~Seana~
03-11-2012, 12:30 PM
So it's been the strangest week. My trans girlfriend in montreal has had a breakdown in part due to too high a dose. Just part of the territory.
At the office I must have heard the work "crossdresser "and "Tranny" a half dozen times or more each . Not pointed towards me, they were talking about a video of a comedian who was trans. It was enough though to makemy ears perk. Maybe it contributed to my absolute foolishness on Friday night I'm not sure.
So on friday night everyone at the companygets together in the boardroom and someone has brought in a few 6 packs ( probably at company expense) . I get called at the end of my day for beers in the boardroom.
Now some of you may remember I posted a few months ago. I was changing jobs,and leaving one where I was out about being trans and dressed everyday at work but going to a much better paying and in all respects BETTER job. I have a big family which has gotten bigger when my ex spouse died in january with the addition of an additional child. I now work for a small managed service provider as their primary point of contact. It's a small company perhaps 15 people total. I've excelled in my job. I've also dressed male ( albeit with long hair and thinned brows and earings) every day while I felt out the atmosphere.And the good point is I think it's very posative .It is however a pofessional work environment.I am occasionally customer facing as people drop off and pickup machines to be worked on.
Friday as we are getting together they have all been made to take recent HR training and some people are joking around about it. My manager is an older gentleman and he's waxing a little rhetorical and starts talking about having once fired a guy for making inappropriate comments to the receptionist. The guy turned up the next day with a lawyer in tow. He said he was TG, his hormone levels had been off and that's why he had made the comments.Moral being they had fired him anyway.
For the life of me I dont know what ever posessed me. I was in no way prepared to come out to work 5 months into my job. I said " You know paul, I dont know if you realize this, but ( I live in canada) paul did you know that the NDP introduced legislation last year that would make the exact scenario you just described a criminal act? and that it was adopted by parliament and died when the government disolved but was currently being reintroduced?"
He looks me strait in the eye and he goes "How would you know that unless you were trans...are you TG?"
I was like a deer in the headlights. As much as every ounce told me to deny it I could not bring myself to lie. I said " yes I am."
He was shocked by the response, and asked me to confirm and I said that yes i was. that I presented as male only because it;s a professional environment and I didnt think it was a work issue at the moment.
One or two of the employees indicated they werent surprised.. I dont think I'm going to have big issues, but I'll have some questions come monday. Monday is just another normal monday until further notice.Except that it's just out there. I'm in no way prepared for this and I'm definitely asking myself wtf did I just do?
At the office I must have heard the work "crossdresser "and "Tranny" a half dozen times or more each . Not pointed towards me, they were talking about a video of a comedian who was trans. It was enough though to makemy ears perk. Maybe it contributed to my absolute foolishness on Friday night I'm not sure.
So on friday night everyone at the companygets together in the boardroom and someone has brought in a few 6 packs ( probably at company expense) . I get called at the end of my day for beers in the boardroom.
Now some of you may remember I posted a few months ago. I was changing jobs,and leaving one where I was out about being trans and dressed everyday at work but going to a much better paying and in all respects BETTER job. I have a big family which has gotten bigger when my ex spouse died in january with the addition of an additional child. I now work for a small managed service provider as their primary point of contact. It's a small company perhaps 15 people total. I've excelled in my job. I've also dressed male ( albeit with long hair and thinned brows and earings) every day while I felt out the atmosphere.And the good point is I think it's very posative .It is however a pofessional work environment.I am occasionally customer facing as people drop off and pickup machines to be worked on.
Friday as we are getting together they have all been made to take recent HR training and some people are joking around about it. My manager is an older gentleman and he's waxing a little rhetorical and starts talking about having once fired a guy for making inappropriate comments to the receptionist. The guy turned up the next day with a lawyer in tow. He said he was TG, his hormone levels had been off and that's why he had made the comments.Moral being they had fired him anyway.
For the life of me I dont know what ever posessed me. I was in no way prepared to come out to work 5 months into my job. I said " You know paul, I dont know if you realize this, but ( I live in canada) paul did you know that the NDP introduced legislation last year that would make the exact scenario you just described a criminal act? and that it was adopted by parliament and died when the government disolved but was currently being reintroduced?"
He looks me strait in the eye and he goes "How would you know that unless you were trans...are you TG?"
I was like a deer in the headlights. As much as every ounce told me to deny it I could not bring myself to lie. I said " yes I am."
He was shocked by the response, and asked me to confirm and I said that yes i was. that I presented as male only because it;s a professional environment and I didnt think it was a work issue at the moment.
One or two of the employees indicated they werent surprised.. I dont think I'm going to have big issues, but I'll have some questions come monday. Monday is just another normal monday until further notice.Except that it's just out there. I'm in no way prepared for this and I'm definitely asking myself wtf did I just do?