cdkateinboston
04-01-2012, 09:25 PM
Ok so in order to keep this post from rambling, I will leave some details out of this story, but I wanted to see if any other girls have run into this when first telling a girl that you had a feminine side you like to express. So I had a friend that I started hanging out with again after a decade of not seeing each other. She brought me to my first gay pride parade and was open about her bisexuality (had told friends/parents/even me shortly after we started hanging out again). I eventually told her about my feminine side and although nervous, started bringing my things over to her place to dress together. Turns out I knew more about things like makeup then she did, and we shared knowledge together. It was good fun but more was sort of developing between us and it started seeming like it was moving towards a relationship.
But thats when the unexpected happened. Now, I believe a lot of us girls want to tell our SO's not only because we want them to experience and know the whole us, but also because we want to use their knowledge and experience to improve our feminine personality. So in a sense, we use our SO (not using the term "used" in the bad deceitful way) to further our feminine side in some way or another, and usually we are used to hearing that the SO has to go through a period of adjustment.
Well that is not what happened with this scenario. It was obvious that she enjoyed hanging out with and fooling around with my feminine side and when I was in male mode it became more and more awkward. And then it donned on me that instead of me using her, she was using me to help with her coming to terms that she was a lesbian (while she hasn't come to that conclusion, myself and her close friends gay and straight all feel the same way). So it was weird, here I was, with a girl who was far more into my feminine side then my male side! And while on the one hand it was awesome, I also do enjoy my male personality as well and it felt like she was trying to bury that so she could be with Kaite all the time.
Long story short, we are still friends but that is where it stops. It wasn't right for me to be with someone who was looking for something that I wasn't (completely any way). I was just wondering if any other girls here have experienced something like this? Having hoped to find a girl in your life that opens up something new and exciting in you and your feminine side, only to be the one that opens up something more in your SO's side that they maybe never expected?
Anyways, I hope all you girls are well!
But thats when the unexpected happened. Now, I believe a lot of us girls want to tell our SO's not only because we want them to experience and know the whole us, but also because we want to use their knowledge and experience to improve our feminine personality. So in a sense, we use our SO (not using the term "used" in the bad deceitful way) to further our feminine side in some way or another, and usually we are used to hearing that the SO has to go through a period of adjustment.
Well that is not what happened with this scenario. It was obvious that she enjoyed hanging out with and fooling around with my feminine side and when I was in male mode it became more and more awkward. And then it donned on me that instead of me using her, she was using me to help with her coming to terms that she was a lesbian (while she hasn't come to that conclusion, myself and her close friends gay and straight all feel the same way). So it was weird, here I was, with a girl who was far more into my feminine side then my male side! And while on the one hand it was awesome, I also do enjoy my male personality as well and it felt like she was trying to bury that so she could be with Kaite all the time.
Long story short, we are still friends but that is where it stops. It wasn't right for me to be with someone who was looking for something that I wasn't (completely any way). I was just wondering if any other girls here have experienced something like this? Having hoped to find a girl in your life that opens up something new and exciting in you and your feminine side, only to be the one that opens up something more in your SO's side that they maybe never expected?
Anyways, I hope all you girls are well!