After years of perfecting do you wish you were born female

[DeniseNJ]

I am not a trouble maker, and I know this question has be asked before . but I want to hear from those girls that have been perfecting their fememine self . The ones to a point that they like what they see in the mirror. I know many say hey!! I like being a man. Growing up I always envied those little girls that looked so pretty in their dresses and shoes. I wasn't one to play with dolls, but I think I could have taken to that easily. I feel we dress for a reason as if we are compelled to be a female. I will admitt, I wish I was born a female more now than I did 25 years ago. Can ones out look on life be influenced with years of dressing. One more {Q) in your eyes do you feel you look better dressed up as a woman or a man??? cause when I view the Boy / Girl mode shots the Girls WIN hands down..

[Debglam]

I will admitt, I wish I was born a female more now than I did 25 years ago....

I think that the opposite may be true for me. While it is hard to see clearly 40 years in the past, I think that given different times and different circumstances l would probably be a long since transitioned woman right now. That is not my reality however and I am quite comfortable on the middle path, as tenuous as it is sometimes!

[Marleena]

Denise, I'm still perfecting my look but I think I look better as a woman. I'm going bald on top and a wig feels and looks great!

I'm glad I wasn't born a female because dressing and looking like one would be routine. Transforming to girl mode is the nicest thing ever.

[andrea35]

Hm... yes, I am submissive by nature I don't have a big body and when I was younger
a lot of times people could not tell by my voice on the phone if I was a man or a woman and I have been told that I am passable as a woman

[Karren H]

I've never wanted to be a female... Still don't.. Way too much like work to have to do that every day! And I don't know if I look better or not... Just different. Prettier but not necessarily better.


Hm... yes, I am submissive by nature I don't have a big body and......

Funny but I don't think I've ever met a submissive woman,, more like the opposite.... So I don't understand why "we" associate being female or feminine with being submissive?

[Ava Tryptyk]

I wouldn't want to have been born female, but I would have liked to have been born with a supernatural ability that would allow me to switch my gender at any given time, so that at some times I could be a man and do the things I usually do when not dressing, but at other times I could be a woman, wear dresses, hang out with girls.

[kimdl93]

hard question to answer. I never liked my male appearance, and I'm fairly certain that my female image is only barely acceptable. Yeah, I've had people tell me otherwise, but when I look in the mirror I see flaws. That hasn't stopped me yet.

[S. Lisa Smith]

I look in the mirror when I'm dressed and think I look pretty good for an old woman. That being said, I'm happy being the man that I am...

[Jenniferathome]

No, I have never wished I was other than a man. I wish I had been able to experiment and dress much more when I was young (and without the guilt) but I would never want to be woman, just better at expressing my feminine side.

[Annie M]

At times I'll see a tall slender woman and I have a real envy thing wishing I looked like her. But most of the time Im pretty happy with my guy side.

[Acastina]

... I know many say hey!! I like being a man. Growing up I always envied those little girls that looked so pretty in their dresses and shoes. I wasn't one to play with dolls, but I think I could have taken to that easily. I feel we dress for a reason as if we are compelled to be a female. I will admitt, I wish I was born a female more now than I did 25 years ago. Can ones out look on life be influenced with years of dressing. One more {Q) in your eyes do you feel you look better dressed up as a woman or a man??? cause when I view the Boy / Girl mode shots the Girls WIN hands down..

I can honestly say that I DON'T much like being a man, and I know that may put me in a minority here. The wish has always been with me, despite six decades of making do and doing without. As I wrote in a song 30 years ago: "Pretty good at playing the role". That's what it is to me, a role, not something I have a core identification with. I clean up just fine in boy mode; handsome, even, but it's simple self-esteem of trying to look nice however and wherever I am, not really pride. Many photos of me in boy mode kind of make me cringe: my dad's nose, thin hair, a kind of serious expression that can be taken as a scowl. Another song, from the late 1960s: "I'm just doing the best I can/Trying to be a man". That's how I felt in my late teens, and not much has changed in that regard.

