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Inna
01-21-2012, 12:37 PM
It had been a life time and at lest one year from the date everyone learned about my transsexuality. First as a child the wishful thinking was to wake up the day after and magically be her. Well, I lost my believe in magic quite fast. Hope was replaced with dread and so the life went on. after 42 years of status quo forces beyond my control provided a solution and I outed my self first to ME, and then 2 years later to everyone around.

Even when realizing that my life shall encompass transsexuality as an everyday reality realistic thoughts of 100% passing were more a dream then near or far future after all how can you make this brute 227lbs, 6'1'' male into a soft, feminine, hip swagging lady.
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But despite the nagging reality I somehow felt the internal voice saying "you can do anything, all it takes is everything" and so I did, to the point that in the process if such kills me so be it!

I had achieved a great body surviving days on 700 calorie diet, I lost muscle mass as well as fat, astonishing I had lost height from 6'1'' to 5' 11'' :eek: and my body started to resemble curvature of a female.

All that was fine but one thing which kept resonating was the image of my face, a dead give away! Once again, "if you shall ask, you shall receive" and despite of being totally broke, people who love me started to land me money for FFS. I had found a surgeon who thinks like me, who approaches life like me, and who puts kindness and spirit in the first place.

I had FFS surgery on November 18th 2011, my new birthday :)

I am still astonished by the fact that after 2 months post-op I walk the corridors looking at people looking at me but this time they glimpse smile and look their way as though nothing out of ordinary is happening. When engaged in the conversation, I KNOW, that they know they are talking to a woman and not a transwoman. I get an occasional big smile from gentlemen, you know that smile :heehee: and feel like a million dollar diva.

Last night I got a complement from a woman in the club who approached me and whispered to my ear "you are so gorgeous"
It all seems surreal, but so wonderful and yet slowly so NORMAL :idontknow:
It is an amazing feeling to be taken as someone you truly are, To Be Normal, I know....all that pain and suffering to please some passers by? but NO it isn't about them or in fact it isn't about the world outside but my essence of what I feel is a reflection of true self in the mirrors pane, the reaffirmation and assertion of body and mind connect as whole.

I can't express the feeling I experience, it is mesmerizing and I hope when long into my new life that I never forget this feeling I had done so much for and all the people who shared in my misery and caught me from falling including girls here at the forum.

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Love Inna.

Stephenie S
01-21-2012, 12:41 PM
Welcome home, dear.

Stephie

Julia_in_Pa
01-21-2012, 12:46 PM
Inna,

You walked the walk now you can rest.


Julia

jennifer easton
01-21-2012, 12:46 PM
you are truly a beautiful woman and person inside and out. welcome home Jenni

kellycan27
01-21-2012, 01:04 PM
When you finally arrive it's like "Alice through the looking glass". Not being noticed or "blending" in may be fine, but being able to pass muster under scrutiny.........................Priceless!

Kel

Andy66
01-21-2012, 01:25 PM
What an amazing story and an amazing change. I'm happy for you, that you now have what you need.

StephanieC
01-21-2012, 02:45 PM
wow! .

tistheman10
01-21-2012, 05:18 PM
very cuite, looking good:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D

Jorja
01-21-2012, 06:54 PM
I think Stepnenie S said it best, welcome home Inna. Take a short rest and take time to smell the roses because your journey is only beginning. The next phase is called life. Enjoy it!

Teri Jean
01-22-2012, 03:45 PM
Inna, you look amazing and if I at 6-4 can be the woman of my dreams you certainly can and are.

LeaP
01-22-2012, 04:23 PM
It is an amazing feeling to be taken as someone you truly are, To Be Normal, I know....all that pain and suffering to please some passers by? but NO it isn't about them or in fact it isn't about the world outside but my essence of what I feel is a reflection of true self in the mirrors pane, the reaffirmation and assertion of body and mind connect as whole.

Wholeness. Beautifully achieved.

