OUT or NOT ?

[STACY B]

Well here is my question ,, There are alot of people on here that say alot of stuff about being out an not in the closet an thats cool and I dont meen EVERYBODY so yall dont get your feathers ruffled ! Just certain ones ,, But if you wear womans clothes out in public an you CLAIM that you do all this stuff ,, Why dont these folks have a picture up or where they live ? An come on none of that job crap , If ya look like a girl on here an work in man mode how in the hell are going to know ? An what the hell are they doing on a CROSSDRESSER site anyway ?? :eek::eek::eek:

[JessHaust]

No feathers ruffeled here. I do indeed go out, sometimes several times a week, I also have my picture posted and if you look at my profile, there is a pic of me shopping, I really like that picture! Not everyone is yet that comfortable yet. Many are really just getting their toes wet, many haven't even left the house. Give them time to build up their confidence, it will come.

[goodnhose]

Sorry, can't help with this one, still trying to find my way out of the closet.

[Bree-asaurus]

umm... why does it matter? lol...

[AllieSF]

Being in or out of the closet, I assume that you mean staying at home versus going out in the real world. Based on that I am very much out of that closet. I go out once or twice a week to see plays, the ballet, dinner, wine, drinks, museums and to meet friends. I have an indication of where I live under my avatar and only post my pics when I feel like it and only for now in other member's threads. I have posted several. Why don't I post more? Because I don't want to. I am happy with the few that I posted and will probably post more in the future. My avatar is a pic on my shadow when I was playing tennis with another member here. Most of my pics have been in her threads. I do not feel the need to constantly validate who I am, nor to brag all the time about my outings by posting pics of me. I am in the closet when it comes to letting people I know in male mode know about this side of my life. So, I also practice moderation in posting pics in a public forum that may end up anywhere. I am retired so I do not worry about work. People post and do not post for a lot of reasons. I accept them all and always thank those that share their pics here. Otherwise, it really is nothing for anyone to worry about.

[taís]

well, this is The Internets. proceed with caution.

and as we know this forum doesn't require any pictures to validate anyone's identity, which I think is thoughtful and nice. (the brazilian main CD forum does tag users that present personal pics as "real", as opposed to the "virtual" ones — which I think is very silly. however they're a "club", not a support forum, so I guess that's more in line with what they're seeking.)


umm... why does it matter? lol...
agreed and +1. :)

[Barbara Ella]

During my extremely short time as a cross dresser compared to a lot of you girls, i have found that my closet has many doors, and it is taking me a long time to open them all, and what do i find when I open one closet door....ANOTHER DAMN DOOR!!! And I am not sure if I have the key for the next one, and it is dark in this closet, and their are now too many shoes on the floor, dresses on the rack, skirts hanging, all preventing me from looking for the key as I look at the pretties that are now in front of me. Not sure how quickly I want to find that key, as i am having just so much fun in this particular closet.

Trust me, in just 6 months, I really feel that I am out of the closet, doing things i believed were totally impossible just a few short months ago. Everyone has their own particular closet they are in at any particular moment, some are just bigger, but the feelings of insecurity are always there no matter how comfortable the cross dresser is after their time (years?) in the particular closet.

There is always one more door no matter how big the present closet, the key is to recognize just what the door is for you, and finding the key. The joy is in never giving up the search.

Babes

[5150 Girl]

Well,, when one goes out, the goal is to blend in, and unless yuo're some kind of documentarian photographer, people just don't go arround with a camera, much less taking pics of themselvs...
However, here's one from on campus taken at a fundraiser for a campus organisation (GLASS)
Oh yea, and a bonus pic taken at an 80's party at a local (stright) bar owned by some freinds.
Satisfied?

[Phylis Nicole Schuyler]

Simple, really.

First - when going out, I believe the goal is too blend in as best as possible - not go about taking photos of yourself and drawing attention.

Second - CD/TG or not - I'd rather not have photos of myself, my home, or the places I frequent regularly online for everyone to see. That's just common sense in 2012.