So, I definitely prefer to see myself as Annie. It's a common phenomenon that CDs focus all of their efforts to be attractive on the girl; lots of bland or slovenly men who suddenly take an interest in their appearance when dressing, so you may be on to something comparing the boy/girl mode pics.

[ArleneRaquel]

I became " Katrina Maureen" in 2003, " Arlene", in 2007 (?), that fine with me. In present time I love living as a woman, I was born male, IMHO 2003 was my time bo become a woma, even in the very limited way that I am, just clothes, makeup, perfume, ect.

[Stephanie47]

If I were a young woman of today I wouldn't complain at all. It seems there are more women in college than men. There are numerous female doctors and lawyers and executives. Women are no relegated to the kitchen and household duties as the women of the 1950's and 1960's were. If I were a young cross dresser of today, I'd probably emulate women by wearing a business suit and heels. I'd probably want to dress for Halloween as a 1950's-1960's June Cleaver in a dress with a sweeping hemline and petticoats/slips, which I choose for my everyday wear now.

[Vickie_CDTV]

Size isn't necessarily related to being submissive though. I am a big person (always have been), have the muscle and skeletal structure of a male, and have an unmistakable male voice, but I am submissive/passive (to females.)

Some (albeit few) men would like to be homemakers, sadly it was more of an option for men and women alike in the 50s than it is today.

[Suzette Muguet de Mai]

To be born a female and miss catching the twins in the zipper or getting a knock in them and causing pain? To miss the neanderthal walk, to miss the testosterone wash and grow a large, wide lat spread, good size pecs and massive thighs, be aggressive and read porn and enjoy?
HELL YEH!

[Richelle423]

I'm glad I wasn't born a girl, having to deal with "femine issues" I just like to dress as closely as I can as a woman.

[goodnhose]

Denise, like others have said i enjoy being a man but love the option to be fem. when i want to. Hands down i feel i look better as a woman. Take care.

[suchacutie]

I love having two sides of me, and I love both of them. My only complaint is that we didn't identify that situation sooner as we would have had a longer time to figure out how to carve out more time for Tina. It's just taking a long time to let her become her own person, but we are getting there :)

[sami1952]

after years of dressing in women's clothes and working on my appearance to look more like a woman,yes i wish i was a woman but i getting on with my years and just drssing up is more than enough for me.

[Diane Smith]

I'm not deeply upset about having male parts, but all in all, I think life would have been happier and more fulfilling as a woman.

- Diane

[Tuesday Theriot]

Wow! That makes me think. Sometimes, I might have answered, "yes." Most times, probably not. But, to be honest I really don't know how to answer. I wish I could be more decisive in this matter, but I'm still working on getting past the basics.

I didn't spend a lifetime perfecting my feminine side. I spent a lifetime of perfecting an imitation of manhood!

I love the idea of femininity. I love the way it makes me feel today and years ago. Right now, though, I'm a big, masculine looking and acting man. I've trained myself to be a "real man," and to hide any actions or feelings which may fall outside of southern norms.

Just posting to this board makes me nervous, and a little excited, but I still don't know how I'm going to get beyond where I'm at right now. I see it as a long evolutionary period, and I'm still in the learning stage. I still have facial hair, for crying out loud! I want to shave, but that is probably the biggest step I could take right now. I've spent so much time convincing myself that I'm something I'm not, that I know I'm going to have a very difficult time changing.

Sometimes, I regret not being more accepting of my own feelings when I was young and malleable. But, time moves on and before we know it we're middle aged and filled with regrets. Don't get me wrong, I've had a very interesting and full life life up to this point. I wouldn't trade the excitement of my life for anything. However, I realize that it's now or never. It's time to move on and move forward. This is something I want to do, more than anything else. I just wish it wasn't so terribly difficult.

[Calleona]

having a catholic upbringing gave me the guilt thing so I fought it for so long ,now I wish I had been more rebelious and maybe lived for me and not what people thought of me

[candice44]

I wish I were a woman, either born as a female or GRS.

[DeniseNJ]

All good points here, some make it sound like you can't have fun as a woman in todays world, I dare say a {Male dominated society} to me that phrase is out dated. Some make it sound like it is so hard to be female, if so I feel sorry for all you GG out there. Some say I like to have the both sides of me
and the fact that I can switch back and forth, I say we only switch back in our minds and can never be completely on the other side cause we are male. From all the reads I feel maybe we also enjoying being a more softer sided male. We all talk about shaving, polished nails, make-up, pretty dresses, fantastic heels. and when we revert back to the crude male self, some of the softer more feminine traits always come along. Do we all feel Macho, when we throw on jeans and work boots and let our facial hair grow out a few days. Some go to the extremes and want to look feminine when in girl mode, I am just saying the man in us has changed and some don't realize it.

[karanne]

If I were a young woman of today I wouldn't complain at all. It seems there are more women in college than men. There are numerous female doctors and lawyers and executives. Women are no relegated to the kitchen and household duties as the women of the 1950's and 1960's were. If I were a young cross dresser of today, I'd probably emulate women by wearing a business suit and heels. I'd probably want to dress for Halloween as a 1950's-1960's June Cleaver in a dress with a sweeping hemline and petticoats/slips, which I choose for my everyday wear now.

Well ... I don't know about the June Cleaver thing ... <grin> There are certain things that GG's undergo that I'm glad I don't, such as the Curse and pregnancy (that looks so ... uncomfortable!). However, since I'm still short of that last little >snip< and I pass fairly well as a woman (I don't know about young, though), having been working at it since high school.

[KellyJameson]

I wish nature had been more decisive and not popped me out of the womb in an androgynous state living the next fifteen years with people wondering if I'm male or female. It may make it easy to crossdress but it is hell on everything else. In hinesight my life would have been much less stressful if I had been born female, I would have been more than happy to go thru the curse and physical labor than the emotional and mental stuff of living between worlds.

[Vivian Chen]

No, because I would not appreciate all the clothes, makeup, and other goodies that come with being a crossdresser. A lot of real women don't like dresses, makeup, and heels nowadays or take them for granted. Dressing up allows me to discover the feminine side with eyes wide open

[Persephone]

After years of perfecting do you wish you were born female?

Absolutely!!!

Hugs,
Persephone.

[donnatracey]

Quite happy born as I was.....being Donna whenever I want is an added bonus.....keeps life interesting!...............:heehee::heehee:

[NathalieX66]

I don't bother philosphising over the past. yes I'm jealous of how women look and dress. They have unlimited freedom......that's what I want. I strive to be passable to the max, and yet I still want to have a life. I will never be Jennifer Anniston, and there are many compromises I accept.
Money spent with hair removal ( laser & electrolysis....mine is dark & heavy and a nuisance even to my guy life) is my way of life for a while. I lost 25 pounds in two years because of running. I'm at the path right now where I want to be both genders, and have a switch where I can go either way. I don't really know what the future has for me. The only way to stop obsessing over it is to live it, and make it a part of me, and get on with the rest of my life. Thinking about this s*** by the day, by the hour, by the minute eats up too many brain cells.
I'm going to post a guy shot/girl shot of me in a couple of months, and I can already tell you the difference even now is downright effing scary.....in a good way. but I like me better now than before.

[taís]

I'm here staring at the thread, trying to reach an answer. 9 out of 10 times I've promptly answered "no". but... in that one exception I wonder if I wouldn't be happier than I am today.



I would have liked to have been born with a supernatural ability that would allow me to switch my gender at any given time

me too. but not only change gender, I want the whole shapeshifting experience!
(in a mutant world I'd love to be Meggan (http://marvel.wikia.com/Meggan_Puceanu_%28Earth-616%29) <3)

[Katherine L.]

No, not really. I very much enjoy being a man who enjoys dressing as a woman, but that's all.

Kira

[Kerstin]

I haven't been CDing seriously for years, but I have often fantasised and thought about being a woman, and these thoughts and feelings are growing stronger all the time.

