I cried my eyes out!

[suzy1]

No, that’s not me described in the heading.

I am not overly emotional. And I know some very girly girls that are even less emotional than me.

But when I come here I see some members that are sooooooo emotional that I just want to tell them to get a grip on themselves!

My question……. are you drama queens putting it on to come over as more girly or are you really going through a box of hankies every half hour? :eek:

I am not criticising anyone here. I am just curious.:straightface:

SUZY

[Julia_in_Pa]

I cry when I have to beat someone into oblivion for being a sniveling, crying little candy @ss but after I'm done I feel much better.
I then go and have a sensible dinner then a movie where....sometimes.....I cry.


Julia

[sarahcsc]

Hi Suzy,

I think some girls are very emotional here but that is probably quite normal? I remember starting out here feeling very insecure and almost "disgusted" (with myself) until the girls made me feel welcomed. That didn't take me long, but it was still quite an emotional journey for me. I wouldn't say I cried my eyes out, I don't think I've ever cried except that time I lost my GF because of my CDing. Maybe what most people need is time... and for the rest who are ALWAYS emotional, well, I recommend they either confide with someone face to face, or see their doctor. lol!

[Aylineira]

I cry at touching commercials ... true story.

[kimdl93]

Generally, I'm a taciturn Scandinavian....but then so is my mother. I can only think of a few times when I have seen her cry. But, we're not made of stone. I still tear up when I see "A River Runs Through It".

[Krististeph]

Suzy- just to put it in perspective- you've posted 3200 times. That's a lot of communication, talk, support. Some folks her have been scared to talk or open up all their lives. So personally, i don't see any mystery in it. it's different that your outlook- no question, you are awesomely open and evolved for someone who goes against 95-99% of society, i'd take any advice you have with a serious ear. remember not everyone is so lucky or experienced as you... and remember that you are a leader- and people do look up to you for wisdom...

Just my 2 cents.

hugs, Kristi

[KaTanya]

I cry when I have to beat someone into oblivion for being a sniveling, crying little candy @ss but after I'm done I feel much better.
Julia
those are tears of joy. That is always permissable. And probably not was Suzy is referring to.

[Marleena]

Suzy, Kristi is right you do take the role of a leader on here.:)

As for me, since I allowed the girl to come out I am more sensitive, but hope I'm not a drama queen! Nope, I don't cry. I do get upset easier than used to though. I think the real me shows here. Sometimes I need to get a grip.lol. Everybody is different in the way they handle things. Some have better coping skills than others.

Being retired gives me too much time to think. I am addicted to this place.

[Anne2345]

Me? Get emotional or cry? Never! Not me! Not ever, ever me. :straightface:

Ok! I admit it, sometimes I get emotional, and sometimes I cry! :cry:

But you still love me, though, right, Suzy? Suzy? SUZY???!!!!!! :cry:

[docrobbysherry]

Suzy, u MUST remember: Girls will be girls! And, altho I aren't one, we have PLENTY OF THEM HERE!

Like a normal guy, I usually only tear up at unpredictable and inappropriate times. However, I consistently get weepy on this site! When reading the sad, seemingly hopeless, and heart rending stories posted by some of the ladies here! Dressing brings so much fun and enjoyment to me. That it's the cause of heartbreak, frustration, and misery for so many really CAN get to me!

[MsSamanthaErica]

I have to admit strange things make me emotional - the other day I saw a child's stuffed toy in a parking lot and I got an overwhelming emotional response because I thought it was all alone and probably a poor kids favorite toy, their little childhood companion. It's odd how these things strike me and heighten my emotional turmoil... I wonder if others feel that way?

[YorkshireRose]

I think being able to show your emotions is a great outlet, even if it is like Julia said beating someone into oblivion! ;) But seriously though I think that as we all have a feminie side and on here we tend to be more in touch with it than the average male or in some cases female.

[suzy1]

Kristi, Marleena, I don’t deserve that! And several members that I have had a go at will agree.

Anne, this thread is inspired by you silly girl!

Samantha, you are just being normal [and nice]

Sherry, I know what you mean when you talk about some of the heart rending stories. I get emotional myself then!