And finally - I don't feel much need to prove myself to anyone. Believe me, or don't. Your call.


Amen to that. If you can't take me as I am, then why should I have to prove myself? I only have to prove myself to me and my God, who is probably laughing His/Her ass off looking at me crossdressed. I always said I provide the entertainment.

[linda allen]

Well here is my question ,, There are alot of people on here that say alot of stuff about being out an not in the closet an thats cool and I dont meen EVERYBODY so yall dont get your feathers ruffled ! Just certain ones ,, But if you wear womans clothes out in public an you CLAIM that you do all this stuff ,, Why dont these folks have a picture up or where they live ? An come on none of that job crap , If ya look like a girl on here an work in man mode how in the hell are going to know ? An what the hell are they doing on a CROSSDRESSER site anyway ?? :eek::eek::eek:

Realize that once something gets on the Internet, you lose control of it and it never goes away. True, this is a crossdresser website, but nobody had a personal interview to join and there's no guarantee that a member won't accidentally or intentionally let a non-crossdresser see the forum and/or photos.

A person who wanted to could join, get access to the photos, and copy them for personal use or to other websites. There are just so many ways things could go wrong.

That said, I posted a couple photos of me wearing sunglasses, but I'm not going to post my "real" name or address. Why should I? What would I gain by this?

[HannahF6]

I agree with numerous posts here, why excatly does this matter? Am I out? Depends on the meaning of the phrase, yes, I am comfortable outside in public, but being "out of the closet" implies having told loved ones, such as my wife, and that I have not done. My avatar picture is rather clearly outside.

Hannah

[NicoleScott]

An what the hell are they doing on a CROSSDRESSER site anyway ??

Same question for you. You claim that you're not a crossdresser (profile, about me). So what are you doing here?

[Leanne2]

I don't have an avatar picture because I couldn't figure out how to do it. Some of us were born way before this computer generation. But I did figure out how to post my picture on my profile page. Just because I did it once doesn't mean that I could do it now. I don't have the time to figure these tech things out. Leanne P.S. I do love to go out in public dressed en fem.

[kimdl93]

I admit, I don't take a lot of pictures of myself. As I've explained before, I never really like the way I look in photos...so why torture myself, eh?

[Karren H]

Imho.... Everyone's in a closet of some fashion.... Some are just larger than others and extend outside of their home..... So coming out to someone takes you out of one and puts you in a larger one.. Like upgrading closets!

Personally the only reason I really take photos is cause I'm narcissistic and shallow and like it when people say I'm pretty! Lol.

[Beverley Sims]

My avatar shows me out by the east river. At 5 o'clock it was dark. I live in a small community and even presenting as a woman I could be recognised.
A lot of people on this forum recognise the site instantly. Same as the Grenwich meridian that was on previously.
We don't all have the same levels of confidence that you may have, I have done some amazing and silly things by my standard wandering around the country side.
The internet is forever, but I wish to enjoy the rest of my life meeting like people and gain confidence.
I am pleased for the younger attractive ones now as the flood gates are open a lot more.
When I was younger and attractive and passed well I enjoyed myself. If I posted one of my early pics, there are those trolling the net that would recognise me.
My features have not changed enough to hide behind makeup.There are a lot of light featured people here and they would be easily discovered if they were careless.
Good on you Stacy for posting your avatar and I hope you have an enjoyable stay.

[S. Lisa Smith]

Imho.... Everyone's in a closet of some fashion.... Some are just larger than others and extend outside of their home..... So coming out to someone takes you out of one and puts you in a larger one.. Like upgrading closets!

Personally the only reason I really take photos is cause I'm narcissistic and shallow and like it when people say I'm pretty! Lol.
I agree with Karren, except they don't say I'm pretty, they just say i look nice (which is good enough for me ;) )

[kimdl93]

So coming out to someone takes you out of one and puts you in a larger one.. Like upgrading closets!

