A rather Sexual question...

[ChubbyLeahCD]

Girls,
As you can see I'm relatively new.
I've been CDing for years but never shaved my legs, wore makeup or wig.
Hoping I'll have the courage to telly wife I still CD and she will accept it fully...
Anyway, if you want to read my full story you can at the intro forum.
On to my question...

I love dressing up and feeling sexy and pretty. At times I raid my wife's clothes and wear anything to feel pretty and then I start getting sexier until I'm down to lingerie, etc. and at that point I feel pretty, sexy and turned on.
For years I've fantasized of having sex with a woman while we're both in sexy outfits
I had a girlfriend with whom I had my only experience of this where we were both in lingerie and I was totally passive to her.
Am I the only one that has these types of desires and/or experienced it?

I apologize if I offended anyone.

[STACY B]

HELL NO YOU MIGHT BE THE ONLY one to say it .

[anna36b]

I had an ex-gf from years ago that I used to play with while we were both dressed pretty in lingerie. I suspect she was bi and she often commented that she felt like she was with another woman when I was dressed in full lingerie and with her in bed. I had a slender figure then (but tall), and she used to comment alot on how she loved my slender fem body. It was fun and we had great sex. She loved to be the dom with us in bed esp so it worked well, and I would submit to her. She loved me dressed up for her and she wanted me dressed pretty much all the time when we were in bed together. It was a great experience. I ended up breaking up with her for other reasons (I might regret that now as I miss the sex with her dressed up--that was so much fun).

I married someone else, tried it with her several times. She didn't like it at all. Said she felt like she was with a woman when I was dressed. She refused to participate in sex when I was dressed. So, I tried there and failed. We are currently in divorce proceedings (nothing to do me me dressing). Thats a positive as I have a chance to find that missing spark again. To hopefully find a bi-girl that is into that.

Good luck with your journey :)

[Daliah]

I have done what you described several times. You can send me private mail if you want to know the detail. Yes, it is a lot of fun and huge turn on for me.

[Ressie]

My story is like Anna's but not as good. I only had one gf in my entire life that participated in dressing and loving and she was bi. Most other girls in my life wouldn't even share their fantasies with me.

[Vickie_CDTV]

LeahMaria, no, this fantasy is far from uncommon among dressers.

[Raquelle C]

That's kinda how I started out dressing up with my SO. Very hott schtuff! Yes, as others have mentioned you are far from alone on this. I would say the majority, but most don't talk about it.

Peace n Love :D

[Hollie]

Ladies, my wife and I have never dressed together, yet. LOL. But we do role play, Like Daliah, (love the name Daliah, and your beautiful) send me a private mail if you want the details.

Hollie

[girlieboy47]

:)I can relate to it. I think of that scenario often. I suspect it is common for CD's.

[KarenCDFL]

My wife and I are comfortable enough to have our intimate time with both of us all dolled up.

This did not happen over night but eventually it is our preferable way of doing the dirty!

[AnnaHeart]

For me and my exwife....it all started when we were confessing our deepest desires for each other sexually.... it kinda just went from there.... I wound up with a very special friendship with her as a woman.... it actually continued well after we got divorced.... That was the most fun I have ever had...

[Dawn cd]

Not sure what's being asked here. Do you want to know if people get intimate while crossdressed? Probably some do. Or are you asking whether crossdressing makes them sexually passive? Fewer, but probably still some.

A word of advice, though: Buy your own clothes, especially the lingerie. If anything is going to turn off your wife, it's the fact that you're wearing her underwear.

[Lucy Long Legs]

I know exactly what you mean. However, when I am dressed, I am totally passive and can't even consider behaving like a man. On the rare occasions when I have become active, I have to take off my feminine clothes as quickly as possible.

[fullbrief1]

Our most intimate times are when I am wearing my nightgown. My masculinity just fades away and I become so much more sensual and she enjoys that. Being sensual is what drives me to wear feminine clothes.

[Lucy Long Legs]

Me too. That's a very good way of describing the feeling. Masculinity fading away.

[Lisia]

In intimate times, I am frequently dressed, and my SO does like it quite a bit. I can't say that I am any more active or passive than when I am not dressed, however. It is just another way for us to do what we love to do. But to answer your question, you are by far not the only one. :)

Lisia

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

Very common, as I sleep enfemme all the time it happens all the time, LOL!!! Plus most here have dreamt this fantasy.

[GeminaRenee]

Oh, you're not the first, dear! (:

My ex was bi, and very supportive of my dressing. There were numerous amorous encounters of this nature, of course, but there is one night that stands out in my mind the most. On that particular occasion, we got dolled up in a couple of her old prom dresses, and pretended we were two high school girls ditched by our dates on the big night.

I can say in no uncertain terms that this was the best night of my life, and I have had some good ones! (:

[Rachel Flowers]

When I came out as cd and slightly mtf to my wife, her eyes lit up and she came out to me as bi-curious and slightly ftm.