Thanks girls.

[GingerLeigh]

Is "emotional basketcase" a category? If so, that's me. I'm such a suck, I cried watching the last Toy Story movie! Can't help it. Be careful on the wanting to slap my whiny @$$ over the crying. Tears tend to make me U-N-S-T-A-B-L-E and in need of quick knee-jerk release! Woe be to he who teases me....grumble grumble.....blood boilin' already! LOL!

[Persephone]

I have to admit strange things make me emotional - the other day I saw a child's stuffed toy in a parking lot and I got an overwhelming emotional response because I thought it was all alone and probably a poor kids favorite toy, their little childhood companion. It's odd how these things strike me and heighten my emotional turmoil... I wonder if others feel that way?

Absolutely! At least for small vulnerable stuffed animals. I get very upset when I see them bedraggled on a road. Like you, I know that it usually means that a child and their companion have been separated.

I also feel sad for stuffed animals that have been left in stores beyond their time. Like little puppies in animal shelters, they look so sad and lonely. I know that I can't possibly take them all home, so I usually speak to them and wish them well.

Hugs,
Persephone.

[Foxglove]

The last time I cried was when Paul Newman got shot in "Hombre". Well, I didn't actually cry, but I almost could have, kind of. I'm assuming that when my dog died and my pickup broke down doesn't count.

Annabelle

[Babeba]

I cry a LOT. And I'm not too ashamed over it, it is what it is.

[STACY B]

Where to start ? :brolleyes: Well when I CRY the most is probily during FOOTBALL season ,, When a game runs over an it takes COPS off ,, Or nascar takes cops off or football takes the SIMPSONS off or baseball takes my favorite show off . Or if my $$ runs out ,,Or if its HOT outside or the most thing ill cry about is the same thing all yall cry about ? They had those killer shoes an did not have my SIZE ,,,, :Angry3: boo,,,,,,,,hoo,,,,,

[SherriePall]

I have had my moments. Usually over some silly little thing. Big stuff doesn't bother me.

[Wonderwho]

I was fine till I had some heart problems. After I recovered I found that life is very short and some times the most stupid thing makes me cry. The sun on a dew covered flower or the sadness in my dogs eyes. The sunset in fall with the leaves in the background and just the thought of where we are all going.
Got to go I cant see to type. Love to all. Wonderwho

[Erina]

I am able to feel and I´m using that ability. However, it depends on the situation. Rarely ever cries except on funerals or after extremely funny YouTube vids, I´m rarely frightened except post a course examination, etc. During emotional stress being emotional is more important to me. Does that make sense?

Believe since we all become emotional at different occasions, some might experience it more often than others. Being emotional is a right and especially when you´re having problems you should have the right share those feelings here since it’s a support group.

[Talldrinkofwater]

I'm not overly emotional, but i do bawl my eyes out everytime i watch the movie Serendipity. But it's good tears

[suzy1]

I am able to feel and I´m using that ability. However, it depends on the situation. Rarely ever cries except on funerals or after extremely funny YouTube vids, I´m rarely frightened except post a course examination, etc. During emotional stress being emotional is more important to me. Does that make sense?

Believe since we all become emotional at different occasions, some might experience it more often than others. Being emotional is a right and especially when you´re having problems you should have the right share those feelings here since it’s a support group.

I agree entirely Erina.
It was a light hearted thread but you are right to make this more serious comment.

Thank you,

SUZY

[PaulaAnn]

Well for a lot of years,I kept all my emotions under a tight rein....but now having matured into Paula ,I'm way more open ...if I feel like crying or yelling for joy ,I will ..so be it ....and it makes me feel better....
Paula.

[Daphne Renee]

I do cry sometimes. Maybe not the crying your eyes out sort but I will tear up.. Sad movies, shows, even during a sad part of a book.

