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Foxglove
03-11-2012, 01:32 PM
Hi, Guys and Girls!

One upon a time I read a short passage from Helen Keller’s autobiography where she was talking about her acquisition of language and what it meant to her. I think these few sentences from the Wikipedia article about her explain the process clearly enough.

Anne Sullivan arrived at Keller's house in March 1887, and immediately began to teach Helen to communicate by spelling words into her hand, beginning with "d-o-l-l" for the doll that she had brought Keller as a present. Keller was frustrated, at first, because she did not understand that every object had a word uniquely identifying it. In fact, when Sullivan was trying to teach Keller the word for "mug", Keller became so frustrated she broke the doll. Keller's big breakthrough in communication came the next month, when she realized that the motions her teacher was making on the palm of her hand, while running cool water over her other hand, symbolized the idea of "water"; she then nearly exhausted Sullivan demanding the names of all the other familiar objects in her world.

What she explained in her autobiography was the significance of language for her. Before, she would of course have known what a doll or water was. But once she realized that each thing had a name, everything changed. She said that the world became clearer for her, as if she were emerging from a fog. Once she knew the name of a thing, she perceived it differently. If she lost a doll, e.g., she would feel the loss more keenly. (And if anyone’s interested in the question, “What is human language?”, I think Keller is giving us an important clue here.)

Recently, I wanted to apply for membership to a Transgender organization here in Ireland. I got the application form off their website, but then was unable to complete it. What stumped me was that I was going to have to sign my name at the bottom of the form. And I couldn’t do that. This may sound silly, but firstly, I’d never before actually written down “Annabelle Larousse”. And secondly, it’s a genetic thing in my family: men can’t even come close to writing legibly. I long ago gave up trying to write in what’s called “cursive writing” in some parts and “joined writing” in others. My dad also gave up cursive writing a long time ago, and my son never even attempted it. We stick to printing.

But if I’m going to sign my real name on a document, I don’t want it to look like some chicken-scratched scribble-scrawl. Normally, I think, a woman’s handwriting is better than a man’s, and my efforts were simply embarrassing. What kind of girl would they think I was? Or should I just sign it with a big, fat “X” and ask a friend to witness my signature?

So I gave it up. I sent them the membership fee through the mail in cash as a donation, and gave them my name (typed) and e-mail address. They acknowledged receipt of the money, and I noted that they had enrolled me as a member after all, so everything was OK.

However, I did want to remedy the situation. If I worked at it, maybe next year I could actually fill in a form and send it to them. So the last few days, I’ve been practicing. I typed my name on a document and then looked at it in different scripts and chose the one I liked best. I’ve been trying my best to see how well I can imitate it. I’m going for cursive writing, as difficult as it is, because it looks so much nicer—but I’ve found that if I go at it very slowly, I do a lot better.

The capital “A” and the capital “L” are the most difficult—though this morning I did three “L’s” in a row that were spot on, exactly what I wanted. The double “s” was also a bit of problem, though I got that sorted out very quickly, and the “r” is giving me some trouble as well, though that’s coming along now. Some of the time I get a result that actually looks like a decent signature.

The odd thing was that as I was writing “Annabelle” and “Larousse” over and over and over, I began to get sucked into it. (In case anybody’s curious, “Larousse” means “the red-head”, and that’s me.) It became something of a spiritual exercise. I found some feelings becoming focused around the name.

Basically, for the first time in my life, I began to get a feel for some things long buried within me, for a part of me that’s long been hidden. Things were taking shape inside me, and it put me in touch with what might have been. I was getting a glimpse of the girl I might have been, had circumstances been different. I began to get a feel for a certain personality, or part of one, that might have been expressed, had it ever been given the chance. Am I one of those multiple-personality people?

As some people know, I’m often all over the place—up, down, jolly, moody, angry from one moment to the next, take your pick. So maybe I‘m bi-polar instead, except that “bi” very much understates the case. “There are more poles in my heaven and hell, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your psychiatry.” But had I been what I was intended to be, I think I would have been more settled, less frenetic, perhaps even less nasty and raging. It would be nice to believe that I’d have been a nicer and gentler person.

I don’t blame my folks for naming me what they did. Given my physical configuration at birth, they could hardly have done otherwise. No, the name they gave me was fine, and had I ever been a man (and I’ve never been much of one), it’s a name one could be proud of. And I don’t suppose it would be any better to be a boy named “Annabelle” than a boy named “Sue”. Nonetheless, I wasn’t named accurately—and I now understand why I like the name I’ve chosen for myself, and why I’d like to use it in all my dealings with others.

A lot of people on this forum are constantly bemoaning the use of “labels”, and I understand why. But labels (and a name is a label) can be very good things, provided that they’re accurate and that nobody’s abusing them. For me, “Annabelle” is a very accurate name and label. It becomes the focus of a lot of things that otherwise would remain vague and unknown. It sharpens my world for me and helps me to feel certain things more keenly as they begin to emerge from the fog within me. What’s in a name? As I’ve seen, a name can contain and express a lot of things.

Best wishes, Annabelle

drushin703
03-11-2012, 02:26 PM
Your post got me thinking about language.Language as the nameing of things, not just as an identifier of objects for the siteless.Names are finite and
in the most fundamental sence, must mean something.

