For those who believe in the danger only

[JessHaust]

This post is more of a poll. I don't want to start a war, I know we all have different ideas about this subject, so lets keep it simple and friendly.
If you have no issues going out, please don't post.
But...
If you believe that there is danger associated with going out en femme, leaving the safety of the house, please tell us if you have ever left the house. And if so how many times and to where. Please don't give us the reasons why it's dangerous, we have all seen both sides argued, I just want to know when and where you have may have gone out.
Thanks

[STACY B]

Oh its DANGEROUS alrite ,,, Ya mite come across the BOOGY MAN , Ive been to stores ,Mostly all girl places, Some gas stations, That way no kidds , Or men ,, So now ya know where I go so you stay away an wont run into the BOGGY MAN ,, I wont cuz I am the BOGGY MAN !!!!!

[EllieOPKS]

Gone out in my car - after dark once, drove to & from the lake day time once. Walked campground after dark 5 or 6 times.

[kimdl93]

I have left the confines of my home many times en femme, met my neighbors and gone to the local grocery, starbucks, mall, a couple of restaurants and bars, and traveled cross country from Houston to Minnesota and back. Still, I recognize there are risks and choose my destinations with that in mind.

[Katesback]

The big bad world only scalps and eats trannies on Thursdays. Every other day you are cool. Now if you cant remember what day it is better say inside and hide.

[rebekkadg]

Gone outside in full daylight when I am sure the people who share my duplex aren't at home. Planning some actual trips to stores but investing in a few things first (a better wig, better breastforms, basicly replacing all the accessories I have that are obviously fake to anyone looking at me close up).

[Beverley Sims]

I have been out numerous times and the danger I sense is from school age children and the like that want to stone you to death because they do not understand.

[Anne2345]

The big bad world only scalps and eats trannies on Thursdays. Every other day you are cool.

Really? Are you sure? I thought it was Wednesdays.

As far as going out is concerned, although I still have legitimate issues I must remain cognizant of, I now know and believe it is possible to do so in a safe, positive, and fulfilling manner. Except on Wednesdays. Or is it Thursdays? D'OH!

[Cheryl T]

Of course it's dangerous. But it's only slightly more so dressed than at any other time these days.
I've been going out for 7+ years and have never encountered a dangerous situation.
I've gone to support group meetings, shopping malls, restaurants, movie theaters, and last October my wife and I traveled all over New England on vacation with me en femme the entire week. We went to L.L. Bean and the shops in Freeport, Maine, Ben and Jerry's Ice Cream in Vermont, Acadia National Park in Maine, all through Massachusetts and New Hampshire. Never an issue.
Just use the same common sense about situations that you would any other time and you will be fine. People treated me wonderfully without exception.

[Chickhe]

It sure is! I once broke a nail and almost lost my balance in high heels!

[Aylineira]

Isn't danger one of the original turn-ons about being a CD when we were younger? The thought that you were doing something naughty and to actually go outside?? oooo bad Aylineira.

[sherri]

Per the OP instructions, been out a gazillion times in spite of the real but exaggerated potential for a negative encounter. To clubs, restaurants, retail stores, malls, church, hotels, parties, road trips, parks, sightseeing.

[StephanieDragg]

I go out at least 4-5 times a week and go everywhere, grocery stores, clothing shops, pet supply, hardware store, malls, party stores, bars, restaurants, movie theaters...... etc etc... I have never felt danger at all and everyone has always been extremely nice to me.

[Persephone]

Gone out in my car - after dark once, drove to & from the lake day time once. Walked campground after dark 5 or 6 times.

Wow! That was one of my very first outings many years ago! I used to do some work in a distant city and my spouse would accompany me. We'd stay in a local campground and in winter we'd be the only ones there. So late at night, with her in the motorhome with a CB radio, serving as a spotter in case someone did come along, I'd get dressed in my purple miniskirt and heels and wander around.

Thanks Ellie! You brought back memories!

Hugs,
Persephone.

[Kristyn Hill]

I don't have anything to go out but when I obtain all of the pieces...wow, that will be scary as hell. I do crave to go out and meet other CD/TG'ers at a safe place to hang and have a drink. To see how hot everyone is in person will be too cool. As I lose more weight and become passable, the sky may be the limit.

Kristyn

[Stephanie47]

Discounting Halloween when anything goes, I've limited my enfemme outings to the evenings. Early on I would only take a drive at night. I graduated to parking and walking around briefly. Most recently I moved my outing up into the early evening, BUT, when it was raining. I take walks with an umbrella to shield my face. The last time I actually felt totally bored because I was just walking without any purpose. Maybe I need a dog!

[Alice B]

I'm not the least bit worried. First I am selective in where I go dressed. And second, I can take can of myself.

