Natalie x
10-27-2005, 05:02 PM
There have been a few threads lately about telling wives, SOs, family, people who are important to you, about your crossdressing, or not telling them, or trying to tell them. I didn't want to hijack anybody else's thread, so I started a new one for my recent experience.
My daughter is the person most dear to me in the whole world. I guess it's the father-daughter thing. For me, that made it harder to tell her than anybody else. If she took it badly, say we had a row or something and I couldn't see her or my grandchildren, I would be devastated.
My daughter got married a couple of months ago, and I just couldn't say anything before the wedding; I wouldn't do anything to spoil her special day. But since the wedding, I have been trying to find an opportunity to tell her. Yesterday was the first time we have been able to be alone for long enough to "do it". I was really, really scared. I mean, I know she is a thoughtful, sensitive woman, and didn't doubt that, if it was anyone else but her dad, she would be supportive. But a girl needs her daddy, and I was worried that she would freak out.
Ya know what? She said "No problem, I figured it out anyway" (not her exact words, but three hours of talking compressed into one sentence). Because she cares about me, she wants me to get some outside help, to check my health and welfare. That's fair, and for her sake I will get checked out soon. But she is so supportive, she has even asked to see some pictures, even so soon after telling her.
So this thread is here to give some encouragement to anyone who needs to tell, but is afraid of what will happen. Of course, these things don't always go so well, and there are as many tales of disasters, but at least sometimes things work out ok. Good luck to you if you are planning to do it.
My daughter is the person most dear to me in the whole world. I guess it's the father-daughter thing. For me, that made it harder to tell her than anybody else. If she took it badly, say we had a row or something and I couldn't see her or my grandchildren, I would be devastated.
My daughter got married a couple of months ago, and I just couldn't say anything before the wedding; I wouldn't do anything to spoil her special day. But since the wedding, I have been trying to find an opportunity to tell her. Yesterday was the first time we have been able to be alone for long enough to "do it". I was really, really scared. I mean, I know she is a thoughtful, sensitive woman, and didn't doubt that, if it was anyone else but her dad, she would be supportive. But a girl needs her daddy, and I was worried that she would freak out.
Ya know what? She said "No problem, I figured it out anyway" (not her exact words, but three hours of talking compressed into one sentence). Because she cares about me, she wants me to get some outside help, to check my health and welfare. That's fair, and for her sake I will get checked out soon. But she is so supportive, she has even asked to see some pictures, even so soon after telling her.
So this thread is here to give some encouragement to anyone who needs to tell, but is afraid of what will happen. Of course, these things don't always go so well, and there are as many tales of disasters, but at least sometimes things work out ok. Good luck to you if you are planning to do it.