Libido

[Diana Bain]

As you all know libido refers to a person's sex drive or desire for sex. The desire for sex is an aspect of your personality, but varies enormously from one person to another, and it also varies depending on circumstances at a particular time.Your sex drive has usually biological, psychological, and social components. So with the foundation being laid, the question is...are you more driven to have sex (solo, with a partner or otherwise) as a woman or a man? I prefer as a woman, it feels more intimate and personal. Your thoughts?

[Kerrylee61]

Libido, I vaguely remember when I had some of that stuff but I think I misplaced it or lost it somewhere along the trail... Seems to me that I recall it wasn't all that big a thing anyway

KL

[audreyinalbany]

'fraid I'm with Kerrylee on this one... libido just ain't what it used to be

[kimdl93]

I would judge that my libido - the desire to engage in sexual activity - is one thing. I happen to experience intimacy with my SO as a woman...to the extent that's possible. But to a large extent, making love "like a woman" is secondary to simply being in the moment and being in tune with my SO's desires and responses.

[DeniseNJ]

Cheers to the OP Pandora's box has officially been opened:heehee:

[whowhatwhen]

It's gone so I can't say.

[Laura912]

"Libido" that's that new economy car from Fiat ain't it?
Laura

[drag n fly]

My libido is alive and well..It's the physical side of it...(erections) that seem to have left the scene...I've never experienced sex as a woman...but it sounds great...I'm in for almost anything..(not requiring heavy-duty rigidity, on my part anyway)...hehe smooches Jackie

[Misti]

Cheers to the OP Pandora's box has officially been opened:heehee:

There's an awful lot of Philosphy 101 flying around the forum today... It's Monday, FGS...

Oh well! Woman :devil:

[StaceyJane]

A year of HRT has put my libido on vacation and I really don't miss it.

[Mistybtm]

My libido pops up in sperts :devil:, but not so much as it used too.
I mostly (95%) enjoy being the woman durring sex. It is more intense for me being the female :o.

[ReineD]

Wow, so far there is very low libido in this thread. I wonder how much of this is naturally age related, as opposed to the chemical results of HRT, or if members are asexual.

I don't think the younger, fetish oriented CDers have found this thread yet. When you do, please keep it from being explicit. :p

[Aprilrain]

On HRT for almost a year, libido is intact, sexuall functioning is well very female like (problematic!) i had to quit HRT for 2 weeks for my recent FFS, libido went down some and functioning was almost nonexistent. After 4 days on HRT again libido has returned and functioning seems better than it has in awhile. I think it's the progesterone since E really dosen't affect sex one way or the other though it does affect my emotions which are an integral part of desire. Could be that my T took the whole 2 weeks to finally reawaken too. Chemically speaking I'm sure it's all very complicated.

[JenniferLynn0370]

What little I had to begin with must have fallen through a crack in the floor! I am only successful when I play the role of a woman!

[insearchofme]

I'm almost 63 and my libido is very alive and well, just saying.

[KellyJameson]

I do not like experiences that are sticky,slippery, make me sweat or smell and or sound weird. Did not as a child and definitely do not as an adult and this mind set killed my libido before it had a chance to be born. Thank God for books and music.

[NathalieX66]

When I am out en femme in public, I want to be a woman. I want no part of the male libido........I am a girl, simple as that.

[Karren H]

Neither.... I used up all my libido making 2 offspring.......

[eluuzion]

Hey, I have always believed that everyone is important, and has a worthy purpose...even if that purpose is to serve as the "bad example", :D

I have identified that opportunity here...so, please allow me to step forward...:)

My "libido" reserve tank was filled at a younger age than most. The indicator gauge has not dropped lower than 3/4 full since I was a kid. In spite of all claims of it "just being a matter of time" with CDing and/or age...I am still waiting for any of that reality to show up and ring my doorbell...:heehee: The "streetcar named desire" comes around my neighborhood everyday...just like the "Popsicle man". I am always waiting anxiously at the end of my drive way...

Then again...I never answer my door when somebody rings the bell. Based upon my experiences, chances of anything positive resulting from opening that door are very slim.

