have you truth lately?

[Inna]

In recent posts I had gone further then ever in spewing my own demons and frustrations that had to do with transition and hindrance or more so difficulties with accepting certain facts of life.

I hesitated to do so a while because some of the issues would had potentially unsettle some who were on the other side of things.

I found that speaking my truth and feelings in the utmost direct way could hurt and provoke anger, and avoided such discussion with all my might because I am the last person who would want part in hurting feelings of others.
But the same, I my self had taken the path of truth and nothing but the truth, and quickly found out through my life experience that such road is paved with thorns and it hurts like hell.

Seems pain is the price of truth when surrounded with lie and deceit.

I found this entire forum extremely helpful oozing with mothers warmth, a child could only understand but at the same time, a bit naive and feel goodie tushes at times.

I feel some of the REAL issues, even though tough to discuss should be discussed, but stress that, like in any wholesome family, we all should understand that such discussions are here for one reason, to better our selves in the process and grow in our lives weather we call ourselves, crossdresser, trannie, transwhatever, or just plain woman*

This is my own thinking, however after reading through few posts regarding differences between our selves and my recent own experiences, I truly feel that allowing these frustrations to show isn't wrong, because they are real and true, and this forum as I see it, should be the place we feel we can spill our guts and still be taken for whom we are.



*term seldom used in trans circles for it provokes slew of criticism and feeling of grandeur for the individual wanting such unobtainable name tag.

[LeaP]

What topics and issues do you have in mind, Inna?

Lea

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Your honesty and openess is just you...and you are terrific..

in one recent thread i commented on your OP but you cleared up your thoughts...i hope you arent thinking about that...:love:

i have spoken many unpopular things that i view as "truth"...we all know truth is more subjective than we'd like..and when people challenge me in what i think is truthful way, i hope i always respond with honesty and care...i know that you do!

many people hear truths and get upset because it goes to the core of their own insecurities or doubts...it highlights their own internal struggle, or challenges their coping mechanisms...if you think about its BETTER to rip the bandaids off and expose the truth

[suzy1]

I think I appreciate what you are saying Inna.

I always remind myself when I am here that the other members are real people with real feelings and real problems.

And we are [for the most part] grown up people that should be able to discuss any subject because how else are we going to help and support each other?

And lets make allowances for the naïve and goodie tushes Inna. You and I have been around the block a few times girl.:)

SUZY

[Inna]

Thank you ladies for your words, we walk a tight rope dealing with the subject so volatile and explosive. I feel at times like a soldier trying to disarm a land mine but whose hands are shaking and sweat drips from my terrified face.
And despite of this feeling I have a need, a tremendous need to understand but what is most crucial, for these subjects to finally make sense.

[Stephenie S]

I'm sorry, Inna, but I just don't understand. What subject is this that needs our truth?

S

[Stephenie S]

Well, to save my life I can't delete the double posting. I hate computers.

[Inna]

That is exactly what I am talking about Stephanie, double postings, gosh when will you learn!!!!!!!!!!!! He, he, lol........just kidding :p

No particular subject in mind, however plenty subjects which may by a virtue of theme, upset certain segment of our populous, it is inescapable.

[Stephenie S]

Well low and be hold. The double posting is gone. Glory be throughout all the heavens.

S

[Kelsy]

Inna,

Just keep telling the truth It's always the best way but certainly not the most painless way!
These things will bring you peace, knowing and telling the truth in love and loving and repecting yourself and others understanding that we all come from differing perspectives! AND we are all human!

Thanks Inna, Hugs Kelsy

[Dawn cd]

We just have to keep in mind that the Truth is very big, and none of us are so godlike that we see the whole of it, with all its complications, in one glance. So we wind up testifying to "our" truth—and that's fine, so long as we don't claim it's the truth for all people and all ages.

[jaleecd]

Inna,
I have followed your trek to where you need to be, and I really like the woman that has emerged..She is totally beautiful, inside and out.
I believe that each of us are trapped by our K>A>S>H>, that being our knowledge, atitude, society and history. that makes up our life experence. often that is a lie due to family disfunction or just stinkin' thinkin'.
When we rub up against some one elses take on reality, this causes discomfort because it doesn't fit in the rigid molds of what we hold as truth, thus we will have to take a reality check to find where the truth really lies... just my suspisions ....jaylee.