Lea

Stephenie S
01-22-2012, 09:41 PM
Your thread title reminded me of an incident several years ago. I was just starting out. I got out of my car at a supermarket and walked to the store. Someone was shouting "Miss! Miss! Miss!" Oh well, I thought. Whoever could they be shouting so loudly at? Finally I turned to see who they could possibly be hollering at, only to see my car rolling slowly down a very slight incline toward the street. It was ME they were hollering at! I caught my car easily, and all was well. But was my face red!

Kelsy
01-22-2012, 09:56 PM
Inna you are beautiful in every way! You have earned your joy! I dream of getting to that place someday!!

Kelsy

Longing2be-Trisha
01-22-2012, 10:01 PM
Inna WOW what a journey! Rest and enjoy yourself!

Hugs

Suzette Muguet de Mai
01-22-2012, 10:30 PM
Inna, thank you for being so beautiful in every way. You are an inspiration, a mentor, a very caring person and you are someone I truly respect and admire. I feel you truly represent so much beauty and love you have for all. I don't think you have any nasty horrible resentment for anyone and for that you are so true. Your positive attitude gives me hope where as recently I lost all desire for anything. You are so inspirational to all, and a help to others. You have no idea that you are helping so many in some of the most unknowingly ways just in your writings. Please never, ever change.

Thank you Inna

Inna
01-22-2012, 10:34 PM
Thank you girls for such wonderful response! OMG I am enjoying my self tremendously. Sort of, over night, but perhaps the healing power of love and my time spent in Chicago with my angel sister, had given me what I needed. I centered my spirit and body followed. Since I realized that leaving home without any makeup is a no no, sort of makeup being the American Express card, "don't leave home without it" :) I keep on getting called in wonderfully cute ways. Oh Miss, young lady! First I am mesmerized by getting to feel that I in fact pass 100% of time and being Inna, my wardrobe contains jeans, jeans and more jeans with exchangeable cute tops and also choices in heels but flats are standard, for now at least. I know that in time when swelling subsides and true bone structure emerges I hope that even on my worst hair day I shall present a 100% woman, but that is still a fear within....well, you know.....being trans I must fear something :)
It is a wonderful experience when being red as a female in entirety and fear and sadness is replaced by joy and wholeness. I still get tickled when hearing "young lady" and think to my self "if they only knew the journey and the years this girl had to travel and immense sense of accomplishment for something it seems so simple, yet incredibly complicated, of just being YOU!

KaTanya
01-25-2012, 09:40 AM
Seems like your real journey is just beginning. Fare thee well.

Just a side question: You said you went from 6'1" to 5'11"... ???
-Tanya

Jordie
01-25-2012, 09:49 AM
Inna,

You are an inspiration for many of us. I do admire your courage, sense of awareness an specially your free spirit. You are a beautiful woman and wish you all the best always.

.:PEACE

Inna
01-25-2012, 10:53 AM
Seems like your real journey is just beginning. Fare thee well.

Just a side question: You said you went from 6'1" to 5'11"... ???
-Tanya
Yep... I have dwell on this a bit and came away with understanding that with a tremendous muscle loss as well as fat tissue loss, I reduced overall measurement of my entire body.
My shoulder width, thickness of hands and feet, they all changed and changed dramatically, all that was a result of diet regimen of eating between 700-1000 calories per day, it had become my daily routine and a lifestyle. That combined with a diuretic (spiro) which expels water from within must had added to compression of all soft tissue located between and in the joints. My spine, knees, ankles, had in short collapsed a little by each one but resulted in a tremendous height difference overall. And that's a good thing for a 6'1'' girl who likes 5'' high heels :)

morgan51
01-26-2012, 08:31 AM
Inna you are truly an inspiration thankyou for all you are and do for this forum I am encouraged each time you share.

7sisters
01-28-2012, 02:38 AM
Inna, I'm very happy for you. You're always on my mind. I can see God sent his angels to take care of you. You were, are and always will be beautiful.

Paula_56
01-28-2012, 07:46 AM
you speak for so many of us, I hung on every word of this, the words will echo in my all day, very powerful, I undenrstand.