DTelia
01-06-2012, 02:09 AM
I'm sure that's an interesting question for some of you. I, like many on this board have felt these desires since I was a young child.
And while I wanted to dress or try some things (for me it was hair, long hair), I honestly never really caved or gave in (and I wasn't happy about it, just chicken I guess). Anyway, before I was married, I shared my challenges with my wife-to-be. She didn't have an issue with it, and still doesn't after 16 years of marriage. She actually suggest that we have fun every once in a while, and she's even made me a skirt. But to this date I have never once dressed w/o her, and I really don't dress at all for the most part and if I do, it's only with her. This has been healthy for our marriage and the challenge has brought us closer together.
Anyway, over the course of our marriage, I've learned some things that help me deal with this issue (the temptations, etc), and it's been very helpful in keeping my life in check. If any of you are curious as to how I (we) have done this let me know. The best part about this, is that I don't have the roller coaster ups and downs that I read about here, and I'm able to to recognize who I am without the angst, and my communication and relationship with my spouse is awesome with this realization.
By the way, I'm not claiming a "cure" or silver bullet, & I'm not sure these feelings will ever disappear, but I believe this is a good & reasonable place to be, at least for me
Thanks,
And while I wanted to dress or try some things (for me it was hair, long hair), I honestly never really caved or gave in (and I wasn't happy about it, just chicken I guess). Anyway, before I was married, I shared my challenges with my wife-to-be. She didn't have an issue with it, and still doesn't after 16 years of marriage. She actually suggest that we have fun every once in a while, and she's even made me a skirt. But to this date I have never once dressed w/o her, and I really don't dress at all for the most part and if I do, it's only with her. This has been healthy for our marriage and the challenge has brought us closer together.
Anyway, over the course of our marriage, I've learned some things that help me deal with this issue (the temptations, etc), and it's been very helpful in keeping my life in check. If any of you are curious as to how I (we) have done this let me know. The best part about this, is that I don't have the roller coaster ups and downs that I read about here, and I'm able to to recognize who I am without the angst, and my communication and relationship with my spouse is awesome with this realization.
By the way, I'm not claiming a "cure" or silver bullet, & I'm not sure these feelings will ever disappear, but I believe this is a good & reasonable place to be, at least for me
Thanks,