At what point did you stop using the name you were Christened with?

[Kirsty_D]

Just curious at what point in your transition did you become known to friends and family by your female/male name?

[kimdl93]

I have an unfair advantage, because my given name is "kimberly"

[Traci Elizabeth]

About two years before I had it legally changed.

[Bree-asaurus]

I had it changed after about a year.

Most people do a good job of using it. My parents have a hard time adjusting, but not for the lack of trying. They're very supportive but it must be hard calling your child, that you called by one name for 25 years, by another.

[Rianna Humble]

I never stopped using the name I was christened with for the simple reason that I was never christened.

I changed my name legally on the day that I began my transition. In the run up to this, I told the people who I felt needed to know and then gave them permission to tell others. I soon found out that I had more friends than I had thought and they all call me by my real name (not the one that I gave up).

The only person who seems to have real difficulty with remembering who I am is my 90 year old father - he uses my real name more than half the time, but a couple of months ago gave me a birthday card to his "son" Rianna :eek: In his defence he did think for more than half a century that I was his son.

[Julia_in_Pa]

I transitioned in December of 2006 and I legally changed my name as of October 17th of 2007.
That's when everyone who was respectful began to use my name.

And yes this thread should only be for transitioning or transitioned females but hey don't let me stop you.



Julia

[Kirsty_D]

I guess Christened was the wrong term to use :) So that should be changed that to 'Given name'.

[karanne]

And yes this thread should only be for transitioning or transitioned females but hey don't let me stop you.
Julia After I graduated High School as Kara.

BTW, Julia, I'm curious as to why you think this should only be for 'transitioning or transitioned females'? After all, a F2M T-brother going from 'Diane' to 'Dennis' would be in a similar situation. :D

[Jorja]

I stopped using my given name the day my name change was legal and those that needed to be notified were. It took about a week for me to do everything as I remember. As for my parents and the rest of the family, they were informed at the same time as everyone else but still tried to call me by my given name. We don't care what you call yourself, you will always be (given name) to us. I simply did not answer them or reply to them unless I knew it was an honest mistake on their part (you can tell). It only took most of them a couple of times to get it right.

[Kathryn Martin]

The day I transitioned professionally and socially. I applied for name change so that I was legal the day before.

[Shapeshiffter]

When I went full time. I file the legal papers this coming Monday. Most people are calling me by my fem name now.

[Julia_in_Pa]

Agreed. I should have also included such a category.
I apologize to any and all FTM's who have felt left out of this thread due to such a statement.
We should have had the OP say Legally changed names. That should suffice as a barrier to whatever else.


After I graduated High School as Kara.

BTW, Julia, I'm curious as to why you think this should only be for 'transitioning or transitioned females'? After all, a F2M T-brother going from 'Diane' to 'Dennis' would be in a similar situation. :D

[Bree-asaurus]

Agreed. I should have also included such a category.
I apologize to any and all FTM's who have felt left out of this thread due to such a statement.
We should have had the OP say Legally changed names. That should suffice as a barrier to whatever else.

Unfortunately there aren't very many FTMs that frequent this forum. I joined the private FTM forum hoping to be able to talk to FTMs since my boyfriend is FTM, but no such luck... as no one ever posts there.

[Rianna Humble]

Unfortunately there aren't very many FTMs that frequent this forum. I joined the private FTM forum hoping to be able to talk to FTMs since my boyfriend is FTM, but no such luck... as no one ever posts there.

I don't see why that should be an excuse to exclude them from this kind of discussion. From what I've seen, it is the way that they are frequently ignored (or worse) by people discussing TS issues here that discourages many of those who do still come to crossdressers.com from posting in the TS forum.

[noeleena]

Hi,

if you can call my name being changed or added to yet is still both male. / female.

noel to noeleena i am still called no-el.just most new people who now know me its noeleena, those who have known me for over 54 years, im not bothered ether way, & i get both.

2 nd name edward to edwina,my other two names are the same & last name is Loch-head.as given.

As an aside , no-el shows aspects of my male side & noeleena my female / womans aspects.

So my names do represent myself, part of being I S,

...noeleena...

[Julia_in_Pa]

Everyone,

The reason why I posted my first response to the OP after telling of when I changed my name is because of an editing reason that shows up directly under the OP's question.
It is my opinion that this thread should be for transitioning or transitioned people both MTF and FTM.
I dont think the OP was wanting or needing to hear from all the others who's name is rotated between Alexsis and Tiffany every six months and post about panty colors and how they feel.


Julia

[Bree-asaurus]

I don't see why that should be an excuse to exclude them from this kind of discussion. From what I've seen, it is the way that they are frequently ignored (or worse) by people discussing TS issues here that discourages many of those who do still come to crossdressers.com from posting in the TS forum.

You misunderstood my post. I was just making a relevant comment. I wasn't making an excuse.

[Aprilrain]

I stopped using my given name about a year ago, had it legally changed last august.

[Rianna Humble]

You misunderstood my post.

I apologise if that is the case. In the context, commenting on an apology for excluding the FtM's with a statement that basically seemed to say "well, there aren't that many of them active here" definitely read like an excuse for the exclusion, but I will accept your word that you did not intend it that way.

[Bree-asaurus]

I apologise if that is the case. In the context, commenting on an apology for excluding the FtM's with a statement that basically seemed to say "well, there aren't that many of them active here" definitely read like an excuse for the exclusion, but I will accept your word that you did not intend it that way.

By no means was I promoting exclusion. I was simply expressing my sadness that there aren't many FTMs around here.

[Hope]

It was a gradual process.

Those who knew me well and were trusted with the information early on, started calling me by my real name almost as soon as my partner and I settled on one. Others, started using it sporadically, as they would remember, as they felt comfortable, as they were informed. I got a new name tag at work about a week before I went full time, and every one there has been using it since then... A week or so later I went full time, and everyone has identified me as "Hope" since then.

I honestly can't remember the last time some one addressed me with my boy name, but... I doubt anyone ever will again. Once in a while I meet a guy who has my boy name, and it is a weird experience. I always think (but never say) "good name... it was just never me."

I had my name legally changed almost exactly 6 months into RLE... it was a big day.

[Kirsty_D]

My wife has been calling me by my chosen name now for 2 weeks and I totally identify with it, even today when out shopping (in drab) I didn't mind hen my wife called me Christine and I was not embarrassed about trying on dress's in one shop, strange yet it just feels natural. I always hated my male name, even though it's a perfectly reasonable and common male name, just hated it and never identified with it.

[Felicity71]

After 2 years of hrt i still havent changed it lol. Too much paperwork :)