Does this website help?

[Briana90802]

For the most part I'd say this forum helps. It helps me understand myself and let's me know I'm not an oddball. BUT! It also makes me feel more alone than ever. Not being able to talk face to face or just have friends that understand me make me feel more alone than when I was in the closet.

Just knowing that there are people out there like me and not having any other contact other than staring at a screen is like a carrot on string.


So is this website helping or making things worse for you?

[Karren H]

This forum at best helps entertain me! Lol. Though I've made some great friends here and learned a few things. So yes. It helps.

[Beverley Sims]

This forum at best helps entertain me! I have learned a few things and I leave a little of my brand of humor behind
Do not feel alone any more than the rest of us.You have a lot of life to enjoy yet.

[Laura912]

It does help to some extent when the topics are of personal interest and maybe I can leave a crumb of knowledge that is useful. Plus, I get to see what Karren is going to zing in with. ;) It also got me to go out...once.

[Marleena]

It does help people that's why it's so popular. Being TG, or being in a relationship with one can be difficult.

[suzy1]

It’s good enough for me Briana.:)

I never had any hang-ups about CDing but to find this site and find out that there are so many other odd balls like me was great!:roflmao:


SUZY

[Marleena]

I never had any hang-ups about CDing but to find this site and find out that there are so many other odd balls like me was great!:roflmao:
SUZY


I resemble that remark Suzy!!:)

[Nikki A.]

Briana the forum helps in that you realise that you are not alone and that what you feel is Ok.
Now what you do with this knowledge is up to you. Before I joined this forum, I was closeted and felt alone. But through this forum I met others, first, online and later in person. It has given me the courage to open the door and go out and express myself. Whether you go out in public or just to private functions is up to you and your comfort level.

[kimdl93]

Knowledge doesn't make you lonely...but it may lead to a desire for real life expereinces. All of us need social contacts. Perhaps the forum has given you examples of people who have successfully conquered their fears and gone out to interact with people in the real world. If reading of the experiences of others, getting advice on make up and tips on clothing, or just learning to face your fears and become more confident about going out in public, then it has helped.

[Julia Welch]

Hell Yes ... I had no idea how common my "hobby" was until I found this place. It made me feel alot more normal and not such a freak.

[Lyric]

I think this forum is super helpful and quite fun, as well. I remember the dark days before the Internet when learning more about crossdressing and transgender matters was not nearly so easy. If the Internet had been around a couple of decades earlier I'm sure I would have come to understand myself much sooner-- and probably have been one rockin' '70s babe, too.

Lyric

[Barbara Ella]

With all of us oddballs here, it is most definitely entertaining. More importantly, it is a big help. Look at what it has done for you Briana. It has you expanding your horizons far beyond what you were probably thinking before joining. Now you are comfortable talking about yourself and sharing visual evidence of what you do, and accepting outsiders comments. This has lead you to the next step. Physical presence, the ultimate human desire, to be with others of a like mind. I would bet this forum has accelerated your awareness of this need greatly. The doings of the members is providing your inner self with the reassurance that meeting people just might not be as scary as once thought, and your mental wellness sensor has moved on to the next frontier, and begun to make you question why you aren't there yet. You have just gotten there a lot faster than you expected.

So yes, this forum is helping in more ways than any of us realize. IMHO

Babes

[Jessica Who]

Joining this forum was one of the best things I could ever do for myself, I have grown by leaps and bounds compared to where I was just a few short years ago and being on this forum has been a huge part of that :)

[DCChris]

The forum has shown me I'm not alone. That what I've been doing since before puberty is not all that rare. That all those years of secreted, closeted dressing in lingerie was also not uncommon. The forum has emboldened me to embrace my feminine side and to go further and experience going out en femme and meet others, which too, I've come to realize, is not all that uncommon nor completely disapproved of.

So, yes. This forum has been a godsend. And it's a brave new world.

[Bailey_in_Mansfield]

For me, this forum has been monstrously entertaining and fun, and as several people have already said, it's helped me to know I'm definitely not alone. I have fun talking about panties and bras and such, and this forum is an out for that.