[Ally 2112]

As a youngster i was very sensitive i cried quite a bit and got a lot of flack about it .In my ooooolder years not so much although i do tear up some times at a sad movie or news story

[Piora]

I have always been very compassionate and could never follow my parents' strict disciplinary words of "men don't cry". However, it seems that the older I get, the worse I have become. My daughter is as bad as me, and there has been movies where the two of us are beating the hell out of a Kleenex box when some emotional or sad part comes along. A very emotional time for me was when I told my daughter of my CDing. Yep, she cried too.

<sigh> I'm such a blubber-puss! :cry::cry:

[BRANDYJ]

I'm not the least bit ashamed to say I cry. Not at every little thing, but if a situation strikes home with me for any reason. Then my eyes will at least get watery.I cry out of happiness sometimes too. No, it has nothing at all to do with however much I might feel my core values match those of a woman in some ways. I'm glad I can feel someone else's pain or sorrow and cry over it. I'm glad I care that deeply. Of course I'm real happy to cry out of love or joy even more. Some movies like "THE NOTEBOOK" can make me cry too. es, i do like some so called "chick Flicks" Yet I am all man to the world at large. My private time is for my fem side. But again. crying is not related at all.

[Rhona]

That's a good point suzy. It's not just here.....it's everywhere. Time was you'd watch a documentary on TV about something horrifying like a battle in WWII and the old soldiers would clam up if they were too upset to continue. Now people talk and cry at the same time like it's an art form. You watch some talk shows now and it's....'sob, talk.....sob, talk' and half the time they're recalling the day their goldfish died. Phew.....got that out of my system.

[April_Ligeia]

I cry at certain parts of the movie "Dumbo." That's about it, though, lol.

[Sophie_C]

Honestly, it seems there's quite a few people here too caught up in how they were raised to "be a man." Personally, I do it here and there, sometimes at movies or other overtly emotional points in my life. It's natural and human to cry.

[candicd]

I cried when Old Yeller died.

[KellyJameson]

I can be moved to tears by certain pieces of music such as this link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BewknNW2b8Y sung by a homeless Korean boy,
movies, beauty in nature.

It is rare for me to feel sorry for myself so it takes a life shattering event to bring me to tears from personal suffering, my tears seem to be for the shared and universal pain of just trying to survive with dignity and self respect.

[rebekkadg]

People that know me as a guy and only a guy would think that I am not very emotional at all. People that know me well as a guy and only a guy would say that I am pretty emotional but I keep a lot bottled up. People that know me guy and girl know that I am very emotional period. I think I keep too much bottled up as a guy and every once and a while that will slip, but I tend to try to keep it private. When I get in girl mode I let a lot of my defenses down and more slips. Think if I was more often in fem it would settle down a bit but no telling for sure.

I also tend to get myself worked up when I see others being mistreated or people's general well being being dismissed by others. My mother (who doesn't know I CD) has a lot of stories from my childhood where I went overboard trying to look out for others and getting very upset about it while at the same time completely neglecting myself to the extreme in every possible way. She said it was heartwarming, but at the same time extremely frustrating with the levels I would take things. She said the levels I took carrying about others emotionally and through actions while completely neglecting myself to the opposite extreme was simply not normal.

I have also tend to fall into periods of depression several times a year for as long as I can remember. Went to therapists for it through all my teenage years without any real help or progress for it other than a bunch of meds that I suspect ended up doing more harm than good. At this point in my life I just kind of accept that it will happen from time to time and just have to push myself through it for however long it will last. But when it is going on it isn't unusual for me to break down crying and not be able to really tell you why. Or have little things get to me much more than they should.

I am not sure if all this makes me a drama queen. But it is who I am and who I have always been. And yes I can be moved to tears by music and movies :).

[Sheila11]

I cried when I was young if you took my toy.
I cried in high school when the other guy wooed her away from me. She had my heart.
I cried in college when she said yes. 32 years ago.
I cried when Will Ferrel said "I brought you flours", in Stranger Than Fiction".
I cried when I held my grandson and they told me he wears my name.
I cried when I stood in the Elmina slave castle in Africa and felt the grief wrought by injustice.
I cried for the pain and debilitation of cancer as it plays no favorites. My grandma, your mom.

I don't cry over spilled milk or perceived offense. Life is to short and precious for that.