Some of my drag queen friends asked me backstage, to laugh and talk, before going on show and for the first time I was in a totally different world.
Watching them get dressed, with their overdone arches and contours and their drawn on lips, their hip and bud pads, their gluded on earrings, their
cigarette smoking, their glittering gowns, their bouffant wigs and their breast plates (?) ....well, it was like watching blood sausage being made.
I wanted for so long to believe that crossdressers were just a subset of drag queens and that the two were linked by, if nothing else, language.
When I get fully dressed, I like to think that every act, from bath to shave, to pantyhose, to slip, to dress, to wig, to perfume is a beautiful act.
So now, for me, drag (the person, not the event) has been given a different difinition.Mabe even a negative one...And I love blood sausage.


Annabelle is a lovely name.What it finally means is totally up to you..dana

Foxglove
03-11-2012, 02:37 PM
Your post got me thinking about language.Language as the nameing of things, not just as an identifier of objects for the siteless.Names are finite and in the most fundamental sence, must mean something.

Annabelle is a lovely name.What it finally means is totally up to you..dana

Hi, Dana! I think that names/labels/words contain ideas. They serve as a focus of what we think about things. "Drag" may be just a word, but when you experience it first-hand, your definition of it may change somewhat, because you've got some new ideas about it. I think it's why we often disagree about labels: we each have our own definition, since we each have somewhat different experiences.

And many thanks for the compliment. I like the name very much, and, in a sense, I want to try to live up to it. I'm trying to believe that there are some nice things in me.

Best wishes, Annabelle

Persephone
03-11-2012, 04:09 PM
A very interesting and thoughtful post! It makes you wonder how Helen Keller thought about her doll or other things in her life prior to having words.

I'm one of those who "bemoans" labels, but what I'm really railing against are group identifications, not individual ones, so people's names aren't what would bother me.

Annabelle is a lovely name! And if it fits, wear it with pride!

Hugs,
Persephone.

Foxglove
03-11-2012, 04:29 PM
A very interesting and thoughtful post! It makes you wonder how Helen Keller thought about her doll or other things in her life prior to having words.

That's a very good question, and possibly only she could have answered it. You know how sometimes you know what you want to say, but you can't find the right word? "The word's on the tip of my tongue." Maybe it was something like that for her. She knew what she was on about, but she didn't have the words. It may have been very uncomfortable for her.

She told one story about how happy she always was when someone gave her her hat, because that meant she was going to get to go outside. Obviously, she knew what things were. But it must have been very strange not to have a name for them. Except that, given that she didn't even know what names were, maybe she didn't know what she was missing.


I'm one of those who "bemoans" labels, but what I'm really railing against are group identifications, not individual ones, so people's names aren't what would bother me.

We often object to labels for good reasons. If they're not really accurate, e.g. It's one problem we TG's have. There are so many different varieties of us: we're into different things, we have different goals and motives. We do all, generally speaking, fit under the same umbrella, but how to find a term that includes us all?

Also, people often don't like labels because they feel like a label is trying to fit them into a pre-arranged pigeon-hole. That's quite often a valid objection. Also, a lot of labels are used pejoratively.

But some labels are great. Have you ever known anyone who played a lot of golf and really loved the game, but objected to the label "golfer"? I think they all regard it as a badge of honor.


Annabelle is a lovely name! And if it fits, wear it with pride!

Thank you so much! It's what I'm trying to do.

Annabelle

KellyJameson
03-11-2012, 04:58 PM
Your writing touched my heart, I'm sitting here in Starbucks and people are watching me from the corners of their eyes wondering why I'm crying. Probably think I lost money at the horse track or I was dumped by a girl, if they only knew the real reason.

You live up to your name fully and completely, I think you may actually surpass it and Annabelle is a name whose promise of simple innocence, empty of malice and vice makes difficult to do.

In writing your name you like a time traveler went back to what you were in the beginning that still is within you. It is never to late to live as the person you were meant to be, that you are able to write such beauty shows this person is alive and well inside of you.

What you feel when you write your name is what I believe I feel by all the things I do that the world identifies as feminine behavior. I do not care that it is feminine or masculine, I care that it is the expression of my soul, my nature, my essence, the eternal energy that vibrates in the deepest parts of my being. immutable and everlasting.

When we learn to go into this we discover who we are separate from what we have been made to be, this is where truth lives. Labels can lead to truth even though they to often keep us from discovering it.

I am very glad you do not blame, the nashing of teeth destroys our inherent beauty and eats at us like an acid. We can never be complete until we let go of blame, the world is in pain and everyone is it's victim but we can move beyond this by accepting it.

Beautiful Beautiful piece of writing, Thank you for this gift. You have given me new words to learn and live by.

Foxglove
03-11-2012, 05:09 PM
Wow, Kelly, thank you so much for that reply. It really gratifies me.

It was just odd. It seemed a bit silly when I first started out, and maybe a bit pointless, too. I was just trying to learn how to write my name. But it really got me in tune with some things. One thing in particular: I don't crossdress because I want to be a woman. I do it because I'm Annabelle, and that's the way she dresses. And I realized that I missed her. It made me feel a bit lonely. It's like I'm looking for my long-lost sister, and I think perhaps I'm finding her bit by bit.

Best wishes, Annabelle