Just for the record...I do not consider a healthy sex drive a negative trait. :D

Maybe a decrease in libido is an inescapable natural part of age that I will experience when I "grow up". Since there is not much chance of that happening anytime soon in my case...I have a pretty secure future in that department...:D (read my little sign)

still waiting...still happy...:hugs:

:love:

[Elana]

I'm still discovering myself, I enjoy dressing up, in the beginning it was mostly for sexual reasons, and over time for the past year i've been dressing going out and finding i enjoy that part of myself also. Especially shopping. Going back to the libido i still imagine a lot of times being made love to by a man while being the the female role. I'm still looking around for a man i'd be comfortable in doing it with though. I still get off though in dressing in some silky lingerie when i'm by myself.

[Vickie_CDTV]

I don't think the younger, fetish oriented CDers have found this thread yet. When you do, please keep it from being explicit. :p

Since I fall into this category, I will give my side of this issue. Reine, I hope this is ladylike enough for the forum, please let me know if it is not.

I have always been very passionate, and I noticed for some reason I tend to be the exception in the trans community (maybe it is because of the number of TS, or because the trans community tends to be older?) I have never, ever felt that being so passionate as a bad thing. Some trans tend to be indifferent or hate their sex drive, even some my age, and it is something I cannot relate to; I mean understand if one is TS and all and your sexual response is contrary to your true gender, but I could never wrap my head around someone seeing an active and healthy sex drive as a bad thing. At least for a cis/non-ts male, medical science tells us they are supposed to have a healthy sex drive and it is an indicator of overall health. Based on what older folks tell me (cis and trans alike), as I transition from young adulthood to middle age I am very, very scared I will lose my passion with age and I don't want that to ever, ever happen.

I can understand how frustrating it can be if one has a high sex drive and cannot find a partner to share it with. It is ironic that I am such a person of great passion, and yet at the same time forced to live such a painfully lonely life... I often wonder what I did to deserve that... oh well.

[denese013]

How many times a week is biannual?

[Shananigans]

My libido is pretty typical for a female in her 20s. (Although I have heard my 30s-40s is supposed to be even better...can't imagine that...but, I'm excited). So, yeah, it's excellent. It's excellent for solo...partner...all of the above... I prefer my partner around, because we have a lot of fun.

Not really sure if I have classified whether I am having sex "as a woman" or "as a man." Gender roles get a little bent in our bedroom and things aren't explained well in user-friendly terms. We probably belong in some grey area... Though, I usually play a more dominant role and my SO enjoys being a more submissive female.

I think we both just have fun and let the creative juices flow.

^^Yeah, okay, don't take that the wrong way.

[Noortje]

I have been dressing for almost a year now, and it does not seem to have affected my libido. I have never included my dressing / female side in the bedroom. I do not feel the need (much), and my girlfriend is not up for that, so that road is closed off.

The general confusion about sexuality and identity that I experience as a crossdresser has interfered with my sex life somewhat. I'm the sort of person who can ruin a moment by overthinking and worrying too much, so sometimes all those emotions and thoughts get in the way of forging an intimate connection.

I have never felt the need to sleep with a man, even when imagining a more feminine role for myself. It's just... not attractive.

[vivianann]

I still have a strong sex drive, how ever I prefer to be male when engaging in lovemaking with a woman. When I am in femme mode I tend to be asexual unless a woman tries to arrouse me.

[Foxglove]

I used to have lots of libido--for about six months before and six months after my marriage. Then it got mislaid somewhere, maybe with the rest of the junk in the garage. I'd say I'd probably look for it again if I found a suitable partner. But I don't think there's a suitable partner for me on this planet. I can't seem to find one anyway.

[josee]

Annabelle, there is someone for you somewhere. You just have to keep looking and kiss a lot of frogs.

[moondog]

Very strong regardless of how I dress, always solo because my marriage is on the rocks, so to speak.

[Foxglove]

Annabelle, there is someone for you somewhere. You just have to keep looking and kiss a lot of frogs.

Thanks, Josee. And you're right: French women are gorgeous!