I like the idea of a closet upgrade! I could use one - mine's getting pretty cramped and my wife won't share any space in her's.

[Miranda-E]

Its safer to stand in front walmart and hand out pics to strangers than post pics online.

[whowhatwhen]

Still deeply in and repressed, and I have no pics because at this time I do not have the resources to do a full (superficial) transformation.
I like reading because it helps me learn more about myself in the process, perhaps in time you'll see something.

I'm weird in that I cannot just put on something and be happy, if I'm going to wear a dress there must be no man in the mirror.
:)

[STACY B]

Dam near everybody that posted on this page has a picture ? I said I just wondered about the ones that have been here awhile an go out an do all kinds of girl stuff an shop an get there nails done and just do alot of different outings , I was just curious why that dont put a picture up so we can tell them how good they look an compare looks an tips . Never said anything about being in the closet I was just wanting to see why they chose to not tell where that were from an why we could not see them ? When you talk to someone on the street or at there house do you look away or talk to em though the door ? An how in the world are we going to meet our sissters if we dont know they live right around the corner, They might need something or we could start a local group . So dont yall get offended I was just asking a question . DAM !

[STACY B]

Same question for you. You claim that you're not a crossdresser (profile, about me). So what are you doing here? THATS A JOKE ,,,, On my page !!! I try an be funny ,, It must not be working >>>>> ?

[Sharon B.]

I don't have a camera with a timer, don't like pictures of myself when drab attire probably wouldn't like none when I am in woman's attire either.
Apparently it only matters to a select few as to whether we go out as a woman or not.

[JaneAshland]

Dam near everybody that posted on this page has a picture ? I said I just wondered about the ones that have been here awhile an go out an do all kinds of girl stuff an shop an get there nails done and just do alot of different outings , I was just curious why that dont put a picture up so we can tell them how good they look an compare looks an tips . Never said anything about being in the closet I was just wanting to see why they chose to not tell where that were from an why we could not see them ? When you talk to someone on the street or at there house do you look away or talk to em though the door ? An how in the world are we going to meet our sissters if we dont know they live right around the corner, They might need something or we could start a local group . So dont yall get offended I was just asking a question . DAM !


Well, that sure clarifies your orig post!

For me, I am uncomfortable posting a picture. WHen I do go out, I go to cities that I do not live in. Just in fear of being discovered. Don't know that I will, or ever want to come out 100%, for me the pain and suffering that it will cause is not worth the gain. Right now I am happy just taking drives to other cities and going out.

[Julogden]

Realize that once something gets on the Internet, you lose control of it and it never goes away. True, this is a crossdresser website, but nobody had a personal interview to join and there's no guarantee that a member won't accidentally or intentionally let a non-crossdresser see the forum and/or photos.

A person who wanted to could join, get access to the photos, and copy them for personal use or to other websites. There are just so many ways things could go wrong.

That said, I posted a couple photos of me wearing sunglasses, but I'm not going to post my "real" name or address. Why should I? What would I gain by this?

And how often has this happened here? I've been here several years and haven't heard of anyone ever having anything like this happen. The odds of being in a car wreck are WAY higher than anything like that happening, yet we don't give it a second thought to jump in our car and do whatever, so why should we worry about something that's way less likely to happen?


Same question for you. You claim that you're not a crossdresser (profile, about me). So what are you doing here?
I think you're misunderstanding what Stacy is saying. She is a transgendered male, so she belongs here, not everyone here is a CD. And what she's saying is there's really no reason to think that anyone here has to fear that a non-crossdressing friend, co-worker or family member might stumble on this site, see a photo of someone they know and recognize them. Let's face it, your odds for winning the lottery are probably better than the odds of that happening. :2c:

Carol

[Ally 2112]

I live in a small comunity with narrow minded views also i do not own a digital camera (x got it in the seperation lol ) .When and if i do decide to buy a camera i will post pics in a private setting .Until then my cute lil avetar will have to do

[ChubbyLeahCD]

I like the idea of a closet upgrade! I could use one - mine's getting pretty cramped and my wife won't share any space in her's.