Speaking of which, this makes me want to start up that ol' "what color panties are you wearing today" thread that was going when I was here before, but I'm not sure if it was closed for a reason. :p

[andrea35]

yes it is for me, I keep coming back here even though I wish I could meet more you in person. I tried that in another website
and all I got were offers for sex and dirty talk, noo thanks

[krissy_toronto]

It helps me deeply because I know I am not alone and definately not 'weird'. I love being a woman, well the illusion of one anyway and I love that I have a place to go to post, comment, meet ppl that want the same things as I do. Being a girl (when you were born a male) isn't easy but it is who we are and no way am I going to suppress it. Coming out to my amazing wife after 12 yrs together was the best thing I ever did (still limits mind you) but to think she (other then you gals) is the only one who knows how I have felt since an early age (I remember asking my mother at age 4 if I could wear dresses to school) helps keep things in check and keeps me (drab self) from driving into the biggest tree on my way home from work. LOL

[~Joanne~]

I love this forum. In a world where I knew there were others like me, I could never find them at the same time. I never got a chance to communicate with them like I can here, though in person would be much more fun and rewarding if your at that point in your life.It's great to get makeup tips, share clothing ideas, get help with clothing shopping and showing off your newest look :)

Sometimes though I find it to be a mixed bag of pressure. when girls ask how to hide hair, you get told shave. How to get certain items, just go to the store. Which is sound advice mind you, but not so easy on some girls. A lot, like myself, have just comes to terms that this isn't going away and have a lot of hurdles to jump before we are as comfortable with all of this as others are BUT there are also a lot of veteran dressers that can help with some really great advice on this also.

[Aloha Jayne]

I beats the heck out of $120 an hour to talk to a shrink. It gives me a voice that I have never had, and let's me compare notes with others in the same boat (or leaky life raft if you prefer). And it helped me come out to my SO. Jury still out to see if that was a good thing or not.

[Becoming Brianna]

I've only been here as a member one day and I have found this site extremely helpful as a source of information and support... I've never met so many nice and accepting people... I feel like I can discuss my identity issues and be my true self here without having to worry about judgment or prejudice... My first actual forum post was a really long one, but the girls here patiently answered it and were very nice to me... I'm so happy I found this place and even happier that I actually worked up the courage to start posting...

Brianna

[ArleneRaquel]

This site has helped me in my ways, but especially in that I have meet so many fabulous people here, mostly via e-mails, PM, phone, and a few in person. IMO our community is so so thoughtful & caring. I love this site.

[RADER]

Yes; this forum is the best thing since slice bread and driveways.
I have learn so much here, and have built up my confidence to no end.
Besides it is very entertaining to an old fart like me. LOL
Rader

[reb.femme]

First point to get off my chest, why is it that Suzy always seems to get a comment in before me?
Before finding this site, I thought I was an isolated incident, I never dreamed there could be so many others but am thrilled to now realise just how un-alone I am.
I too feel that it would be nicer with face to face but as I'm only just finding my way in this part of my life, I can admit that I have found a sincere lift to my heart from my interactions here. The only thing that knocks me back is just how bloody good some of you look. So my heart felt thanks to everyone on here. p.s Briana...stunning photo!

[JamieTG]

Briana I think this website and the internet as a whole helps inform and is an outlet for discussing your feelings. Its a good thing as long as its not a replacement for real life relationships. We all long for that. I would see if there is a local cd support group that you can join. You'll be able to meet others in a safe environment. There are also nightclubs that are TG friendly. I would start with a support group and go from there. Good luck.

[Josie M]

Have you found a TG support group in your area? This is a great way to start meeting people like yourself in a safe environment.


For the most part I'd say this forum helps. It helps me understand myself and let's me know I'm not an oddball. BUT! It also makes me feel more alone than ever. Not being able to talk face to face or just have friends that understand me make me feel more alone than when I was in the closet.

Just knowing that there are people out there like me and not having any other contact other than staring at a screen is like a carrot on string.


So is this website helping or making things worse for you?

[nicole1987]

I believe so far this site has been a good deal of help/support for the short time ive been here

[Jacqueline Winona]

Absolutely id does- gave me lots of new friends, and helped build courage that I never knew I had.

[Launa]

This site has helped me in many ways. If it wasn't here I would have never tried stepping out the front door wearing a dress.

[Miriam-J]

This site is important to many, including me. Where else can we find so much support, advice, and acceptance? Where can we learn so much about what is and isn't true relative to CD, TG, TS? Sure, there are conferences - but where can we learn so easily about them? There are other websites - but which ones speak with so many voices? There is occasional dissent and argument, but enrichment lies even in these dark corners. I only wish I had found these sisters and their support years earlier.

Miriam

[Karinsamatha]

Being hear with so many wonderful people has been a godsend for me. When the repressed need / desire surfaced to dress as a woman it scared the %^&( out of me, not to mention the shame I felt. This safe place, and the people here showed that I am not a nut job. I look forward to coming here as I travel to what ever my destination is going to be on this road of life.
So in a nut shell yup it helped

[Lynn Marie]

Of course this website helps. If for no other reason than you can find a friend or friends here that you can go out with or visit with. This site is your key to a wider universe.