You can probably work out most of what's happened since!

[Dragster]

For years now, my #1 sexual fantasy has been for my wife and me to have a long lingering sex session with both of us dressed in the sexiest female clothes we can find. Unfortunately, with her very negative attitude to anything CD, it's never going to happen.
I've heard others say sex with both of you laced up tight into corsets is mindblowing! I only know that lacing myself tightly into a corset is one hell of a turn on for me!

Tony

[cinderellaman]

My ex & I did this all the time. She used to love to un hook my bra. On special nights, we would wear the exact same lingerie on a date. Some good memories there!!

[docrobbysherry]

When I was married and times were still good, my ex and I had a very active sex life!:o
Before dressing, I was into bondage for most of my life. One time, at my suggestion, she tied me up. But, then had no idea what to do!:brolleyes:
I figured, if she's not into this telling her what to do would be a total arousal killer!:thumbsdn:

We NEVER went there again!:sad:

I DO NOT plan to try making love as Sherry with a GG GF unless I'm SURE she's into it and excited about it!:D

[Shananigans]

HAH! Definitely not the first and you won't be the last! I think the majority of people here relate to you on some level.

When my SO introduced CDing, it opened up a whole different dimension to our sex-life. I wouldn't say it's just CDing-related (although it's a large part)...but, it opened a door to communication and being comfortable with each other to explore things.

Go slow with you wife. My SO and I just jumped right into it...but, we also weren't married. We had been dating like 4 months and then it was kind of like a good excuse to take our sex life to the next level. (Little did we know that there were still many levels that we were unaware the we could reach together). But, being married usually means that things are more serious and you need to answer questions/allow reflection. I'm generalizing highly here, but I just don't want you to expect that she will be ready to jump in bed with you right off the bad. And, if she doesn't, it DOES NOT mean that she never will. Just be nice...be patient...answer her questions...and, show that this can be something potentially fun for both of you.

I wish you all the best! :)

[girlieboy47]

Ah! isn't it amazing how CDing tends to bring out all the femminine traits and suppress the masculine ones. If women would only tune into this it could enrich their lives with husbands who are more supportive and capable of understanding them.

[Postopadmirer]

Not sure what's being asked here. Do you want to know if people get intimate while crossdressed? Probably some do. Or are you asking whether crossdressing makes them sexually passive? Fewer, but probably still some.

A word of advice, though: Buy your own clothes, especially the lingerie. If anything is going to turn off your wife, it's the fact that you're wearing her underwear.

I would add that one way to read your OP; dressing up for your girlfriend in your wife's clothes might be the one thing that could turn both of them off and get you hurt. :)

[danielletorresani]

I wish I could say I've been with a woman while both of us were wearing lingerie. What a turn-on that would be!!!

[phballet]

yup like many of the pple here have already said...i don't think its uncommon. but then again for many others its just a part of the whole experience...the eroticism is but one facet of it. well i guess we all understand that even among us there so much variation that its quite pointless (at least in my opinion) to come up with any stereotypes cuz you're bound to find some others like yourself and many more who are not!!:>

[Amymonroe]

No offence here. My wife and I have enjoyed a many sessions while I was fully dressed or in lingerie. I guess it is going to depend on her comfort level. Although she may never come out and say it, but I think my wife was a little nervous the first time. But defiantly doesn’t mind now. It may help if you talk about it with your partner first.

amy

[monalisa]

I think the lovemaking is better dressed as the clothes are sexy and feel good to the wearer as well as the one touching you. Nothing like satin or lace when touched. Plus you are in a totally new situation and almost like 2 new lovers meeting. I have a friend that loves to have me dressed and enjoys making love that way. She finds it sensuous and just more loving. Not rushed. Gentle touching and exploring.

[Cheryl T]

Certainly not alone.

[PHXTC]

I'm lucky enough to have a beautiful caring wife who has allowed me to fully dress while we make love. It's simply amazing. It started out as pantyhose only then eventually over the span of 10 years progressed to me being fully dressed.

[Miriam-J]

I'm much more likely to wear fem clothes than my wife. From nightgowns to skirts, it's definitely not her thing. But I'll wear a nightgown to bed a couple times each week (both of us are nude otherwise), and we're just as likely to make love either way. Since we make love quite frequently, I've had many occasions to do it en femme. When we first began she would reach under my clothes to feel my skin, but she acceded to my request to touch me through my clothes so I could gain the full sensual experience that I desired.

[freeindress]

Never had a fantasy to make love in drag, being both naked is fine for me. Probably fetish CD. Dressing does not make me feel passive, I like to shine in a dress like a peacock and still feel male (allowing females to look more colorful than a brown and grey hen).

[Biancah]

Passionate and romantic nothing i can ask for more with my husband his way totally amazing and its really great.

[Jessica86]

I am dreaming of the day where this happens. It probably never will.....but a girl can dream, can't she??