[~Joanne~]

Not discounting halloween lol I have been out only once. I was full femme and all we did was drive around. It was enough for me to want "more" but haven't done it yet. I also mean to type up a post about it but haven't yet. someday :)

[Sandra1746]

I haven't gone out in a skirt or dress but regularly wear fem tops, andro-slacks, jewelry and my long hair. Sometimes I'll add a bit of nearly-undetectable makeup too. I've got lipstick that matches my lip color that's way better at keeping them moisturized in winter.

That said I've been shopping, to restaurants and just walking around towns and never had a problem. I don't frequent lonely or "seedy" places; never did, so that's not an issue. I like getting out and nobody seems to mind. Just smile and be courteous, that goes a long way.

Hugs,
Sandra1746

[Lorileah]

One time I stepped out of my car and sank 4 inches into the turf. Almost fell over. Another time I tripped on a crack in the walk, luckily I didn't fall then. I have not visited a biker bar yet wearing heels and Daisy Dukes. That should be fairly safe though.

90% of what we fear never happens and the other 10% isn't as and as we thought it would be. I just go out like I own it.

[ninapuella]

I have not left the building yet. :sad:

[Stephenie S]

OK guys. Clue me in.

Danger? What danger might you be talking about?

Embarrassment. Self consciousness. Awkwardness. All those I get, and easily. But danger? Other than the aforementioned tripping on a too high heel or fainting 'cause your new corset is too tight, I'm not sure just what dangers await.

S

[Tracy - new dresser]

Isn't danger one of the original turn-ons about being a CD when we were younger? The thought that you were doing something naughty and to actually go outside?? oooo bad Aylineira.

lol :) i still get that feeling :P

ive drove 20km to town with painted toe nails and bought a mirror. i really dont like my town lol

[Laura912]

Based on the depth of experience of driving to a fast food restaurant....once. No danger except working the accelerator in heels.:)

[Jenna J]

My wifes fear is the ignorant people that we might encounter if and when we go out. She says it is a concern for my safety. My goal this year is to go out, and probably in the twin cities (its close enough to our home), I just need to get my wife to agree. If we do, it probably will be on Halloween.

[Sheila11]

Use the same rules I follow when travelling alone in foreign countries.

Day light is safe light.
Darkness is not my friend.
If you have to be out after dark, familiarize yourself with the surroundings ahead of time. How do I get in and how do I get out.
Do not hang out with stupid.
Stay out of bars. 99% of the stories of misfortune begin with the line, "We were at this bar and.........."

[JessHaust]

Thanks Girls, It seems that the air of fear that sometimes overwhelms this forums is far less than I feared? Keep the stories coming!

[kimdl93]

My wifes fear is the ignorant people that we might encounter if and when we go out. She says it is a concern for my safety. My goal this year is to go out, and probably in the twin cities (its close enough to our home), I just need to get my wife to agree. If we do, it probably will be on Halloween.

The ignorant people aren't as prevalent as your wife might think

[Barbara Ella]

I am keeping my wife comfortable right now, and she is "afraid for me" if something happens. I so not share all the fears, because right now I would never be in a position to be confronted. For the present, I will abide her needs. She is going out of town with daughter this Saturday for an overnight, I may have to do some driving Saturday night, for the first time.

Babes

[sherri]

Isn't danger one of the original turn-ons about being a CD when we were younger? The thought that you were doing something naughty and to actually go outside?? oooo bad Aylineira.Well, there's danger, and then there's danger. One kind is fun, the other is so not.

[Leilani]

Not sure if this is exactly what you mean but there are clear dangers regarding peoples careers and their relationships with friends and family. As has happened recently to one of the members here there is a real risk of such thing as divorce, lack of promotions and excommunication from friends and/or family. As to the risks of getting attacked and beaten, I do not feel those would be very large at all. Society is far more controlled in how they act physically to those that they see as different. The news can make it seem dangerous out there but the sensationalize many things due to the fact that they are fighting each other for ratings and "hey everybody, things are going pretty well lately" does not make a good story.

[Cheryl T]

My wifes fear is the ignorant people that we might encounter if and when we go out. She says it is a concern for my safety.

My wife said the same thing when we started this journey 7 years ago. Part of our agreement was that she would always go with me when I went out. When I asked if it was because she didn't trust me she replied, "No, I just want to be there is something happens. At least I can call 9 1 1 "....
Gotta love the way she thinks...
Only problem was that she didn't have a cell phone and mine would be in my purse...LOL.

