Does the girl u see in your mirror look the same as how u visualize her in your mind?

[docrobbysherry]

Or, have u simply "gotten used to" her image in your mirror?:daydreaming:

This is one I have issues with. I don't think I'll EVER get used to seeing my ugly old male mug in my mirror! Either in drab or dressed!:doh:

What have u done that helped u accept a mirror image quite different from the one in your mind?:straightface:

[goodnhose]

This is something I can't compute. When I look at the girl in the mirror it freaks me out at times. I always see her through my guy eyes as if it's a girl on the other side of the street I'm checking out. I enjoy the transformation 100% and feel very feminine when dressed but the connection that the girl in the mirror is me just doesn't make sense.

[Brittany CD]

No, Katie is still not who I visualize. I haven't really accepted Katie as she is yet as I can still improve on the makeup to make her look better. Some people here have shown their male pictures as well as female and have shown great skills, so I have no doubt I can look even girlier than I do now

[Miriam-J]

I don't know if I'll ever see the girl in the mirror. I've grown too accustomed to 'his' face to not see it, no matter how its disguised. Still, like many of you I hope and dream that I can somehow be made up well enough to see someone else. In the meantime, it could be worse - at least I don't have the moustache that grace my face for so many years.

Miriam

[Vanessa Storrs]

My mirror is defective. I know that I am a truly beautiful gorgeous lady when I am dressed but when I go to the mirror all I see is a fat old guy with a bad wig.

[GingerLeigh]

My mirror is defective. I know that I am a truly beautiful gorgeous lady when I am dressed but when I go to the mirror all I see is a fat old guy with a bad wig.

OH MY!!!!That's sooooo funny because that's what I see too! Maybe we got the mirrors from the same factory!

[Barbara Ella]

I have seen the girl for only a little over 2 months. i have seen the dude for over 65 years. I know what the dude looks like and it comes through right now. There are fleeting moments when I think there is a girl in the mirror, so I keep trying.

Babes

[TommyII]

I look in the mirror and don't recognize either the girl or the guy. Something has happened in the last 40 years and I'm not sure who that reflection could possibly be.

[taís]

I have a strong image of TaÃ*s on my mind. (it was something I saw one day, so it isn't from fantasy world!) and now when I close my eyes I can see myself en femme from a third-person view. but this is something recent... in fact when I noticed that I got REALLY messed up. it was an internal "click". (surely motivated by the knowledge I got from this forum, ranging from makeup tips to inner perception.) it was seeing more of me on her than in the real me. (omg pronouns)

(and also lately I have this very candid image in my mind that I will have to photograph. it's an actual objective with no deadline. need to find that 'perfect' floral dress first gahhh)

[Jennifer in CO]

This thread topic brings out a long, drawn out sigh. When I look in the mirror today all I have are memories of the girl that once was and that there is no way in heck the guy in the mirror could ever be her again. Thankfully, we do have the memories of much more pleasant times...
Jenn

[Leeiah]

When I am getting dressed and I look at myself before I am about to go out, it feels like I am looking at a stranger its actually a pretty werid feeling but I like it. Is it what I expected it to be? hmm as close as I can get thus far so I am pleased.

[Stephanie47]

It's not just the mirror! When en femme I see a mature woman. When en homme I see a mature man. However, when I see pictures of the mature man, I really seem a lot older than my age. Ugh! I wonder what I would look like en femme in pictures. When I was in my 30's the pictures I had taken of myself were OK- not a raving beauty, however, passable. Then again, I look at GG's you are my age, and, well, they're not spring chickens either!

[Rachel Mari]

Today was the first time that I looked in the mirror and actually kind of liked what I saw. Still not quite to the point of my minds eye but the closest its ever been.

Does that mean I'm finally starting to like myself?

[noeleena]

Hi,

A woman looks in a woman looks out,

nothing to do with ones facial features ,
The mirror does not see or know what the person is about it only reflects the outside, & that is not who i am or how people know me
they see a woman known as noeleena.

...noeleena...

[sometimes_miss]

I don't look in the mirror. When I was a young to mid teen, yes, then, I could have easily passed. Slim, prepuberty (until 17), long silky hair, no beard, a little bit of boobage from the weight swings, slim pretty legs, that's the image I keep in my mind whenever I'm dressed. The girl part of me is stuck at about age 14, so that image, and the outfits I wear, all fit together. Reality has never been kind to me, so I don't have to live in it. It is wonderful to have such a strong, and great, imagination.

[Daphne Renee]

well its not exactly how I would like it to be but I am learning to live with it. Maybe in time it will be a little different.

[kimdl93]

As Daphne says above, I don't see exactly what I'd like, but I'm more accepting of my appearance than I was at first. I suppose I'm no different from any other woman in that I see my flaws, wish I was prettier, and am increasingly sensitive to the lines staring back at me. I recall my aunt telling me that she was startled everytime she would look into the mirror and see an old lady instead of a 16 year old girl. I'm feeling the same way.

[Kerstin]

I can see the female me when I look in the mirror... until I use a second mirror to get a proper look at my side profile. That's a buzzkill for sure.

[andrea35]

good question, is a no for me, I'v seen pics of myself and they are definitely not the girl I see in the mirror

[Sara Jessica]

The problem is that I see her every day. Wait, maybe that's not so much of a problem after all!!!

[TGMarla]

Not quite. It's close, but the me I visualize is a size 8, and a bit prettier. A way bit prettier.

[Mikaela]

When I am getting ready and such and purposefully look in a mirror, it's definitely 'me in costume,' but when the final bits are in place, it becomes 'her.' At that point, and if the clothes and makeup flatter, things match. if I nitpick or had issues getting ready, it takes me out of things and becomes another type of dysphoria*.