[NitaCD]

All the years talking to myself while locked in the closet got me no place. Being able to share thoughts and feeling with others on this site has helped me get out of that closet and navigate through life realizing that I am a normal person and that other people feel and do the same things that I do. It feels so good to be out and free with like minded friends.

[mbmeen12]

It did me and continues to do so. Clothing to HRT to counseling next week. I have a close girlfriend who is a CDr...So YES thank you, hats off to the moderators and my smart beautiful CD friends..

[jaye_cd]

This site has been a tremendous source of support, information, and humor for me. It lets me have discussions with so many wonderful people that I wouldn't be able to otherwise.

[Rianna Humble]

This web site has definitely helped me. Apart from discovering that I was not the only freak on the planet, I have encountered people who cared enough to counsel caution when they thought I might be getting carried away. They and others helped me to see clearly who I am and what I needed to do to realise that.

I have also "met" and corresponded with numerous people who have enriched my life and who I hope I have helped in return. I do not always agree with them but respect them enough to listen and offer an honest opinion.

Sometimes the discussions on the forums seem of greater or lesser interest to me, but I keep coming back, knowing that I am part of the crossdressers.com family

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All the years talking to myself while locked in the closet got me no place.

Perhaps you didn't include enough people in your discussions :heehee: I quite enjoy a good group debate when I am on my own :eek:

[Cathy J]

It's great. I've learned a lot and have ben entertained at the same time. It's my first stop every morning right after checking the news and weather. Let's keep it going!

Hugs,

[Aprilrain]

go find a support/social CD group in your area I'm sure there is one around, try Google!

[Kerstin]

It's definitely helped, and given me a lot of food for thought also.

[sonna]

helps me! if it wasent for this place i would of gone crazy a looooong time ago.

[Jenniferathome]

I have been thinking about this quite a lot lately. There is no question this site "helped" me. Past tense. Without some of the kind people I have encountered here, I may never have come out to my wife. As a result of that help, I felt compelled to reach out and try to help other crossdressers as well as their wives and girlfriends which I consider an honor to to.

But now, as I look over the forum I usually see so much nonsense. I feel like those looking for real advice are getting lost in the noise. I had a thought just this morning about what the wife or girlfriend of a crossdresser might think if they just looked at the first page of the M2F section and I was embarrassed. Somehow I think this site has lost its way. I just don't know if I hang much longer, but I do owe my happiness and that of my wife, to those special few here.

[Kristyn Hill]

this place has helped me tremendously. Just the realization of so many people feeling the same way I have since I was young. I came out completely to my wife 2 days ago because of this place. Out working today, we talked about it for 20 to 30 minutes. I would of never had full disclosure without everyone here. I will be fully dressed and camera ready soon, very soon. Cheers for you being here.

Babes' comment hits the nail on the head.

[GBJoker]

Sad to say, but this website definitely makes things worse for me. There are many reasons, half of which are in my control, half are not... Maybe 40/60, eh, who knows. The point is, quite frankly, I feel awful after surfing/lurking this site for any amount of time.

Ironically, I just logged on for the first time in 2ish months, I think, and this is the first thread I see...

[Miranda09]

This has been an absolutely wonderful find for me. It's helped me understand this side of my personality and has helped encourage me to not only step outside at conferences, but to open up to a very select few friends. Have met many wonderful people here and have actually met several face to face. Without this site, not sure where I would be right now. :)

[Michelia]

I can answer with a resounding YES.

When I first came to this site I was afraid of my own shadow and had never ventured out. There was a wealth of information here not avaiable anywhere else...based on real life experience. I later came out to my family and tried going out and fell flat on my face. I lost so much time thinking I could not go out until I passed. But eventually the experiences and advice of others gave me the motivation to head out. In the last couple of years I have been so busy...between work and a million other things that I can no longer come here often. Besides, I have been learning from my real life experience and having so much fun! I do spend at least 75% of the time dressed and so many now know about my femme side. And guess what? It has only been for the better. I can honestly say I am a happy, well adjusted CD.

I no longer spend time hiding from others or changing clothes 3 times a day. I still keep a low profile around my kid's school and my boss. But my neighbors, doctors, bankers, lawyers, vendors, fellow church members and many friends have accepted me the way I am. I is so totally liberating. And to think I once thought this was utterly impossible...

Best informative and entertaining stories: Thanks TXKimberly for taking the time to do some of your write-ups. They were very encouraging to me.

Best piece of advice I ever got: Thanks Karren, for letting me know the most important thing is self-confidence...i.e. imposing your own reality while smiling. This has been an invaluable tool for me.

But I really owe everyone my gratitude. There are many here that have contributed to my happiness. Thanks Tamara and all the mods for their hard work.