite easy to put off plans, just to stay home and dress up, especially if you feel it's becoming addictive.

Loving your man life, is good. The trick is to find balance, and not let the dressing interfere with the things you want to do as a man.

If you've made plans, enlist your wife's help so you can keep those plans.

Eventually, you'll find that balance.

[Piora]

There's always the risk that spending too much time enfemme might start taking its toll on your wife, and she may start yearning for the man part of you. Although it sounds like she's all for it, and encourages it....just be cautious about the amount of time you devote to dressing. You just have to find that happy balance that is right for both of you.

[Barbra P]

Hi

Your story is getting a lot of attention because it is sort of the reverse of what many (most?) of the married members experience. It seems to be much more common for the wives to not accept that their husband’s have a feminine side and want to dress en femme, so when someone comes on the forum and says their wife actually encourages their dressing it is enough of a rarity to garner some attention and a lot of jealousy – we would all love to have an actively supporting wife.

A fair number of members have written that you should let your wife lead, let her set the pace, and that is good advice as far as it goes. Yes it is important that your wife, even though she actively supports your dressing, feels comfortable with where this is going and the pace it is going. More important however is that you feel comfortable with where this is going and the pace at which it is progressing.

As you wrote, this is all new to you and you love your male persona, but you also enjoy your female persona. You are most likely going to experience a roller coaster ride of emotional feelings and that is completely normal. Most of us discovered our feminine feelings on our own, some at quite a young age, and they developed over the years and even though it was a gradual thing it was still quite emotional and I think the vast majority of us had difficulties.

I’m 68 and I wanted to be a girl when I was four or five, starting dressing in my teens, really got into it in my twenties, so I have a lot of years of dressing behind me. Still I was confused enough that early this year I told my Doctor that I had a gender issue and she sent me to a Counselor, who after a two-hour session referred me to the Psychiatric Dept. and a Therapist. Some questions have been answered, others surfaced and my Therapist is now trying to decide if I’m a Crossdresser or a Transsexual. My Wife is not actively supportive, not fully accepting, maybe tolerant is a better word, she tolerates my dressing around the house on a limited basis (like one day a week) and says she is embarrassed if I go out and I try to respect my Wife’s feelings. I think she may be more tolerant than many of the member’s wives and for that I’m thankful. But my Therapist wants me to dress more, go out more because she feels that it is important for my own mental health. I’m my Therapist’s patient, not my wife, so my mental health comes first in her eyes; if my wife is depressed by my dressing then she should see a Therapist of her own. With an actively supporting wife there may be times when you don’t feel comfortable with where this is going and it is important that you remember that YOU need to feel comfortable on this journey – don’t go where you don’t feel comfortable – it is alright to slow down, stop, and think about the path that lies ahead.

[Brenda Freeman]

Sammy,
Once I started crossdressing there was no going back, I love how it makes me feel and my personality has found a new calm at the same time a high that is wonderful! I still am a male in day to day life, But inside and when time allows dressing up gives me just a wonderful feeling and joy. It is something I look forward to doing. I am married and told my wife after 2o years of marrigae and I am so lucky she has accepted, not embraced but honesty is so much of what a loving relationship is all about. I do not know how your wife started you on this path, but I am guessing it was a part of you before for you to jump in and enjoy it! Best wishes to you and your spouse, Find your comfort level and hers and enjoy it for all it provides you both! Lucky Girl.
Brenda

[sammysaenz]

Wow....some very nice stories and great advice all around. Wish I had time to sit and talk to every single one of you and hear all the stories. Ia lot of you keep asking for the story. I will post it soon to share with all of you. Thank you again everybody.

[TGMarla]

It's all new and exciting to you. For me, it's been around for a long, long time. And while I still get excited at the prospect of spending some time en femme, it's not the gnawing, gotta do it kind of thing it once was. Well, mostly. I still get the overwhelming urge to dress quite often. But I've learned to temper it by making sure I'm taking care of my obligations first. The pink fog you're experiencing right now will lessen. Like others have said. Follow your wife's lead, and you'll likely be fine. Enjoy it. That's why we do this...because it's enjoyable.

[Kristy_K]

Just be honest. .

[kaitlin]

Hey Girl, I too had always wanted to dress and played a little of the years but it wasn't until I met my Wife that things got going! She knew of my desires to "play" some as we were best friends before we dated. One eveing we were going out to dinner and she was painting her nails, I asked if I could do them for her and made the comment that if I was ever able to wear polish it would be a color like this (dark mauve) After I was done she said "take off your shoes and socks, we have to match" I was so happy! That was 8 years ago, and from then, to today we always wear the same color on our toes 24/7/365! Among many other things that we do to match.....Life is good!

[paula123]

just go with it you dont know how luckie you are

[Cheryl T]

Welcome to the club.

[paula123]

just go with it you dont know how luckey you are

[Kaz]

Well here's my quick story. My wife started my crossdressing about a month ago. I have enjoyed it ever since. But lately I wanna be dressed more and all day. Is this strange? I love my man life....but this crossdressing has got me hooked. Any advice?

Sammy, there are a few us here who are intrigued by your comment tha your wife started your cross-dressing, and that you are now wanting to know more... This is so unusual that it would be really helpful to tell us more about this!

[Audreyanne]

There's always the risk that spending too much time enfemme might start taking its toll on your wife, and she may start yearning for the man part of you. Although it sounds like she's all for it, and encourages it....just be cautious about the amount of time you devote to dressing. You just have to find that happy balance that is right for both of you.

Good advice. You should find out why she started the whole thing. If it was just for a momentary change of pace, it may have a negative impact on her if it snowballs into a change in lifestyle.

[larry]

If it bothers you and you think she is to blame you better quiit and give her my number. Hehehehe just kidding. Have fun..

[Tina B.]

There is only one thing I would suggest, always be sure you are not taking to much time away from your male obligations, making sure you are not dressing so much as to make her uncomfortable, that balance is important to the wife usually, but since she started it, talk to her, maybe she has a higher threshold for it. I just came off a 4 day binge of dressing, and my wife is fine with it, others wouldn't be.
Tina B.

[Brittany CD]

It's very normal. Since you enjoy it, naturally you want to do it again, maybe even for a longer period of time

[jillleanne]

Sammy, there are a few us here who are intrigued by your comment tha your wife started your cross-dressing, and that you are now wanting to know more... This is so unusual that it would be really helpful to tell us more about this!

Indeed Kaz, I also would be very interested in knowing more on how your wife got you interested in something you have never had any prior interest in. Would make for some great reading.