[Melissa Cross]

Although I do jot have any desire for GRS and I agree with all the points made about the joys of being a man who is a CDer, I have to say that given a choice, I wish I was born a woman. I can't really explain it but that's how I feel....

[cindi cinnamon]

I've been underdressing for years.... I really haven't had much success in perfecting my outward appearance, because I was born with a face and body that doesn't lend itself to femenization well..... but I've wished, for quite some time now, that I had been born a female. I just absolutely adore the female form.... nothing is more beautiful. Not to mention, I have always been uncomfortable trying to be "Manly"... I'm definitely submissive in nature.... and enjoy traditional female hobbies much more than male ones. I WISHED I WAS A GIRL !!!! ....... I mean, at least once in a while...... In a perfect world, nature would allow me to transition back and forth between genders, so I could enjoy all the different fantasies I've dreamed about.

[suchacutie]

Denise, I'd like to respond to your last post about feminine parts of us carrying over when we transform back to our male sides. There are two sides to this issue, aren't there? The one side is that there are clearly compromises that must be made if we are to be able to transform relatively easily such as eyebrows and various patches of body hair and the constant maintenance of skin and nails that have to be done regardless of gender.

But, the issue I find most important is that I was nominally a male for decades, but during that time I had some characteristics that were clearly feminine, and it was confusing as hell. Now that I've been able to identify and separate actions, thoughts, desires, and expectations between my two selves I find that each of my selves is much more consistently one gender or the other. Thus, I'm much more of a "guy" in that mode than I used to be. Yet, that guy knows how to access that feminine side when it is needed or useful! To me, life is much clearer because of the understanding of my two gendered selves. :)

[HannahF6]

It is actually a very difficult question. Yes there are problems with being a male, but then, I've never had a period. As a youngster a prayed hard many nights, please God make a me a girl when I wake up. I might have prayed less hard had I known what girls had to go through.

The important thing is that I was born as a male. Had a girl been born it would be a completely different person and so a question like "supposing you had been born a girl" makes no logical sense, it can't be you, it has to be a different person. I am a scientist with some major accomplishments to my name. When I look back at my early life and see the encouragement I got to excel, and the discouragement my very smart sister received I now am shocked. After all, this was the 1950s and everyone "knew" there was no point in investing in education for a girl, she will just get married and have babies. I thank God now that I was protected from that and am sorry for my sister who could have achieved so much.

If I could wave a magic wand today and suddenly reappear from a puff of smoke as a woman I'd do it in a flash. I have my science behind me now and do not expect any more big discoveries, I got the education I wanted. So, God, are you listening? What are you waiting for, now is the time!

To answer the last part, yes, I think I look better in femme mode.

Hannah

[sonna]

nowing me i have to be difficult if i was born a woman i would crossdress to be a man so i think im happy where im at.
i know i look better as a woman

[Vikki.Glen]

I would have loved to be born female. It's a constant struggle living in 2 worlds. It would just be easier for me so I wouldn't have to hide behind the tough guy persona at work or have to change how I'm dressed when my kids get home from school. Oh well I can still dream :)

[Donna June]

I wish I was born female and I believe I look better as a woman than a man.

[darla_g]

agree with Lisa, happy being a guy, but love to dress up every once in a while

[Cheryl T]

I have always wished that I was born female.
I felt that way when I was little and envied the neighborhood girls and their Sunday dresses. I feel that way today, because even though I can express this part of me and go out regularly, it's still viewed by many as "abnormal" and that's certainly not how it feels to me.

[cracks_in_porcelain]

No,I feel more special being a man that can switch my face rather then being just another pretty girl. We are all born a certain way for a reason.

[Kate Simmons]

The fact is I have been a female before, many times. This time I was born a male but the old feelings tend to bleed through. I had realized it was really all part of becoming a full spectrum person eventually. Once you know this you get used to it and just go with the flow as it comes.:)

[susan scott]

I often wish I had been born a girl but then I look at my three kids and well,,, I guess all things being considered its all fine.

