Frédérique
01-30-2012, 07:03 PM
“If you’re not confused, you’re not paying attention” (Tom Peters)
Since you’re a male dressing as a female, a man dressing as a woman, or a boy dressing as a girl, are you more or less attentive to the gender you’re trying to emulate? Back when I was trying to be a male for the sake of a beloved female, I was accused of (or lauded as) being attentive. Well, why not? The woman was dressed as I wished to be, affecting airs I wished were my own, so I naturally put myself in her shoes, on HER side of the gender chasm, and acted accordingly. If you’re attentive you are thoughtful, considerate, courteous, devoted and watchful. I would say “chivalrous,” but that is an outmoded male mindset that stems from an assumption of superiority, and besides, I don’t own a horse. Some females consider courtesy to be a form of condescension, and who can blame them? This is the 21st century, after all, and some form of equality is supposed to be taking root. Nope – I’m talking (writing) about ATTentiveness...
OK, if you’re a MtF crossdresser, are you attentive to yourself? Look at all you’ve had to do to reach this blessed state of gender incorporation, blurring, or confusion! To begin with, there’s been a lot of attenuation going on. You know what I mean – you’ve made yourself thin to fit into those fantastic clothes you desire, and you need to keep yourself that way if you wish to prolong the pleasure. In the interim, you may notice that the male has diminished over time. He’s been weakened, diluted, and made less “deadly” to all concerned. You have unwittingly attenuated the circumstances, along with yourself, in an attempt to be more attractive – your “attraction sphere” demands this, so you wave masculinity goodbye (and good riddance). To put it in terms a male may better understand, your male-ness is wearing away by unfelt friction, a kind of attrition. The battle of the genders never occurred – the two “sides” embraced instead...
Along with your attire, your attitude will change as you dress in something more comfortable, more appropriate, and more expressive of your hidden desires. Rather than say “dress,” I should say attrap, since you are adorning yourself with forbidden pleasures, or the stuff that dreams are made of. Don’t forget the precious attars! Two wrongs don’t make a right, I suppose, but an entire closet full of the “wrong” clothing makes a world of positive difference. Think about touching, or, more specifically, the idea of attrectation. When you dress in female clothing the genders will be attiguous, another way of saying “contiguous.” I once met a person here in Kansas who had never heard the word contiguous, and I said “It means touching.” The person protested, but I insisted that it is a special word, and touching itself is a special yet undervalued and underappreciated commodity, especially among those who would decry crossdressing as a perversion. In this instance, those who have tactile sensibilities are constantly under attack...
The MtF crossdresser not only attenuates, he, subsequently SHE, also attemperates. Attemper means to reduce, modify or moderate by mixture, or to mix in just proportion. If we are doing a little more than just dressing for the sake of dressing, aren’t we modifying our birth gender by getting in touch with those things we are forbidden to look at, think about, try on, or FEEL? I’ll tell you, I can feel the attemperation taking place as soon as I slip on a skirt – the male is softened, quite agreeably so, and I like (love) the sensation. I can attest to the feelings that come over me, and I attain a sense of calm and balance that fuels my attractiveness. As such, I’m able to attend these meetings of like minds and kindred spirits, be in attendance (if not lurking), and attach myself to the proceedings. I know there are others like me who attempt the unattemptable, and pay close attention to their own ongoing attenuation. If you were with me, I would say “ATTA GIRL!”
Well, I’ll be in the attic if you need me. Are you ATTentive, darling? :battingeyelashes:
Since you’re a male dressing as a female, a man dressing as a woman, or a boy dressing as a girl, are you more or less attentive to the gender you’re trying to emulate? Back when I was trying to be a male for the sake of a beloved female, I was accused of (or lauded as) being attentive. Well, why not? The woman was dressed as I wished to be, affecting airs I wished were my own, so I naturally put myself in her shoes, on HER side of the gender chasm, and acted accordingly. If you’re attentive you are thoughtful, considerate, courteous, devoted and watchful. I would say “chivalrous,” but that is an outmoded male mindset that stems from an assumption of superiority, and besides, I don’t own a horse. Some females consider courtesy to be a form of condescension, and who can blame them? This is the 21st century, after all, and some form of equality is supposed to be taking root. Nope – I’m talking (writing) about ATTentiveness...
OK, if you’re a MtF crossdresser, are you attentive to yourself? Look at all you’ve had to do to reach this blessed state of gender incorporation, blurring, or confusion! To begin with, there’s been a lot of attenuation going on. You know what I mean – you’ve made yourself thin to fit into those fantastic clothes you desire, and you need to keep yourself that way if you wish to prolong the pleasure. In the interim, you may notice that the male has diminished over time. He’s been weakened, diluted, and made less “deadly” to all concerned. You have unwittingly attenuated the circumstances, along with yourself, in an attempt to be more attractive – your “attraction sphere” demands this, so you wave masculinity goodbye (and good riddance). To put it in terms a male may better understand, your male-ness is wearing away by unfelt friction, a kind of attrition. The battle of the genders never occurred – the two “sides” embraced instead...
Along with your attire, your attitude will change as you dress in something more comfortable, more appropriate, and more expressive of your hidden desires. Rather than say “dress,” I should say attrap, since you are adorning yourself with forbidden pleasures, or the stuff that dreams are made of. Don’t forget the precious attars! Two wrongs don’t make a right, I suppose, but an entire closet full of the “wrong” clothing makes a world of positive difference. Think about touching, or, more specifically, the idea of attrectation. When you dress in female clothing the genders will be attiguous, another way of saying “contiguous.” I once met a person here in Kansas who had never heard the word contiguous, and I said “It means touching.” The person protested, but I insisted that it is a special word, and touching itself is a special yet undervalued and underappreciated commodity, especially among those who would decry crossdressing as a perversion. In this instance, those who have tactile sensibilities are constantly under attack...
The MtF crossdresser not only attenuates, he, subsequently SHE, also attemperates. Attemper means to reduce, modify or moderate by mixture, or to mix in just proportion. If we are doing a little more than just dressing for the sake of dressing, aren’t we modifying our birth gender by getting in touch with those things we are forbidden to look at, think about, try on, or FEEL? I’ll tell you, I can feel the attemperation taking place as soon as I slip on a skirt – the male is softened, quite agreeably so, and I like (love) the sensation. I can attest to the feelings that come over me, and I attain a sense of calm and balance that fuels my attractiveness. As such, I’m able to attend these meetings of like minds and kindred spirits, be in attendance (if not lurking), and attach myself to the proceedings. I know there are others like me who attempt the unattemptable, and pay close attention to their own ongoing attenuation. If you were with me, I would say “ATTA GIRL!”
Well, I’ll be in the attic if you need me. Are you ATTentive, darling? :battingeyelashes: