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Rom
02-28-2012, 06:11 PM
Hi all,

Im in my early twenties from the UK and have been an on/off lingerie cd since my early teens. I am still firmly in the closet on what I do and am comfortable being there for the forseeable future. However, now that I know my passion for crossdressing in lingerie is not going to go away, i've started making tentative steps in coming to terms with what I do.

The first step was joining here and i've now set myself a target of starting to build my own fully fledged lingerie collection within 3 months. I've never been shopping before and hope to first start out online before progressing onto the face to face kind later on in the year.
(I still live at home and my parents are both very conservatively minded and would not approve of what I do - so am hoping an opportunity will arise within this time for me to purchase something without risking it being delivered as to when either of them could be home). So as I am a total novice on this experience, I first of all would be grateful for any advice/tips on how I should approach online shopping?

Being rather inexperienced in the world of crossdressing, I am sure you can all appreciate that I remain somewhat naive and although i have learnt a fair bit reading around the forum - I was wondering if I could obtain some further insight from some of the more experienced users on here.

As may have already been guessed from the fact that Ive never previously been shopping - my crossdressing exploits like many ive been reading about, began with an exploration of a known female's clothing (and i guess will be sustained until i begin shopping).
In my case specifically most of that experimentation was done with an aunts lingerie (panties mainly), whom id visit regularly (with a few years break for when i moved for university).
In all this time, my aunt has never commented on what I do for which in my teenage years I took as a sign she was unaware.
However, although ive explored her undies less in recent years and after reading around the forum, I now find it hard to comprehend that she hasnt had even the of faintest of suspicions.
Now she is also rather conservatively minded much like my parents and if she did know for certain, I cant imagine that she would ever encourage me to take such an active interest in her underwear.

Now, my question is - if she does know, why do people think she has chosen to have kept quiet on the issue?
And for those with experiences in dealing with "significant others" - I am also curious to gain an insight as to how she may have been affected by/felt through the years and her possible perceptions of what and why I experimented with her underwear?

Thanks

Rom

kimdl93
02-28-2012, 06:29 PM
all sorts of possiblities, Rom. Your aunt may just think its a phase and that it will pass. Or she's waiting to see if you'll mention it. or perhaps she just isn't quite as conservative as you think. and its possible she just didn't notice her panties going missing...who knows. If you're really curious, you'll have to ask her.

Miriam-J
02-28-2012, 06:30 PM
Rom,

It's hard to know without being in the mind of the others, but let me speculate from what I have experienced - as one who was once very conservative and religious. There's a huge difference between knowing something, accepting that you know something, and being willing admit to another person that you know. Some can't get from the first to the second, let alone to the third, especially when such an admission would challenge their own fundamental beliefs and attitudes. Much better to compartmentalize it and ignore the possibilities. Some might not even recognize what they see just from pure refusal to see.

As to the shipping dilemma ... The only time I needed to hide my shopping from those in my life was when I was preparing to leave my wife and divorce. Though I tried to not get carried away, there are certain things that one needs in a new home and having them shipped to the house was most definitely not a possibility. But I was able to rent a box at a private "post office" (can't remember the Brit term) and have everything shipped there. Such an arrangement might work for you as well. Just make it someplace convenient to stop while on your daily journeys.

Miriam

Carla Stevens
02-28-2012, 06:34 PM
Rom, if you're shopping online & worried about getting stuff delivered to home then check out myByBox http://my.bybox.com/
To quote their website "myByBox is a service that delivers your parcels to a secure electronic locker bank when you're not at home."
Check out their website via the link above for full details & to find where your nearest location is.
I use this service & it's great for avoiding parcels turning up at your home.
I got one months free trial, then it's £4 per delivery, paid in advance. You can load your account ready for numerous deliveries if you wish.
When buying goods online you will need to enter your myByBox delivery address & unique code as your 'delivery address'.
Hope this helps.
:hugs: Carla

Rom
03-06-2012, 12:15 PM
Thanks for the comments girls. My parents may be away over the easter vacation, so an opportunity may arise for me to take the plunge with my first online shopping experience, which I am eagerly looking forward to now!

And in further regards to my aunt - When I first began crossdressing a large part of my fascination centred around a sexualized fetish (it has now evolved more into a comfort issue although the fetish element still persists to a degree) - do "significant others" consider this as a possibility (the sexualized fetish) as to why we choose to explore their clothes? Or do they simply see it as an expression of curiousity/comfort?

I suppose that could have complicated things further in my case.

Thanks

Rom

Rom
03-10-2012, 04:51 PM
So, shall I take it that no-one else had this issue then?