Asako
01-10-2012, 01:30 AM
Have you ever listened to a song that was absolutely haunting? Something that started a chain of thoughts that led you to realizing something? I don't know how many of you are "connected" to music like I am. It can affect my moods some. It can relieve stress. Some songs can even lead me into an introspective state where things suddenly become clear. This time, it led to why I seem to be unable to cry and possibly the source of why I drift through days without noticing the passing of time.
The thoughts in my head drifted towards old memories which led to new trains of thought. These are thoughts that crossed my mind while listening a haunting set of songs.
A little over a year ago. I dressed almost daily. I wore my forms with adhesive and it felt amazing. It felt like me. When I would wake up in the morning, they were right there. It put a smile on my face. Sure, dressing often sometimes caused me to lose sleep but it was the expressing of "me" that kept me up. That kept me from losing to the stress, depression, and anxiety of being unable to find a therapist in my area. At one point, I had started under dressing little by little.
Then, I just stopped. I stopped it all. I don't know why. I have a theory though. A part of me wants to cling to the "male identity". It wants to cling to the safety and security of an established and accepted life. How many times do posts spring up about such things here? Sometimes, all too often.
I want to be free, more than anything, from the walls I have built up around my heart to shut in any feelings that may threaten that "life". Yet, the walls are so numerous that I seem to have lost touch with the majority of my emotions. What does that leave? In my case, an empty heart full with pain from a source that I can't identify. Even when my eyes well up, tears don't fall. I need that release.
If locking my true feelings, emotions as well, away was a subconscious attempt to "live as I was born" and be "the strong man" people expect of me, then to Hell with that attempt. There are a ton of things I used to enjoy doing until that attempt.
I played music I could sing, with a slightly feminine voice quality no less! I enjoyed playing drums for hours on end. Sometimes, I would play for 12 hours or more and end up sore enough to hardly be able to walk or move around because I enjoyed it so much. While I didn't put forth much effort at the time, I was even trying to learn how to play my guitar off and on. Programming came with ease since I can switch between concrete and abstract thinking. Sure, some of the basics in C++ eluded me, like the purpose of header files, but it was fun to learn.
Now I sit here, realizing what I had done. Tears well up but they won't fall. The walls will come down, one by one, and with each one, I will be one step closer to being free as "me" on the inside. To me, that one of the greatest forms of happiness a person can obtain.
The reason why I posted my thoughts this time is a simple plea to the others here that are just starting on their journey, like me. Please don't lock away or ignore your true feelings. If you do, it won't make you happy.
These two songs coupled with a few old posts here started this whole train of thought.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AB6sOhQan9Y
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mvvFnR0kJFw
The thoughts in my head drifted towards old memories which led to new trains of thought. These are thoughts that crossed my mind while listening a haunting set of songs.
A little over a year ago. I dressed almost daily. I wore my forms with adhesive and it felt amazing. It felt like me. When I would wake up in the morning, they were right there. It put a smile on my face. Sure, dressing often sometimes caused me to lose sleep but it was the expressing of "me" that kept me up. That kept me from losing to the stress, depression, and anxiety of being unable to find a therapist in my area. At one point, I had started under dressing little by little.
Then, I just stopped. I stopped it all. I don't know why. I have a theory though. A part of me wants to cling to the "male identity". It wants to cling to the safety and security of an established and accepted life. How many times do posts spring up about such things here? Sometimes, all too often.
I want to be free, more than anything, from the walls I have built up around my heart to shut in any feelings that may threaten that "life". Yet, the walls are so numerous that I seem to have lost touch with the majority of my emotions. What does that leave? In my case, an empty heart full with pain from a source that I can't identify. Even when my eyes well up, tears don't fall. I need that release.
If locking my true feelings, emotions as well, away was a subconscious attempt to "live as I was born" and be "the strong man" people expect of me, then to Hell with that attempt. There are a ton of things I used to enjoy doing until that attempt.
I played music I could sing, with a slightly feminine voice quality no less! I enjoyed playing drums for hours on end. Sometimes, I would play for 12 hours or more and end up sore enough to hardly be able to walk or move around because I enjoyed it so much. While I didn't put forth much effort at the time, I was even trying to learn how to play my guitar off and on. Programming came with ease since I can switch between concrete and abstract thinking. Sure, some of the basics in C++ eluded me, like the purpose of header files, but it was fun to learn.
Now I sit here, realizing what I had done. Tears well up but they won't fall. The walls will come down, one by one, and with each one, I will be one step closer to being free as "me" on the inside. To me, that one of the greatest forms of happiness a person can obtain.
The reason why I posted my thoughts this time is a simple plea to the others here that are just starting on their journey, like me. Please don't lock away or ignore your true feelings. If you do, it won't make you happy.
These two songs coupled with a few old posts here started this whole train of thought.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AB6sOhQan9Y
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mvvFnR0kJFw