DanaR
01-08-2012, 08:51 PM
Most of the time when we are out, a lot of us will try to pass or blend into the mix of people. Sometimes if we are not moving around very much, others will notice us more. This is what I’ve seen and might be an indication of how others react to us.
It’s been about 18 years since I first going out as a member of Emerald City in Seattle. The Emerald City group is one of the groups that put on the Esprit Conference in Port Angeles, each year; which is a nice TG conference.
What I noticed while at the Esprit Conference in the mid 1990’s was that during the evenings in the cocktail lounge, we would get a lot of the locals coming down to check us out. What was interesting is they would come down, look, point, laugh and have a good time at our expense. After a couple of years seeing this kind of reaction from them, some of us started reaching out.
We would actually go over to tables and talk to those we saw staring at us. Most of the time we would be asked to join them. What was really cool about us reaching out, was that we were accepted, for the most part by the local community that prior to this had no idea what we were about. We were bombarded by the normal questions, are you gay, are you married, does you wife know and all of the other questions that associated with us; which could be compared to what many would call normal people.
It was a fun and interesting experience. Over the years, I became friends with many people that would come down to visit with me whenever we were at Esprit. There was a local lady that came down in the early years that would come down with some of her friends (female friends) and we would all go out dancing and just have fun. Several years later, she got married and brought her new husband down to meet us, and visit.
I missed a couple of years going to Esprit and one year my wife thought it would nice to take me up to Port Angeles for my birthday. I hadn’t been out in a long time and it was a chance for me to be Dana all weekend. One of the nights we were down in the lounge a local GG and her BF came in. They saw me and came over and joined us for the evening. Both of them are local artists and they invited my wife and I to visit their gallery on our last day there. We had a great time.
What I was curious about, have any others had similar experiences with outreach in the community?
It’s been about 18 years since I first going out as a member of Emerald City in Seattle. The Emerald City group is one of the groups that put on the Esprit Conference in Port Angeles, each year; which is a nice TG conference.
What I noticed while at the Esprit Conference in the mid 1990’s was that during the evenings in the cocktail lounge, we would get a lot of the locals coming down to check us out. What was interesting is they would come down, look, point, laugh and have a good time at our expense. After a couple of years seeing this kind of reaction from them, some of us started reaching out.
We would actually go over to tables and talk to those we saw staring at us. Most of the time we would be asked to join them. What was really cool about us reaching out, was that we were accepted, for the most part by the local community that prior to this had no idea what we were about. We were bombarded by the normal questions, are you gay, are you married, does you wife know and all of the other questions that associated with us; which could be compared to what many would call normal people.
It was a fun and interesting experience. Over the years, I became friends with many people that would come down to visit with me whenever we were at Esprit. There was a local lady that came down in the early years that would come down with some of her friends (female friends) and we would all go out dancing and just have fun. Several years later, she got married and brought her new husband down to meet us, and visit.
I missed a couple of years going to Esprit and one year my wife thought it would nice to take me up to Port Angeles for my birthday. I hadn’t been out in a long time and it was a chance for me to be Dana all weekend. One of the nights we were down in the lounge a local GG and her BF came in. They saw me and came over and joined us for the evening. Both of them are local artists and they invited my wife and I to visit their gallery on our last day there. We had a great time.
What I was curious about, have any others had similar experiences with outreach in the community?