mannerisms

[stephiny10]

Hi to all; I just finished the thread from Zoe about the voice therapy,and the comments from some that since they went full time their voices developed with out trying. This started me thinking about what feminine traits that I've picked naturally without thinking about them. I've been out full for about a month,(and loving every moment) and although I'm far from being polished,I've notice small things that I've started doing,like walking different,or hand and body movements that I never done before,I've even picked up a bad habit of chewing on my bottom lip when I'm thinking just thought I'd ask and see if anyone else has noticed anything about like this happening to them.

[Shapeshiffter]

Hi back. Yes Iv'e started noticing little things about the way I act. I think it's because I don't have to hide or prove to anyone that I'm male anymore. Wish my voice would change tho. Takes a lot of consentration for me to sound fem. Full time for 2 1/2 months now.

Brighid

[Katesback]

Its amayzing how all those little things fall into place on their own isnt it?

[Kristy_K]

Hello Stephiny,

I am going on 7 months into my transition. To me it is like I am growing up and learning also understanding. The more comfortable we are from being ourselves the better woman we can be.

There are new things that we have to learn to deal with that GG's have been learning since being a child. One new one for me was men trying to make small talk with me. That was really a new experience for me.

I myself have not yet got the 100% attitude of a woman totally yet. But I am working on it.

Kristy

[noeleena]

Hi,

Kirsty would you like to expand on the attitude of a woman, that sounds interesting,

...noeleena...

[Kristy_K]

Noeleena, lets see expand on attitude. Lets see if I can explain this. I have to remind myself at times I am a woman now. With 100% attitude of a woman in my opinion you would not have to remind yourself or coach yourself towards being the woman you want to be.. There just wouldn't be any doubts about it about being a woman. Just like with the other things in transitioning on how they just start to become natural and normal for you and part of everyday life.

Kristy

[stephiny10]

Kristy,I know what you mean by "attitude"when I talk with people that I know well,I've got to keep reminding myself to watch my language and joke telling and do them "lady like".

[Kaitlyn Michele]

You will find over time the less you think about it, the better you are..

It's like playing an instrument or a sport...you can't do it really well if you are thinking about it..

Your goals in your appearance and manners are totally personal. I have known a number of women that have unrealistic goals that have more to do with being stuck as a man for so long, and building an ideal "feminine" woman up in your mind..

i was surprised to learn this in my transition...i thought i would change much more...i'm much more woman than i ever thought i'd be, but kept many of my masculine habits and likes/dislikes/mannerisms...

[stephiny10]

Kaitlyn, I agree with you,and maybe that's part of what my transition shows me that I really do have much more feminine ways in me then I ever thought I did. I haven't really set any goals except to try to look and blend in with society as natural as I can

[Anna Lorree]

I'm not out to most of the world, but I have noticed changes. Mostly in hand gestures and how I sit, lean and stand. This actually poses a bit of an issue for me, as people have noticed my more effeminate nature.

Anna

[Melody Moore]

Prior to transition I use to think about how I would go about developing female mannerisms, but didn't really take
into account the fact that I had been exposed to female mannerisms all my life. When I first stepped out the door
I was conscience of the the fact I had to adopt a feminine walk and body language and was already fully aware of
which characteristics to really avoid, but I found female mannerisms just came naturally the more I just accepted
my true self. So it wasn't something I never had to really to be conscientious about or study, it was something I
just had to embrace. All of my closet friends who knew me pre-transition have said how they are amazed about
this aspect of my transition & now find it difficult to see the male in me anymore.

Another fact that was pointed out to me by a speech pathologist is that verbal communication only plays 7%
in our overall methods of communication, body language plays the biggest part in how other people will see us.

[Pamela Kay]

I'm not out to most of the world, but I have noticed changes. Mostly in hand gestures and how I sit, lean and stand. This actually poses a bit of an issue for me, as people have noticed my more effeminate nature.

Anna

I can relate with Anna. I'm not out to most of the world yet either but I have noticed my mannerisms have become more feminine. Most of it can be attributed to just being me and doing what comes natural instead of what I was supposed to do because I wasn't acting manly enough.

HRT has helped too and I am seeing myself for the woman I am in the mirror now instead of the man I was told I was supposed be.

[Bree-asaurus]

Just be yourself and it will all fall into place.

[sandra-leigh]

Early on, one of the first times my wife saw me in a dress and interacting with other people, one of the things that bothered her was how much my hand movement changed.

This last year especially, I have not been outside much as a "female", even though I am always out as transgender. I haven't paid attention to my mannerisms.

(It's odd: the HRT dampened my dysphoria way way down, which is good for my peace of mind. On the other hand, the dysphoria was in a sense "useful", in that it got me out more and "projecting" as female more. I would say that I haven't learned much about being "female" in the last year. At least not that I'm aware of. Gotten more comfortable in my own skin, yes.)

[Rachel Smith]

Prior to transition I use to think about how I would go about developing female mannerisms, but didn't really take
into account the fact that I had been exposed to female mannerisms all my life. When I first stepped out the door
I was conscience of the the fact I had to adopt a feminine walk and body language and was already fully aware of
which characteristics to really avoid, but I found female mannerisms just came naturally the more I just accepted
my true self. So it wasn't something I never had to really to be conscientious about or study, it was something I
just had to embrace. All of my closet friends who knew me pre-transition have said how they are amazed about
this aspect of my transition & now find it difficult to see the male in me anymore.

Another fact that was pointed out to me by a speech pathologist is that verbal communication only plays 7%
in our overall methods of communication, body language plays the biggest part in how other people will see us.

Although I've not transtioned I do spend all but my working hours dressed. I'm with Melody on this the only part I have to be really consicous of is the walk. All the rest were already there. All I had to do was be me.

Love Rachel

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Kaitlyn, I agree with you,and maybe that's part of what my transition shows me that I really do have much more feminine ways in me then I ever thought I did. I haven't really set any goals except to try to look and blend in with society as natural as I can

Exactly...what you will find is that the details around each little trait or expression will drift out of your mind, and you'll just be a confident in yourself... this cannot really happen until you do it all day, every day after day ..

Gosh i remember how long i shopped 20 groceries at a time because i didn't want a human checking me out, and how i would panic when the machine said.."please wait...a sales assistant will be here shortly"...i'd think of running away!!

the aha moment is when you think about all the detailed stuff (voice, gait, mannerisms, etc) and think..."i havent thought about it for 4 days!!!!"....that's when you know you are there..its a great feeling.

[RenneB]

I could spend hours going over the mannerisms that I have picked up. Although, I must say that the gg mannerisms are not always used by ggs. Like the one about gettin into a car. I've noticed that most will sit in the car and spin their legs in. So that's how I do it. Only I do it that way now all the time. There's actually a little bit of safety thought into this one as most GMs will through one leg in then the butt then follow with the other leg. That leaves you in a precarious position if your footing is in anyway unstable.

Another little mannerism is how ggs look at their finger nails. Most guys will turn palms up and then curl their fingers in to look at their nails. While ggs will go palms down stretch out their arm and extend their fingers...

That's two of 'bout a gazillion and I'm still learning.....

Renne.....

[ArleneRaquel]

As long as I remember I've talked with my hands and arms, since I've gone 24/7 my mannerism have increased, including the way that I look at my nails.