[Ally 2112]

For most of my life i have flip flopped back and forth over this question .Many times it was yes and many times it has been no! I have enjoyed living as a man and do beleive men still have it easier ! .But as i have gotten older i have become way more acceppting of Ally and my girl side and more often than not i would rather be a women .I do not know if it is age or the accepptance. and im still in the figuring my self out phase and may be for many more years .I know this thou im not getting any younger and i am finally having fun !

[Luna Hikari]

I have wished I was a girl since almost before I can remember. Neurologically, I am fine with my body, I don't feel divorced from it, or that it is "wrong". However, there is a strong discrepancy between my gender identify/affiliation/etc and my body. All my life I have known and discovered time and again through experience that I am not even remotely like "other guys". I always resented the fact that my body did not allow me the option of being myself or engaging in what I felt was proper expression of my human nature. Bleh. I am quite confident I would have been much happier growing up female.

What makes it even harder is that my appearance does NOT lend itself well to going "en femme". My body is thin and limber, and even somewhat curvy, but I am totally covered head to toe in werewolf beast hair. I also have an extremely masculine face that could have been hewn from solid bedrock. Presenting as female is literally not an option.

[Matia]

For most of my life i have flip flopped back and forth over this question .Many times it was yes and many times it has been no! I have enjoyed living as a man and do beleive men still have it easier ! .But as i have gotten older i have become way more acceppting of Ally and my girl side and more often than not i would rather be a women .I do not know if it is age or the accepptance. and im still in the figuring my self out phase and may be for many more years .I know this thou im not getting any younger and i am finally having fun !

This is how it is for me too, I'm happy I opened up to my girl side relatively early and I'm enjoying it. I don't mind being a man but I'm sure I'd be happy as a girl too

[Girl]

I have wished that I had been born a girl for as long as I can remember. When I was a child I used to go to sleep hoping with all my heart that I would wake up as a girl.

[Luna Hikari]

I have wished that I had been born a girl for as long as I can remember. When I was a child I used to go to sleep hoping with all my heart that I would wake up as a girl.

Gods, I did this so, so many times I don't think I could even count them.

[jilliannichols]

Somedays,I'd say"Yes,yes!...I'd love to have been female."But I wonder if I would have the aptitudes for different job skills.I wonder the same thing about transitioning.If I were younger,richer,and better educated;then I'd have an even bigger dilemma.
If I could be a reasonably good looking girl with brains,too...definitely "YES!".
If I could be a gay woman,that would be even better.

Not gorgeous in either mode but probably better looking as a girl.

[Erica Lauren James]

Simply put Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[jennifer24]

I agree with you Denise, being female in todays world has its purks, if I knew 20 years ago what I know now I know I would be farther along in my transition, I love my female side alot more then my male side and girls have more options about what they can wear. switching back is only in our minds, everytime I have to go back to male mode I still feel female in my mind and do female things, always been like that for me.

[DeniseNJ]

I wish I was born female and I believe I look better as a woman than a man.

I totally agree Donna you look great as a woman. I to feel I look better as a woman and younger too. hair helps LOL If only I was a size 6, wore a size 9 womans shoe and was 5'6" I would like me as a girl much better I envy those pettie 140# Girls with a nice round bubble butt out there..

[paula123]

I think i would rather been born a woman

[Nikki75]

I think there are times when I wish i was born a girl. But quite content being male.

[5150 Girl]

Well,, every time I look n the mirror dressed I don't understand how I wasn't born female. Maybe I'll hit the Mega Millons one day, and have that problem fixed

[Brittany CD]

Not in the slightest. I'm happy to be male and have never had a desire to be female.

[leotard fan]

i would rather been born a woman, but i born in a man body...

[Patsy]

Well I suppose there are advantages to being born a man, you learn how they think, what's important to them. Life's difficult for sure when you're a kid, but later you can use this knowledge. U know a man who is sexually frustrated ain't going to stay around long. You kind of take your femininity and wrap it around them, trap them almost. You can't trap them completely, cos they still have to be the boss, and what woman would want a man who wasn't the boss. But it's a directed domination.