[Laura912]

Going back to the OP, hankies do not come in a box, only tissues. :) Not a drama queen at all. If there is any drama it probably comes out in not nice language, especially if directed at self. Oh, did cry when we euthanized our cat who used to sleep beside me with his paw on my hand, then there were a few Disney movies, and the other cats who had cancer, and the cat we found dead in a neighbors yard, and our parents....oh, heck...typing cancelled due to blurred vision.

[Janelle_C]

I can get very emotional I cry a little a movies that my wife doesn't. I'm also a hugger. But I've always been this way. I'm not over the top but you could get me misty eyed really easy. And I wouldn't want it any other way.

[kellycan27]

Suzy- just to put it in perspective- you've posted 3200 times. That's a lot of communication, talk, support. Some folks her have been scared to talk or open up all their lives. So personally, i don't see any mystery in it. it's different that your outlook- no question, you are awesomely open and evolved for someone who goes against 95-99% of society, i'd take any advice you have with a serious ear. remember not everyone is so lucky or experienced as you... and remember that you are a leader- and people do look up to you for wisdom...

Just my 2 cents.


hugs, Kristi

A leader? Pretty easy to be brave, talk and opine from the safety of a bedroom closet. Shouldn't a leader lead from the front of the pack instead of at the rear? How does one go against society 95-99% while hidden? As the OP stated, I too am not criticizing anyone here. I am just curious.:2c:

[Jeannie]

Only when I see cute little puppy dogs and kittens LOL!! Seriously though I do get emotional when I see the pain and suffering that is going on in this world for no reason other than to make someone powerful or rich. I wish I had millions of dollars to try to fix some that, but I don't. Sorry, I am getting emotional again, but I do mean it from my heart.

[Sara Jessica]

I think there is a certain amount of contrived crying, where it seems forced as an attempt to tap into a perceived forbidden emotion that is typically reserved for women. So if that, along with listening to Shania Twain's "Man I Feel Like A Woman" makes someone fulfilled, then who am I to argue?

But when the tears are real and not contrived in any way, shape or form, the honesty of such tears creates a moment of being that by definition cannot be manufactured. You know if you've ever been there, and I can say from personal experience that the feeling is priceless.

[sonna]

i think some of us get more emotional here because its the only place we can.

[Beverley Sims]

I have been deeply moved by some of the posts here.
Crying is a healthy pastime and you should not let it embarass yourself.

[Marleena]

Today I finally cried a bit after talking about my childhood in another thread. Big boys don't cry, so I guess I'm not one afterall.

[Foxglove]

i think some of us get more emotional here because its the only place we can.

I think this is a good point--as far as TG matters go. It's for sure there's no other place I can get emotional about them. As for other matters, I have been known to get a bit emotional at times.


Today I finally cried a bit after talking about my childhood in another thread. Big boys don't cry, so I guess I'm not one afterall.

And what about big girls, Marleena?

"Big girls don't cry,
Big girls don't cry,
Aye, yie, yie, they don't cry. . ."

There's nothing wrong with crying. It doesn't matter how big you are or what gender you are. If somebody else doesn't like it, too bad for them. Maybe they're repressing something themselves.

Best wishes, Annabelle

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

Not really too emotional, but I do tear up with a good chick flick. I don't think it has anything to do with girl mode or guy mode, I am the same both ways. In girl mode I may be a little less aggressive than I am when presenting as my boy self.

[Piora]

Today I finally cried a bit after talking about my childhood in another thread. Big boys don't cry, so I guess I'm not one afterall.
It's just your compassionate female side shinin' through. There's a lot of us out there, Marleena! :hugs:

[Kaz]

I enjoy crying... it is a release mechanism. It helps to resolve inner turmoil.

But it is not an excuse for avoidance or derogation.

[sometimes_miss]

When deprived of physical affection for a period of time, I tend to become emotionally susceptible to outside events, and it doesn't take much to trigger the tears. I've come to know when it's happening; I've gone so far as to intentionally watch a movie or listen to music that will 'force' the tears, to get that 'out of the way' for a while when I know I have to be in public where I could be exposed to something that might make me cry.