Frédérique
01-18-2012, 09:02 PM
There was a big football game played this past weekend (well, they ALL are, aren’t they?), and in that game a player made a spectacular catch for a touchdown. He made the big play in the big game, resulting in a big win for his team, city and state, not to mention himself. After all, he will be forever remembered as the guy who caught the ball in that big game – he did something very meaningful, attaining a kind of immortality, at least amongst the memorabilia and trivia freaks. He was NOT the man who dropped the ball (over in that other game), thus bringing shame to his team, city, and state (and himself), and forever being forced to relive his mistake, over and over...
Nope – in the game I’m referring to, the football player made the catch to win the game. When he bounced up off the turf, and escaped the pummeling being administered by his teammates, he removed his helmet, and the viewing audience saw that he was crying – REALLY crying, in a man’s arena, for crying out loud. I thought I was seeing things, but the TV announcer and his companion (I use the term loosely) saw what I saw. “Look at that emotion!” said the talking head, and the “color” man tried to explain why one would feel emotion, i.e. cry, under the curious circumstances of man vs. man combat. It was all very...moving, another word you rarely hear in this overtly masculine world, but there it was, for all to see and contemplate...
I contemplate such things, and I like to see men cry. Of course, I wish they would say “Look at him cry!” rather than “Look at that emotion!” but you get what you pay for these days, here in the gender-specific 21st century. Men aren’t supposed to cry, boys aren’t supposed to cry, and, if females are to inherit the equality they assume is their right, THEY must not cry either. Crying is a sign of weakness, so people go to great lengths to avoid the obvious. “Are you crying?” a person will ask, and another person (most likely a male) will answer “No, I bit my tongue!” You can’t cry under any circumstances, but you are allowed to show “emotion.” A football player, who has sacrificed many things, including a normal lifespan and a healthy emotional state, to play the game he’s good at and/or loves, obviously has plenty to cry about...
But what about the MtF crossdresser, who cries because he, subsequently she, has been in touch with emotion since day one, and that, in itself, is the foundation of this inexplicable need to dress? Nobody is going to put a good “spin” on that display of emotion, since, according to the times we’re living in, all such displays are evidence of weakness, perversion, or mental instability. I contend that the male who eventually “shows emotion” and the MtF crossdresser who does what comes naturally are one and the same, but few would agree with me. That’s OK. Personally, I think we could cry all day about our position in the Universe, our accidental existence, our finite life spans, our fears, hopes, and dreams, not to mention our inability to care for one another within the burdensome precepts we have all inherited. Also, does this dress look right with these shoes, do I pass, am I just kidding myself, what am I doing this for, why do I have these feelings (?), and so forth. There is plenty to cry about, my friends – you might want to get yourself a bucket...
Naturally, the football player who cried on national TV was questioned after the game – WHY did you feel the need to display emotion in such a setting, WHY are you so emotional, and WHY did you continue to display emotion when you reached the sidelines? The man explained that he was thinking about all the work that got him to the supreme moment when he made the catch that will always be remembered, at least until the next great catch, and he “Let it all out.” I just smile when I hear that, because if he didn’t keep it all IN, he wouldn’t have to let it all OUT later and “show” emotion. I get the feeling that showing emotion is a bad thing, especially for males who subscribe to this obsolete notion that might makes right. In the context of WINNING, you can let out emotion for a short time, but please tuck it away before the others see you, OK? We can’t let emotions rule our lives (that is the message), so we are expected to keep it inside, in the bottomless pit of the emotive soul. Personally, I think that’s a crime against humanity...
I’ll tell you – I cry when I see (or feel) something beautiful, and I’m not afraid to do so, or tell someone why I’m crying. To other emotive individuals, there’s no need to explain, which is why I find this side-stepping of an issue that affects all purveyors of alternative existence to be so telling (in a negative sense). Imagine reaching a curious state where emotion has to be discussed, and shown to be beneficial as long as someone else, or something else, is being subjugated. Meanwhile, the person (a male, in this instance) who is inherently emotional, seemingly without aforesaid reason or purpose, is looked down upon as being not worthy, or dismissed outright. It’s a sad state of affairs, and it has a lot to do with why MtF crossdressers are misunderstood. I’ll go out on a limb and say that most CD’ers are highly sensitive human beings, sentient to a fault, and they have a different “take” on things. They may cry when they see something beautiful, or something ugly, or something just THERE, but they display emotion more than the next bloke. If I defeated someone, either at a contest or a game, I would feel sorry I did so – after all, it’s not what I had in mind, you know...
In closing, I wish to say that this lip service paid to emotion is funny, sad, and par for the course, a course laid out by those with truncated feelings. Let the boy, man, or male cry – it’s a GOOD thing, and it may lead us over the goal line and into that hitherto unexplored region of emotional promise. I’ve been there, in fact I live there, and it’s nothing to be afraid of or ashamed of. I dress the part, quite nicely I might add, and I have a starring role in my own emotional play. It’s a real tear-jerker, but I wouldn’t have it any other way...
