Courtney_Glenn
01-17-2012, 05:38 AM
It's not easy, I'm not going to pretend that it is...but these are some of my experiences that may help a few folks. I'e arranged these in order of difficulty.
FRIENDS: Ironically enough, this was the last group I told, and it was by far the easiest. All I did is say "promise you won't freak out" and proceeded to show them a pic on my phone. My female friends were impressed of how well i pulled this off, and my male friends weren't bothered a bit. one of them even said "why would I care, Eddie Izzard is a transvestite too and he's one of my favorite comedians!"
Immediate Family (Mom, Sisters): Yes I grew up in a single parent household as a middle child of two sisters....which may explain a lot actually...My little sis still lives at home with my mom and I broke the ice the exact same way as with my friends. Well received. My sis did initially laugh, but she is young (barely 16). My mom even bought a slew of outfits and makeup for Christmas...talk about embracing, huh?
My older sister didn't receive it as well. first of all, she found out behind my back due to gossip. She thought it was a secret from my mom and sent her a long text message trying to convince my mother that something was wrong with me. my mom let me know...I called my sister...and essentially...we don't talk anymore. She has been on her "I'm better than you" horse for years, so good riddance.
This, for the record, has been my ONLY negative feedback
My Wife: This was the VERY first one I came out to. I did this long before we were married. I did this very meticulously though a series of different conversations. this is a little chart of the conversations we shared over the span of about a month
This is it something I did once as a child -"Okay no biggie"
This is something I did a lot as a child - "awhh, that's cute"
This is something I did as a teen - "lol, so"
This is something I still do every now and then - "why would I care"
Okay, I do this a lot still - "you act like it's a big deal",
"Because it is" ,
"would you care If I walked around wearing dude clothes?",
"No, but It's more than clothes, my brain doesn't operate like most guys." ,
"And that is why I love you."
True story.
If I've helped at least one person, that would make me feel awesome. Coming out was, and continues to be, one of the most intimidating things in my life, but it has been so rewarding. I feel as if my chains are broken and I am free to live my life however I see fit.
Take Care :)
FRIENDS: Ironically enough, this was the last group I told, and it was by far the easiest. All I did is say "promise you won't freak out" and proceeded to show them a pic on my phone. My female friends were impressed of how well i pulled this off, and my male friends weren't bothered a bit. one of them even said "why would I care, Eddie Izzard is a transvestite too and he's one of my favorite comedians!"
Immediate Family (Mom, Sisters): Yes I grew up in a single parent household as a middle child of two sisters....which may explain a lot actually...My little sis still lives at home with my mom and I broke the ice the exact same way as with my friends. Well received. My sis did initially laugh, but she is young (barely 16). My mom even bought a slew of outfits and makeup for Christmas...talk about embracing, huh?
My older sister didn't receive it as well. first of all, she found out behind my back due to gossip. She thought it was a secret from my mom and sent her a long text message trying to convince my mother that something was wrong with me. my mom let me know...I called my sister...and essentially...we don't talk anymore. She has been on her "I'm better than you" horse for years, so good riddance.
This, for the record, has been my ONLY negative feedback
My Wife: This was the VERY first one I came out to. I did this long before we were married. I did this very meticulously though a series of different conversations. this is a little chart of the conversations we shared over the span of about a month
This is it something I did once as a child -"Okay no biggie"
This is something I did a lot as a child - "awhh, that's cute"
This is something I did as a teen - "lol, so"
This is something I still do every now and then - "why would I care"
Okay, I do this a lot still - "you act like it's a big deal",
"Because it is" ,
"would you care If I walked around wearing dude clothes?",
"No, but It's more than clothes, my brain doesn't operate like most guys." ,
"And that is why I love you."
True story.
If I've helped at least one person, that would make me feel awesome. Coming out was, and continues to be, one of the most intimidating things in my life, but it has been so rewarding. I feel as if my chains are broken and I am free to live my life however I see fit.
Take Care :)