When I unexpectedly catch a glimpse (like the time I was in the mall, or when out at club or whatever), I often see a much prettier girl than I give myself credit for because I'm not looking critically.

I think it's why I (and many of us) like photos of us, because it separates the experience of looking with the experience of being (not to mention the image flipped from a mirror). I find photos to either be really bad or really great for my esteem. :D



*the dysphorias I get are:
1. I'm in normal guy mode and kaela is knocking in my brain to get out, what most of us go through, I suspect.
2. I'm in normal guy mode and something I do or have (like my nails are kinda long now & I have delicate long arms) practically screams female, but I'm not feeling her in my head.
3. I'm in girl mode, but something takes me out of it and then I feel like 'guy in a dress' instead of Kaela.

[Victoria Vermilliana]

Nope :\ I don't think I'll ever look like the woman I picture myself to be in my mind's eye. Then again, I had the same issue as a guy. That's not to say I don't like the way I look, but I'll never quite look exactly like I picture myself to be!

[Joanne108]

At first no, however overtime I have gotten much better at make up. I purchased forms, wigs and clothing that fit and flatter. Now when I look in the mirror I no longer see a guy in drag. I now see a 'beautiful woman'. I wonder sometimes is that truly me?

[Karren H]

I've really never ever pictured what I should look like... And I'm glad I haven't..... I'd be more disappointed than I already am when I look in the mirror! Lol.

[busker]

I've really never ever pictured what I should look like... And I'm glad I haven't..... I'd be more disappointed than I already am when I look in the mirror! Lol.

We've seen you in your undies and corset.

[Contessa]

I don't believe that I see any one else other than my sister. Although she is a very beautiful person I just see her. I don't know what other look to expect, I see my father's mother also. All the women in my family are/were beautiful but I can't see anyone other than them. Albeit I do need to do more to my eyes,what/who really should I be looking for?

[Delila]

When I picture myself I am usually much shorter and far prettier than the girl I see in the mirror. I guess not only women have body image issues.

[jaye_cd]

I always see myself *much* thinner in the mirror. Then that dang scale reminds me why I need to go to the gym!

[Alisa]

I think I would have to agree with others here that have pointed out that their mirror is defective. I know mine must be... or it could be the stimulative affect of the pink fog... whatever the case may be, its not usually the mirror that highlights the difference between the image in my minds eye - its the darn camera. It can be soooo discouraging!

[Sara Jessica]

When I unexpectedly catch a glimpse (like the time I was in the mall, or when out at club or whatever), I often see a much prettier girl than I give myself credit for because I'm not looking critically.

And those moments are priceless, aren't they?

We can be our own worst enemy at times which in a lot of cases (like when you are about to step out into the real world) can be to our benefit. But to have such moments when we are not at our most critical, it brings out the essence of who we really are and how we really present to the world.

[Crissy Kay]

Sometimes I do, not often enough though.

[gender_blender]

Yep. I'm physically attracted to her.

[Sissy Michelle]

Now that i am getting older and the age is showing in my face I quite often feel very depressed when i see myself in the mirror. A youngish girl is looking out at a cruel mirror that reflects the image of an older man.
My advice to all of you young people out there is....GO FOR IT !!! enjoy your life while you can, you dont want to have to look back with regrets and with the frustrating sensation of knowing there is NOTHING that you can do about it anymore. Be yourself, and take the step !

[Kate Simmons]

I don't really worry about it RS. If someone else has a problem, it's theirs not mine.:)

[J-Lynn]

I see me. A beautiful woman that turns me on :o. From the neck down I do everything I can to look as feminine and delicate as I can. I have thought about what it would feel like to be fully transformed and I'm not ready for that.



I edited this post after looking in the mirror and thinking about what I actually "saw" not just the reflection I was looking at. It originally read "A guy in Women's underwear" while still attractive not what I actually see.

[Jessica86]

I see some of the same features, but see a woman. I like to think of her as a twin sister at times. Some features can not be erased. It doesn't matter how you look....it's how you feel that counts.

[docrobbysherry]

I see some of the same features, but see a woman. I like to think of her as a twin sister at times. Some features can not be erased. It doesn't matter how you look....it's how you feel that counts.

In other words, that's what I was asking, Jessica;
"How do u FEEL about the way u look in your mirror, compared to how u see yourself in your mind's eye?"

[ArleneRaquel]

I try to look into the mirror when I'm not wearing my glasses, that way I see Marilyn Monroe every time that I'm a blonde, as I redhead I see Maureen O' Hara. If I am wearing my cheaters the mirror breaks.

[docrobbysherry]

Ha ha! I'm nearsighted, too, Arlene! I ALWAYS look stunning in the mirror! Then, I make the mistake of looking at the pics! Eeeek!

[ArleneRaquel]

Ha ha! I'm nearsighted, too, Arlene! I ALWAYS look stunning in the mirror! Then, I make the mistake of looking at the pics! Eeeek!

I'm stunning I know but those mirrors are a problem. :heehee: A 50 year+ Crossdresser&Wearer of eye glasses. Femme eyewear ONLY since 2004.

[Tracy]

No, I feel wonderful, comfortable and peaceful. Then I look in the mirror and I see a man with make-up and a dress... then I usually spend the next couple of days in jeans and a t-shirt feelings pretty low about myself.

[Marleena]

The girl in the mirror looks okay, but I rather envision a Sofia Vergara look alike. *sigh*

[AllisonK]

Not really....Sometimes if I just get a glance I will think that I[m pretty, but most of the time I don't see what I want.

[Ally 2112]

Some times it's pretty sometimes not so pretty

[Bex]

Every time I look in the mirror I could swear I had a smaller ribcage.
And a nosejob wouldn't hurt, but other than that... Oh yeah, my damn facial hairs !!! >.<