[NicoleScott]

I don't think the younger, fetish oriented CDers have found this thread yet. When you do, please keep it from being explicit. :p

Reine, just because some people get aroused about crossdressing and/or certain articles of feminine clothing doesn't mean that they have no sense of decency and commitment to following the rules of the forum and need such a warning any more than others' sexual activities driven differently. We don't need to read about the details of anyone's sexual activities. You've always given an even-handed treatment of those cd's who are fetish-driven, so your post seems a bit uncharacteristic.

[docrobbysherry]

As a 60+ single man with a teen around, I don't have or desire the kind of action I got as single man in his 30/40's. I think that my libido is fine for my age. :) It's my physical performance that's not so hot!:sad:

However, speaking of solitary sex only, there's a HUGE DIFFERENCE whether it's me as a man, or Sherry!:eek:
Having sex just like a female would takes me quite a bit longer but the orgasms r mind bending by comparison!:D

PS: Shana, remember, it's NOT the size of the dog in a fite that's important, it's the size of the fite in the dog! The same is tru for sex! I've been with a lady in her 60's that was still a tiger. And, remember some their 20/30's that were pussycats! U r who u r!

[suchacutie]

Lets see, how do we stay tasteful here :)

I'm in a committed "active" heterosexual relationship with my wife, and the discovery of Tina has not changed that at all.

Was that tasteful? :)

[Jocelyn Quivers]

In male mode it's gone, in girl mode it exist but barely, I do not really miss it all although the misses feels quite differently about this as I keep noticing Viagra advertisments showing up everywhere. :o

[Daphne Renee]

My libido is just fine. Now I am in my 40's so its not quite what it was in my 20's but its still alive and well. Most of the time I will play more of the typical male role in the bedroon but every once in a while a little more submissive. I have been married for almost 10 years.

[ReineD]

Reine, just because some people get aroused about crossdressing and/or certain articles of feminine clothing doesn't mean that they have no sense of decency and commitment to following the rules of the forum and need such a warning any more than others' sexual activities driven differently ...


That's true and I apologize. :o

I shouldn't have said, "younger, fetish oriented". Don't know what I was thinking. I should have said, "Members with stronger libido". (no pun intended) :)

... and everyone is doing a great job keeping it tame, thank you!

[Annaliese2010]

"......are you more driven to have sex (solo, with a partner or otherwise) as a woman or a man?"

Yes. I mean, no matter what I am I so love sex. God! But only with girls or gurls, not males. Much more sensual and enjoyable when gurl-girl or gurl-gurl than guy-girl ever was. But...if I could Only find the right Girl, this gurl would dis.a..s...s....e.....m......b.......l..........e. Poof! As if I never was. And I am good with that.

[docrobbysherry]

That's true and I apologize. :o

I shouldn't have said, "younger, fetish oriented". Don't know what I was thinking. I should have said, "Members with stronger libido". (no pun intended) :)

... and everyone is doing a great job keeping it tame, thank you!
I think most of us knew that's what u meant, Reine! Lol!


"......are you more driven to have sex (solo, with a partner or otherwise) as a woman or a man?"

Yes. I mean, no matter what I am I so love sex. God! But only with girls or gurls, not males. Much more sensual and enjoyable when gurl-girl or gurl-gurl than guy-girl ever was. But...if I could Only find the right Girl, this gurl would dis.a..s...s....e.....m......b.......l..........e. Poof! As if I never was. And I am good with that.
Annaliese, it may be helpful to remember these simple definitions:

Females r usually called, "females", women, or GGs.
Crossdressing males r usually called, CDs, TGs, or TSs.

Using the terms, "girls", or, "gurls", MAY be confusing to newbies or the simple minded here. Like ME! So, u r a girl, or gurl, who likes girls, or gurls!? Thank goodness u don't like guys, too! My poor head mite pop!

[Intertwined]

Here I go, the odd ball again, I'm 50, and mine has only gotten stronger, on average I have strong desires 3 times a day, as for being masculine or feminine when I have my desires, half the time one, half the time the other...

[Annaliese2010]

Annaliese, it may be helpful to remember these simple definitions:

Females r usually called, "females", women, or GGs.
Crossdressing males r usually called, CDs, TGs, or TSs.