[bobbie c]

been out to friendly clubs dancing etc. many times, casino, and i go out everywhere slightly fem... never had any fear or negative issues. i believe the fear we are discussing is more of the internal type.but one must travel at their own speed.........right kate? ummmmm

[daviolin]

I have gone out numerous times en fem. I never had a bad experience. If you talk of danger. Just getting behind the wheel of your car is dangerous. Drab or drag. But if I die in an accident while in drag. Cool, at least I can say I died in a dress. Daviolin

[Paulette]

I go out all of the time dressed and the only time I have felt fear was when I was alone walking down a street where if I was a GG I would have been with a friend. When you get out you notice that there are places a lone woman is seen and then there are times and places where the woman travel in pairs. Now being in a pair does provide safety but it also provides a lot more fun. When you are out with a girl friend (friend as in friend, not romantic friend) you can watch out for one another and you have someone two laugh with. One of the last times I was out my friend actually saved me from getting hit by a car who did not want to stop for mere mortals walking across the street. I have never been afraid while with a friend no matter where we are at. I have been to some real redneck places and still no problems as people expect to see two women together and if there happens to three or four girls hanging out it is even better. I do try to avoid being with more than a couple of CD's at a time though.

[docrobbysherry]

For SOME, YES! For me? NO! Why? Because I sometimes wear a mask out. THAT seems to intimidate most folks!

If it doesn't work, I can always take the mask OFF! Then, they're LAFFING SO HARD, I can walk safely away. Even in 5" heels!

[GBJoker]

Been out dressed only once for a presentation at school for one of my classes. The whole time, I kept wishing for an Eskrima stick or a gun or some sort of weapon.

But my fears aren't from simple CD'ing. CD'ing does make it worse though...

[MsJanessa]

I've been out to bars, nightclubs, shopping malls, walmart and other places--times way too numerous to count---sometimes "passed" sometimes didn't--and it doesn't matter to me--each time I enjoyed myself--only had someone give me a hard time once--so it worked for me.

[Sharon B.]

The only dangerous thing I have notice is I want to do it more often, not out to anybody but I'm sure if I go out enough I will out myself to some people I know. That is the problem with living on the main road everybody has to go past my home and I am sure someone will see a woman getting into or out of my vehicle at one time or another.

[sue1965]

When I first came out to family, friends and neighbors 3 years ago I was scared as hell them seeing me dressed. My next door neighbor at the apartment complex was my savior to this as she seen me dressed and would critique my outfits and put me at ease. I started doing my laundry all dressed up and soon all 7 neighbors had seen me and didn't care in the least that I was dressed up.

[Nichola]

Been out just once, for a drive & a walk in the dark, the hardest part was just getting through the door. I am scared, but I know I'll do it again & hopefully get a bit braver:)

[Linda Stockings]

I used to be able to get out about once or twice per week. I always had a hard time figuring out just where to go. The list is: grocery stores, shopping malls, clothing stores, the post office, the bank, any respectable office building that did not have invasive security, public libraries, large apartment complexes, gas stations, fast food restaurants, and walks around the neighborhood.

[Julie Martin]

Linda, that's my list too. I'm not out much, but impersonating a girl doing normal daily activities is most of the fun for me, and none of that is scary..though it was at first! I'd have no interest in clubs, bars, etc. but if I did I could imagine that safety might be more of an issue depending on the circumstances.

[BRANDYJ]

I used to go out once a month to a local munch for those into BDSM. A very accepting group of people I might add. I used to go with a male friend that knew about my dressing and did not care one way or the other. Even my now ex-wife went with me a few times. I also had been out to a few clubs that were known to be places TG's were very accepting and gathered there. Things changed since I had a nephew that was killed in the line of duty with the local police force. This was about 7 years ago. It made me worry what would happen if I was stopped for a minor traffic offense or blown taillight and his last name being the same as mine and well known to all local law enforcement agency's. That would cause humiliation not only to me, but to my nephew's parents, my brother. So now I no longer go out dressed locally. Now, if I had a local friend that would drive, I'd go since my ID would not be needed in most stops by the police. Other ten a trip down the driveway dressed to either take out the garbage or retrieve mail in the dark of night, I just have not been out in several years.

[sometimes_miss]

Each time, in the dead of night. Took a ride twice, took the garbage out once, went to the car to get something once. I do however sometimes do my laundry where my landlord 'might' catch me, but I can hear if anyone's coming quite easily and have a quick escape route.

[jenfromri]

Trying to get myself out of hotel room today. May take the route someone else did by keeping wigs etc in car. Plus its a biz conference, feel your pain!

[Marleena]

I'm posting a link here about the dangers of being a TG girl out and about. It is written by the Vancouver Police Department. It is NOT to scare anybody.

http://www.transgenderlondon.com/Safety%20for%20the%20TG%20Adult.htm

Now you will notice much of this also applies to GG's.:)

[lingerieLiz]

In the mid 60s I was talking to a cop that patroled in my area. Told him I had seen a guy dressed as a woman walking in the area. He demanded to know when and where. As soon as I said he took off in his squad car to capture that viliian. I did move soon after.

Actually I really haven't had many bad experiences. A couple of times people have tried to embarass me, but who cares. In my younger years I could pass, maybe because CDing wasn't known about. Today age has caught up and no one wants to look at me.