I don't know what you're talking about! You look awesome!

[Stephanie47]

I'm with you Leanne! I also have almost zero ability to do anything but bang on the keyboard. If I try to do more I have to have instructions that start from "Turn Computer On." I am not the only user of this computer. The thought of posting a picture that may be found by wife, son, daughter or granddaughter scares the crap out of me. I would love to post pictures of myself with face hidden in many of my lovely slips, but, it isn't going to happen. Last week I saw some pictures of myself en homme and well, I look my age. It isn't pretty. I'll stay in the closet for awhile longer.


I don't have an avatar picture because I couldn't figure out how to do it. Some of us were born way before this computer generation. But I did figure out how to post my picture on my profile page. Just because I did it once doesn't mean that I could do it now. I don't have the time to figure these tech things out. Leanne P.S. I do love to go out in public dressed en fem.

[STACY B]

But alot of yall have got the wrong message on what I said . Not everyone on here to put up a picture !!! I dont care if you have a picture or not thats your problem ! I was just wondering an this is for the ones an only for the ones that ,,,, ( GO OUT IN FEM ALOT AN DONT CARE IF THEY GET SEEN BY OTHER PEOPLE ) Why they would RISK going out an being seen an not put a pic on here to show all there friends that they talk to everyday what they look like . An where they live ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, IF they wanted to meet other chix ? THATS ALL I WANTED !!!

[sandra-leigh]

MYOB!

I recently posted a single snapshot of me. It is the first picture I have taken in over a year. I am busy living my life, not putting on a performance. If you need to verify my existence and to verify that I do the things I claim to have done, you can come and visit. I've posted the exact name of the city in Canada that I live in a fair number of times.

Pictures were important to me when I was going through my early "I'm breaking a taboo, woo-hoo!" phase, visual confirmation that I really had dared to Dress Up and go outside. Once I was through that, what become important to me was the experience, not the photograph. I don't know, but I imagine this is perhaps part of "transition", where your attention switches to how you live your everyday life; and where hearing a mother tell their child, "Let this lady go first" becomes more important than the sheen of your nylons.


Why they would RISK going out an being seen an not put a pic on here to show all there friends that they talk to everyday what they look like . An where they live ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, IF they wanted to meet other chix ?

RISK? I'll be walking in to work today in a woman's jacket covered with cherry blossoms and butterflies, me with my below-the-shoulder hair and my dangling earrings, wearing fashion boots with 2" heels, and wearing a flower-and-leaves top that does little to hide my "nearly-A" breasts. I just haven't bothered to take pictures.

I have a picture in my profile from several years ago. I have a few more recent pictures (only 14 months old) on FB. My "affiliation" URL on my profile is of my social club that sometimes includes pictures of me (when I'm not too boring.)

I have already personally met all except one of the members who (admit to) living in the same city as I do, and I've been politely nagging that remaining one for months now ;-)

[AllieSF]

Julogden (Carol) - I just posted in another thread that I know a specific member here who has had her pics that I saw here in one of her posts on a dating area used by someone else. I let her know both times, and she appreciated the heads up notice. She is out, models for a TG clothing site and is super cute and hot. The point is that you can copy pics from here (don't know why they still allow that here because other sites have figured out how to prevent it) and your pics can end someplace else. It may not happen very often, but it does happen. So we all post pics at our own risk.

Stacy - Risk is measured by each of us in our own way. I generally do not go out dressed anywhere near my home area. I go out dressed away from home and take my risks there. Yes, I may get caught one day, but the odds are whatever they are and may be very limited in the final consequences. However, pics on the internet can be copied and distributed on a very wide basis if anyone ever decided to do that for whatever reason, and as I wrote above, it can and does happen. Not necessarily all the time, but who can really say. I have met all kinds of other girls, many from this site, a few from another site, and then by networking. I don't go out to meet other girls. I go out to meet other people of all shapes, sizes and orientations. Pics on this site can be fake, altered, or whatever. So, I do not base my decision to be nice to someone or to communicate with them based on whether they have a pic or not. Now, if they want to meet or go out with me, then looks do matter in the sense that they fit into my somewhat broad range of who I want to go out with when dressed as women. If someone dresses way over the top, I probably would only go out with them to a venue where that style fits in better.

The reason you are getting the replies that you are is that this question comes up every now and again, and it sometimes seems that the OP thinks that just because they post their pics, everyone else should do the same. Sometimes it can be in interpreted as a better than the other type of attitude. That is not always the case, but after awhile a lot of us get tired of the implied reasons for some of these types of questions. If that is not your reason, good.

[~Joanne~]

The point is that you can copy pics from here (don't know why they still allow that here because other sites have figured out how to prevent it) and your pics can end someplace else. It may not happen very often, but it does happen. So we all post pics at our own risk.



I just want to elaborate here a little, in general, just so that new girls ( or older girls not great with their PC's) understand that if you can SEE a pic, You can save a pic. PERIOD. Allie mentions another site that prevents, what I am assuming, right clicking but there are many programs that lift pictures, You can print screen a picture, or you can source the page and get the direct URL to the picture. Also, like Allie said, you really do post your stuff at your own risk.

Just a totally side note, if you upload your pics to your PC, decide you don't like them, delete them to your trash, and empty your recycle bin.....You still haven't deleted them. they are moved to a hidden portion of your drive and can still be recovered. Just thought I'd mention that for us closet dressers so you know ;)

[whowhatwhen]

You could be paranoid like me and only browse this site under a virtual machine.
But yeah, right click block does nothing except annoy legit right clickers.

[Julogden]

Julogden (Carol) - I just posted in another thread that I know a specific member here who has had her pics that I saw here in one of her posts on a dating area used by someone else. I let her know both times, and she appreciated the heads up notice. She is out, models for a TG clothing site and is super cute and hot. The point is that you can copy pics from here (don't know why they still allow that here because other sites have figured out how to prevent it) and your pics can end someplace else. It may not happen very often, but it does happen. So we all post pics at our own risk.
Allie, I suspect that I know who you're referring to, and her photos are in lots of places, not just here, so how can it be determined that they were stolen from here? It would make a lot more sense that they were taken from other places than here.

Regarding "allowing" people to copy photos here, there's no way to stop people from taking your photo if it's on-line. You can disable right-clicking and saving, but all anyone has to do is a screen grab with the "Print screen" key, and they have the page in their clip board memory, then just paste it into a new document in a photo-editing program and they have the photo. So yes, we do all post photos at our own risk, but I still feel that posting in these forums is extremely unlikely to result in anyone being outed.

Carol

[lightfoot]

I think someone else said it right. Why post photos of yourself, or feel the need to prove yourself?

Off topic: I commend you girls that do come out. I think coming out as a crossdresser/transgender takes more guts than letting people know you're bisexual. Not saying crossdressers are bi...just saying I think it takes a lot of guts to come out as a crossdresser. I've told my best friend, who's a straight male, that i'm bi. I've told him I'm a nudist too, but no way would I tell him I use to cross dress. For some reason, I'd have a hard time confessing to that.

[JulieK1980]

I really don't see what the point is, or why it matters. The simple answer is because they don't want to.

[kristinacd55]

Guess it's different strokes for different folks, some way in closet, some getting their toes wet, some gots their feets wets, and some soaking wet. Personally, I don't think it's a real big deal one way or another. :)

[AussiegirlCD]

I also live in a very small rural community, so I'd never go outside locally dressed, however if I was back in my hometown Sydney, I'd happily strut my stuff in full dress.
I'm just waiting for some new dresses and lingerie to arrive, the first decent girly outfits I've owned in years, the moment they arrive I'll be dressed to the 9's and have a fellow CD friend here who I can trust to take some nice pics of me, then I will proudly post them here and elsewhere.
I feel sorry for any of you who feel scared or intimidated to reveal yourselves for what you are, it's the fault of society at large that so many of us are discriminated against, I myself refuse to be intimidated or ashamed, I'm proud of my crossdressing and want to share it with others, getting 'outed' is an inherant risk when you post pics of your face online, but I'm at an age where I simply refuse to live in fear any longer.

Pheobe <3

[msginaadoll]

The way I figure it is that you have the right to post or not post your picture. I do think that many of us are visual and it is nice to see who you chat with. I also realize that there are people who dont feel safe and secure in posting there pictures. There are also a small segment who probably make up posts about going out and meeting the President, the Pope and Michael Jackson. Who knows, I just try to enjoy the forum, read some interesting posts, learn some, smile some, take things with a grain of salt.
I will say that everyone I have met from this forum( its only been a few folk) has been a joy and truly a nice person. Im sure there are plenty of other great folk out there as well.

[Being Paige]

My picture is me, just not a profile picture. If I could get a nice one of me taken that I actually like then I would use it for sure. Hopefully someday I'll have one.

[Lynn Marie]

Imho.... Everyone's in a closet of some fashion.... Some are just larger than others and extend outside of their home..... So coming out to someone takes you out of one and puts you in a larger one.. Like upgrading closets!

Personally the only reason I really take photos is cause I'm narcissistic and shallow and like it when people say I'm pretty! Lol.

I like Karen's view on it. No matter what you do, it's really just an expansion of the closet or the area that you feel comfortable in. It's really not much different when in drab. There are some places you don't normally go to. Simple as that.

Getting out is an amazing adreneline rush. It's very addicting, and it's great fun. My expanded closet isn't all that big and I have close friends to share it with. I'm fortunate.

[Alisa]

Imho.... Everyone's in a closet of some fashion.... Some are just larger than others and extend outside of their home..... So coming out to someone takes you out of one and puts you in a larger one.. Like upgrading closets!

Personally the only reason I really take photos is cause I'm narcissistic and shallow and like it when people say I'm pretty! Lol.

Lol.. I have expanded my closet only twice maybe three times by your definition Karren... Can't help myself but to pay a fellow "like it when people say I'm pretty!" person, I've got to say I always love your avatar's, posts, etc. Very expressive, funny, cute, etc! You are very pretty!

[docrobbysherry]

Stacy, here's how it works! I don't dress ever, PERIOD! Unless I'm going out with other CDs. :o Which I've done less than 5 times. And, Sherry's a TOTAL closet dresser! Except for those rare occasions she shows up at CD events or on Halloween!:daydreaming:
At least, that's how it works for me!:D

Pictures!? Oh, I'VE GOT YOUR PICTURES, hun!

These r pictures of Sherry out with "the girls". I've got a MILLION of 'em!:tongueout
174814 174815

Here's a pic of ME out dressed! (Holly, I LOVE U!) These r rarer than HEN'S TEETH!:brolleyes:
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[KellyJameson]

Anyone who I consider a friend that wants a picture of me all they have to do is ask or friend me on facebook where I indulge my vanity but I love my avatar and would much rather look at her than me.

Plus I find it offensive when a stranger can look at your picture and than ask for sex. I will never understand this behavior, it is very dehumanizing. I am a very sensual being and my manner of dress sometimes reflects this but it is not an offer for sex with John Q Public, plus a whole litany of personal security concerns. Why someone is flattered when some guy sends you a picture of his junk is another thing beyond my comprehension.

Definitely think it is a mistake to show or share anything that can bring somebody to your door or gives a clear layout of your work, home or valuables. It is very easy to be lulled into a false sense of security on a forum that builds friendships but open forums can be dangerous because anybody from anywhere can be watching and learning about you. BE CAREFUL! Complacency could get you killed.

[Davena Doll]

It sounds like some of you girls have big closets to stay in, I have a little closet so I came out in short time. My wife and other people know, come to find out all the people I know dont care Im a crossdresser.

[Julogden]

Sherry, OT a bit, but I have to say that I don't see why you aren't out more without the mask, you look wonderful to me.

Carol :hugs:

[karenlong]

my going out is t a club totally dressed, thats it, now i do wear womens clothes like jeans etc sandals out to the grocery store but not with wig and makeup on

[Vivian Chen]

Sorry, can't help with this one, still trying to find my way out of the closet.

My, what big closet you have! I'm jealous, lol

[~Joanne~]

You can disable right-clicking and saving, but all anyone has to do is a screen grab with the "Print screen" key, and they have the page in their clip board memory, then just paste it into a new document in a photo-editing program and they have the photo.

Carol

Or just directly paste it into "Paint" which every system on the planet has.

[michelle64]

I have been out 2 times in the last year, work issues and kids and other issues associated with daily life have priority here...yes prior times me and her went everywhere and have done just about everything short of me flying while dressed...point is life goes on and at this time i have no desire or even the want to post a bunch of pitures of a date/married date we have had..finally i am a private person and have no desire to let anybody other than her know..i did tell her on the 1st date years ago and life has been blissful with 100% commitment level..i just do not see the point in letting everybody know (i dont need to hear from anybody but her about how this outfit looks or other) and consider it a who cares what you do when your married (if it is your thing so be it)..just my take

ps: lately my youngest teenage daughter has been using the term "he's a creeper"..i think its kinda creepy wanting comments from other cd's about dress and make-up when i have a beautiful lady who is more than able to say "That dress makes you look old i will go with you and help you pick out something more youthful looking"..dont laugh that has happened before...i trust her judgement more than any comment i could ever get off the net...thats just how i feel about pictures and stuff

[jillleanne]

And how often has this happened here? I've been here several years and haven't heard of anyone ever having anything like this happen. The odds of being in a car wreck are WAY higher than anything like that happening, yet we don't give it a second thought to jump in our car and do whatever, so why should we worry about something that's way less likely to happen?


I think you're misunderstanding what Stacy is saying. She is a transgendered male, so she belongs here, not everyone here is a CD. And what she's saying is there's really no reason to think that anyone here has to fear that a non-crossdressing friend, co-worker or family member might stumble on this site, see a photo of someone they know and recognize them. Let's face it, your odds for winning the lottery are probably better than the odds of that happening. :2c:

Carol

That's what you think. And if that's the case, I should have won the lottery many times over by now. I have many pics of me on my Yahoo Group. Many were taken before a came out for good. Many are at my home. Many have very clear pics of my home inside and out. Many are easily recognizable as my house. I have since come to discover by running for sale ads on various sites, there are other gender enhanced people in my home town that inquired about my clothing/boots/shoes I listed for sale.
What many people do not do when taking pictures in their homes, is look to see exactly what they are taking a picture of. Ever notice that family picture on the end table or by the fireplace you are leaning on for the pic? You'd be amazed how easy it is to recognize someone's house/whatever by a pic. Not everyone is a flatlander from a big city.

[jillleanne]

But alot of yall have got the wrong message on what I said . Not everyone on here to put up a picture !!! I dont care if you have a picture or not thats your problem ! I was just wondering an this is for the ones an only for the ones that ,,,, ( GO OUT IN FEM ALOT AN DONT CARE IF THEY GET SEEN BY OTHER PEOPLE ) Why they would RISK going out an being seen an not put a pic on here to show all there friends that they talk to everyday what they look like . An where they live ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, IF they wanted to meet other chix ? THATS ALL I WANTED !!!

Well, that's all you'll get from me. I have no interest in taking pics any longer however since coming out. This is not a stage show for me, I have nothing to prove to anyone including you, it's who I am. I don't give a damn who sees me. If I want to meet someone I'll place a want ad. Frankly, I don't see the big deal about posting anything about one's self here or anywhere. Anything published on the internet in particular should be scrutinized. For all we know, I may be the only gender enhanced person on this forum. I'm the only one I can absolutely prove is.

[2B Natasha]

Why don't I have a picture on here. But do go out abut and most of my friends know? Well that's an easy one.

My BFF had her picture removed for being to riske'. I thought it was a very arbitrary decision on the part of who ever removed it. So I removed mine in protest and support. Then I posted Daphne Blake as my picture.

Easy pleasy lemon squeezey.

Did that answer your question?

[Daphne Renee]

different people have different comfort levels. Some might not be comfortable posting pics on the internet. I just posted a pic of myself here recently.

[Debglam]

I agree with Karren, except they don't say I'm pretty, they just say i look nice (which is good enough for me ;) )

You ARE pretty. :)

:hugs:
Debby

[Julogden]

That's what you think. And if that's the case, I should have won the lottery many times over by now. I have many pics of me on my Yahoo Group. Many were taken before a came out for good. Many are at my home. Many have very clear pics of my home inside and out. Many are easily recognizable as my house. I have since come to discover by running for sale ads on various sites, there are other gender enhanced people in my home town that inquired about my clothing/boots/shoes I listed for sale.
What many people do not do when taking pictures in their homes, is look to see exactly what they are taking a picture of. Ever notice that family picture on the end table or by the fireplace you are leaning on for the pic? You'd be amazed how easy it is to recognize someone's house/whatever by a pic. Not everyone is a flatlander from a big city.
I specifically said HERE, not in a Yahoo group which is a lot more public, apples and oranges.

And if someone is careless enough to include something in their photo like a family photo or some part of their home that could expose their location, then that's a whole different matter. One has to be careful if posting a photo of themself on-line whether they're transgendered or not.

Flatlander? Getting rude now? That's a mildly derogatory term around here.

Carol

[jillleanne]

I specifically said HERE, not in a Yahoo group which is a lot more public, apples and oranges.

And if someone is careless enough to include something in their photo like a family photo or some part of their home that could expose their location, then that's a whole different matter. One has to be careful if posting a photo of themself on-line whether they're transgendered or not.

Flatlander? Getting rude now? That's a mildly derogatory term around here.

Carol

lol, not at all. A flatlander is simply a city person. No more derogatory than calling someone a crossdresser. Generally speaking one can live next door to someone in a city all their lives and never know their neighbors name. In rural wherever, everyone makes a point to know everyone. It's simply the way it is. I happen to live as both a flatlander and a redneck depending on where I am at the time of year. Im my small community everyone knows what my home looks like, everyone.
You may well have specifically said here. I'll check later. Nontheless, if one here has a s/o, and many do, and things go sour in the relationship, and some do, be prepared to have your 'secret' with your x s/o shared with whomever she decides to share it with. I'm not saying they would all do this, but some inevitably 'spread the word' as a form of revenge. My point is, one should never, when using the internet, ever expect to feel one hundred percent safe from being discovered by someone close to them. It's happened before and it will happen again to someone.

[5150 Girl]

Ok,, here is another "out and about" snap, again, from an event, so a camera woudn't be out of place... Sertoma Pancake day... Everyone who's anyone goes to pancake day in this town! Politicians and church groups buss tables and make the hotcakes, and comunity members from all walks of life, from those on welfair, to doctors and lawers go to eat. I had origonaly planed to go with my Polar Bear, but she had to take care of her brother. But, I ended up running into a couple friends i used to work with at the TV station.

[Beverley Sims]

Its safer to stand in front walmart and hand out pics to strangers than post pics online.

I must agree with Miranda here, I don't hold a sign up that says I am CD when I am walking down the road but here..........
No... I am not really a CDer or transitioning, I am doing this for a bet, or is it that I had a weak moment. Oh! well....