Using the terms, "girls", or, "gurls", MAY be confusing to newbies or the simple minded here. Like ME! So, u r a girl, or gurl, who likes girls, or gurls!? Thank goodness u don't like guys, too! My poor head mite pop!

Thank you Sherry. I'm always messed up on what's the right words to use. That helps! And nope, no guys! But Oh noooo...please honey, don't pop ur poor head over lil 'ol me! :battingeyelashes: LOL...

[Ava Tryptyk]

For me, dressing is very much a sexual thing. I am turned on even when thinking of putting on women's clothes.

Since I'm still a completely closeted cross-dresser, I haven't experienced any acts of intimacy while dressed as a woman, though I don't think I would act different than if I were in drab, since my male parts are still there, and I'm sexually attracted to women only. Overall I would just be dressed differently, but it wouldn't change my sexual experience, it would just add a new source of stimulation, I suppose.

I guess the closest I've gone is being together with my girlfriend while my toenails are painted, but then again, the whole toenail idea was originally my girlfriend's.

[whowhatwhen]

Is anyone the opposite like me?
Where I would rather not have the physical response or like to voluntarily suppress it?

[Lisia]

Dressing has always had a component of sexual thrill for me, except at an early age obviously. That component is by far not my only reason for dressing, however. That being said, since coming out to my SO things have definitely become much more interesting for both of us! I have yet to experience being the 'woman' in this respect, but that will be changing soon. At the moment we both very much enjoy our experience being together with me being dressed...

Lisia

[Shananigans]

Is anyone the opposite like me?
Where I would rather not have the physical response or like to voluntarily suppress it?

Do you mean that you wish that you being dressed did not automatically elicit a sexual response (erection)?

If so, yes, my SO has thought along those lines sometimes. (We talk a lot about what we are thinking). Usually we enjoy the response, but it can be bad for when we are going out on the town. We usually try to take care of things before going out, but you never know what might come up. Hose with a control top built in seems to help, but I know that walking around like that can be a good reminder that you aren't exactly the woman that you are portray. I think it can get to him sometimes...

[whowhatwhen]

That's exactly it.

*look at something I want to buy* or *a hat drops somewhere*
[sound of slidewhistle]

I just think an exhasperated "Really?" when it happens.

[docrobbysherry]

That's exactly it.

*look at something I want to buy* or *a hat drops somewhere*
[sound of slidewhistle]

I just think an exhasperated "Really?" when it happens.
I'm confused, 3W? Haven't u heard of "tucking"? Then, it matters NOT to others if u get excited, because they NEVER KNOW! I tuck virtually every time I dress! I notice arousal and it's usually appreciated, but NEVER an issue!

[whowhatwhen]

I need to try again and give it more practice, if it does prevent erections then I'll have to do it way more often.

[PretzelGirl]

I find that after twenty two years of marriage, mine is always inversely proportional to my wife's. :heehee:

[Shananigans]

I need to try again and give it more practice, if it does prevent erections then I'll have to do it way more often.

My SO didn't have much luck with the taping tuck method that he found on this forum. He recruited my help and I was really useless lol....

But, control top hose and panties that are designed to "hold women in" are good...my SO just tucks it between his legs and wears these things and we haven't had a problem. We like to be lesbians on the dance floor and things get pretty wild, but we haven't had any "slip ups."

It can be frustrating though, I understand. I'd try the taping method on this forum...it's a whole thread on tucking. If it doesn't work, try the control top hose and strong undies. Added bonuses of looking 10 pounds thinner too lol

[docrobbysherry]

I need to try again and give it more practice, if it does prevent erections then I'll have to do it way more often.
Heaven forbid, 3W! If tucking did THAT, I'd never do it! Read what Shana posted above. Taping is horrible, (if you're not shaved), time consuming, and a hassle!

I wear 2 pairs of tite women's panties REVERSED! Perfect tuck and hold every time! Quick, easy, and no problems with or without erections!

[whowhatwhen]

'Tis worth a shot, it does sort of violate my rule about wearing anything feminine in male mode but the benefits may be worth it.

[MsJanessa]

dressed and made up as a woman