Why on Earth is it so bad to say, “Wow, he’s CRYING – isn’t that wonderful!?” :idontknow:
Nope – in the game I’m referring to, the football player made the catch to win the game. When he bounced up off the turf, and escaped the pummeling being administered by his teammates, he removed his helmet, and the viewing audience saw that he was crying – REALLY crying, in a man’s arena, for crying out loud. I thought I was seeing things, but the TV announcer and his companion (I use the term loosely) saw what I saw. “Look at that emotion!” said the talking head, and the “color” man tried to explain why one would feel emotion, i.e. cry, under the curious circumstances of man vs. man combat. It was all very...moving, another word you rarely hear in this overtly masculine world, but there it was, for all to see and contemplate...
I contemplate such things, and I like to see men cry. Of course, I wish they would say “Look at him cry!” rather than “Look at that emotion!” but you get what you pay for these days, here in the gender-specific 21st century. Men aren’t supposed to cry, boys aren’t supposed to cry, and, if females are to inherit the equality they assume is their right, THEY must not cry either. Crying is a sign of weakness, so people go to great lengths to avoid the obvious. “Are you crying?” a person will ask, and another person (most likely a male) will answer “No, I bit my tongue!” You can’t cry under any circumstances, but you are allowed to show “emotion.” A football player, who has sacrificed many things, including a normal lifespan and a healthy emotional state, to play the game he’s good at and/or loves, obviously has plenty to cry about...
But what about the MtF crossdresser, who cries because he, subsequently she, has been in touch with emotion since day one, and that, in itself, is the foundation of this inexplicable need to dress? Nobody is going to put a good “spin” on that display of emotion, since, according to the times we’re living in, all such displays are evidence of weakness, perversion, or mental instability. I contend that the male who eventually “shows emotion” and the MtF crossdresser who does what comes naturally are one and the same, but few would agree with me. That’s OK. Personally, I think we could cry all day about our position in the Universe, our accidental existence, our finite life spans, our fears, hopes, and dreams, not to mention our inability to care for one another within the burdensome precepts we have all inherited. Also, does this dress look right with these shoes, do I pass, am I just kidding myself, what am I doing this for, why do I have these feelings (?), and so forth. There is plenty to cry about, my friends – you might want to get yourself a bucket...
Naturally, the football player who cried on national TV was questioned after the game – WHY did you feel the need to display emotion in such a setting, WHY are you so emotional, and WHY did you continue to display emotion when you reached the sidelines? The man explained that he was thinking about all the work that got him to the supreme moment when he made the catch that will always be remembered, at least until the next great catch, and he “Let it all out.” I just smile when I hear that, because if he didn’t keep it all IN, he wouldn’t have to let it all OUT later and “show” emotion. I get the feeling that showing emotion is a bad thing, especially for males who subscribe to this obsolete notion that might makes right. In the context of WINNING, you can let out emotion for a short time, but please tuck it away before the others see you, OK? We can’t let emotions rule our lives (that is the message), so we are expected to keep it inside, in the bottomless pit of the emotive soul. Personally, I think that’s a crime against humanity...
I’ll tell you – I cry when I see (or feel) something beautiful, and I’m not afraid to do so, or tell someone why I’m crying. To other emotive individuals, there’s no need to explain, which is why I find this side-stepping of an issue that affects all purveyors of alternative existence to be so telling (in a negative sense). Imagine reaching a curious state where emotion has to be discussed, and shown to be beneficial as long as someone else, or something else, is being subjugated. Meanwhile, the person (a male, in this instance) who is inherently emotional, seemingly without aforesaid reason or purpose, is looked down upon as being not worthy, or dismissed outright. It’s a sad state of affairs, and it has a lot to do with why MtF crossdressers are misunderstood. I’ll go out on a limb and say that most CD’ers are highly sensitive human beings, sentient to a fault, and they have a different “take” on things. They may cry when they see something beautiful, or something ugly, or something just THERE, but they display emotion more than the next bloke. If I defeated someone, either at a contest or a game, I would feel sorry I did so – after all, it’s not what I had in mind, you know...
In closing, I wish to say that this lip service paid to emotion is funny, sad, and par for the course, a course laid out by those with truncated feelings. Let the boy, man, or male cry – it’s a GOOD thing, and it may lead us over the goal line and into that hitherto unexplored region of emotional promise. I’ve been there, in fact I live there, and it’s nothing to be afraid of or ashamed of. I dress the part, quite nicely I might add, and I have a starring role in my own emotional play. It’s a real tear-jerker, but I wouldn’t have it any other way...
Why on Earth is it so bad to say, “Wow, he’s CRYING – isn’t that wonderful!?” :idontknow: