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KatieZ
10-31-2005, 11:10 PM
Last spring A couple friends (they are brothers) and I decided to start a new buisness combining all of our skills in the trades. I thought then that I should telll them I crossdress but kept chickening out.

Well the house that they live in sold last week and they had to move out. They each had their own apt. there , one of them is married. So the married one found a place but the other one hadn't. He asked me Sat. if I would consider renting him my basement. My basement is an apt. by itself complete with bath and kitchen. I thought about it and we worked out the details. he will pay nominal rent, work on finishing out the basement, and supply a satalite dish. So I decided I could use the money and get the basement finished out and told him OK.

Sunday I kept thinking I had two choices. Stop dressing and going out, or tell.

Today I told them both. Gawd I was shakeing in my shoes all day. I was on a job with the married brother and kept trying to figure out a way to bring it up. At the end of the day we were headed back to town and I just told him there was something I needed to talk to them about. I was so nervous I just pulled into a parking lot when we got to town and said "well I'm a crossdresser". He didn't seem too fazed by it. He did say he was surprised but he didn't have a problem with it and didn't think his brother would either. He even told me for a period of time he wore panties cause they felt better than mens underwear. After we got to his house we waited a bit and his brother showed up and I told him "before you move in there is something you need to know" and he said oh what is that, and I said well I'm a crossdresser. He was quiet a minute and said Ok and then he told me he used to wear a skirt when he went hikeing in the mountains of Vermont. He thanked me for telling him up front so it wouldn't be a shock when he see's me the first time.

Probably more details than that but at the moments I was too scared to really listen. I was more waiting on negative reactions and the positive ones just blew me away.

Wow what a relief to get that out and I'm so happy they both took it so well.

Another bridge crossed and it just keeps getting easier (although still scarey).

Hugs

uknowhoo
10-31-2005, 11:35 PM
Thanks for sharing that wonderful, and encouraging story. It so often seems that our negative expections are met by postive reactions such as these. Society doesn't turn on a dime, but it sure seems that we are making steady (though still-too-slow) progress in gaining acceptance. Thanks again Katie, and Happy Halloween. :angel: Hugs, Tammi

Billijo49504
10-31-2005, 11:52 PM
Cool, glad things are working out for you. As I always say to others, the truth is always the best. But those rednecks I work with, I don't think they would be that understanding.

Kim E
10-31-2005, 11:57 PM
Katie ~
Great news !! Glad everything worked out in a positive way. Sometimes we expect the worse and things turn around for the better, that sigh of relief is loud. Happy for ya.

Hugs ~ Kim

discordia
11-01-2005, 12:30 AM
That is awesome, if everyone would react like that life would be so grand.

Marlena Dahlstrom
11-01-2005, 12:47 AM
Congratulations! I think a lot of people are more accepting than we give them credit for.

Shannon
11-01-2005, 01:01 AM
Katie -- that was a huge bridge you crossed. I am happy for you that it went well. Thank you so much for sharing your story -- it probably felt good to share it, and it provides some encouragement for those of us that may face the same dilemma some day.

TGMarla
11-01-2005, 08:46 AM
Amazing. Their admissions were quite incredible, too. So now it's all out in the open, and the big deal turns out to be not so big a deal! We're all scared of this to some extent, myself being no exception here. So often the huge mountainous hurdles we encounter in our lives turn out to be only small jumps. I'm happy for you that this turned out to be one of those.

Terrific story!

Wendy me
11-01-2005, 06:39 PM
veary cool the basement is going to get done and you got a satalite dish. and out to your partners way cool.....

Sarahgurl371
11-01-2005, 07:27 PM
I am very happy to hear that they are cool with it. I think we, and I know that I certainlly have, expect the worst from everyone for so long, that maybe we invite the negativity on ourselves. Maybe the world isn't so hating after all? On a related note, I got a visit from a childhood friend this evening. We grew up together, worked together, did everything together, but lost touch in the last several years. As we sat talking about life and such, i almost blurted it out. Your story makes me wonder that maybe my friend would be more of a friend than I give him credit for.

paulaN
11-01-2005, 08:36 PM
that's great. every time one of us does come out to someone we all move closer to acceptance